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Sorry Mike, I dont think she see's you as a potential date AT ALL at this point.
I'm in my 40's, and if I just moved into the area, I would have been doing exactly what she's doing now. That is, thinking of you as a cool, young, helpful neighbour.
Anyway, I think you should ask her out before you get too friendly, as then it will be awkward. And make it known its a date. Cos at this stage, I would go out to dinner with you as a friendly neighbour too! You could even say something like "I dont want to cause any awkwardness between us, but I would love to take you out on a date." She should be honest with you and either say a) yes, b) Its too awkward to date neighbours, lets remain friends or c) I've just split up from xyz and am enjoying my singledom/new home/new job right now.........
Good luck :flowerforyou:
Agree completely Anna!!! Great way to ask her out0 -
Us 40+ gals are on the same page here, I see.Sorry Mike, I dont think she see's you as a potential date AT ALL at this point.
I'm in my 40's, and if I just moved into the area, I would have been doing exactly what she's doing now. That is, thinking of you as a cool, young, helpful neighbour.
Also, she has the children to think of. I really dont think she's just going to pick up with the first young dude that shows an interest in her. I think we've talked about your attraction to older women before, and the lack of trust older women have in younger men? We just think you're after a shag!!
Anyway, I think you should ask her out before you get too friendly, as then it will be awkward. And make it known its a date. Cos at this stage, I would go out to dinner with you as a friendly neighbour too! You could even say something like "I dont want to cause any awkwardness between us, but I would love to take you out on a date." She should be honest with you and either say a) yes, b) Its too awkward to date neighbours, lets remain friends or c) I've just split up from xyz and am enjoying my singledom/new home/new job right now.........
Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
*** UPDATE ***
I think I've made a slight progress on Gilda tonight. I came home from the gym around 8:30 and I saw that I got a text from Gilda.. "Can you come over tonight and help me hang a couple more paintings
" So naturally, I said "absolutely, I'll be there in 5".
I go over there and greet her with a nice hug, a kiss on the cheek, and a slight rub on her side. She smiles and invited me in. I thought it would have been just her and I, but it was her, myself, and Armondo (her nephew who lives with her). When I got there, we smalled talked for a few minutes then hung 4 of her paintings. Afterwards, the three of us were just b.s.'ing, having a beer in her kitchen, and having a nice time. I did sense a little subtle flirting going on between her and I. Just like a lot of hand contact when she would hand me the hammer or the beer. There was some skin contact when we were making sure the paintings were straight, etc. It was very minimal, but I'll take it at this stage.
Armondo went out for a smoke and this gave us a few minutes to talk a little more intimately. It was just a little more of the same, she opened up a bit more about her divorce, kids, family, and what she wants to accomplish over the next couple of months (mainly travel back to PR to visit family). She asked if I was on Facebook, I said yes, she whipped out her iPhone and added me right on the spot. (good sign?).
After about 2.5 hours at her house, I told her it was getting late and I had to leave. I know that her sister is coming into town this weekend and she'll be staying with a friend in Miami for the weekend. I told her to shoot me a text tomorrow and maybe when her sister comes into town, she can swing by for a glass of wine or two. She said yes. We ended the night the same way it started.. a hug, a kiss on the cheek, and a slight rub on her side.
I have the gut feeling that I made some progress with her tonight. I felt a more flirty vibe and a slight sexual tension in the air. I wasn't able to get her alone to ask her out, but I'm actually really enjoying the slow pace on how this is going. Honestly, the slow pace of things is making me want her more and more. We text every couple of days, we hang out, and we have really good conversations. She is the type of girl I can totally talk to all night (as cheesy as that sounds).
So, I'm expecting her and her sister to stop by tomorrow after work for a glass of wine. Then who knows..0 -
She asked if I was on Facebook, I said yes, she whipped out her iPhone and added me right on the spot. (good sign?).
This isn't a sign at all other then another way to contact you. Lately if I know someone and have talked to them more then twice one of us is usually adding the other to their facebook friend list. Girls and guys.
I am sorry to say but I really think you are being friendzoned/handymaned. She is only contacting you when she needs some help. Next time you see her you need to ask her on a date otherwise you will become like the cartoons in the "nice guys finish last"/Jenna Marbles topic.0 -
She asked if I was on Facebook, I said yes, she whipped out her iPhone and added me right on the spot. (good sign?).
This isn't a sign at all other then another way to contact you. Lately if I know someone and have talked to them more then twice one of us is usually adding the other to their facebook friend list. Girls and guys.
I am sorry to say but I really think you are being friendzoned/handymaned. She is only contacting you when she needs some help. Next time you see her you need to ask her on a date otherwise you will become like the cartoons in the "nice guys finish last"/Jenna Marbles topic.
That is the feeling I'm getting too. And lol to "getting handymanned."0 -
I felt a more flirty vibe and a slight sexual tension in the air.
As we've said on another thread, women flirt WITHOUT intent!! I've been flirty with my young neighbour for years!!! We blow kisses at each other and all sorts......lol :happy:
ASK HER ON A DATE!! :flowerforyou:0 -
ASK HER ON A DATE!! :flowerforyou:
This. Better yet, run your fingers through her hair and if she's receptive to that, kiss her! That should clear up uncertainties.0 -
You need to be alone with her to ask her out? The PERFECT time would have been at the end of the night after you said you had to go. She is now probably thinking you aren't into her and you will soon get friendzoned. Just mention how there's a new restaurant in town that you've been wanting to check out and see if she wants to go with you. Or next time instead of kissing her on the cheek, kiss her on the lips. If she turns her head, she's not into you like that, and you can move on. Grow some cajones!0
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How you see yourself.....
How she sees you.....
End result....
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And I thought I read too much into things. She seems like the flirty type, like me and I can say if she is only having you come over to hang paintings, you are being put in a friend zone.
The only way to correct this would be to stop doing this for her and ASK her out otherwise you will never get what you want and just pine over her when she starts dating the guy that actually asked her out.
Didn't someone post that Jenna Marbles blog yesterday about Nice guys do not finish last- follow that advice.0 -
Armondo went out for a smoke and this gave us a few minutes to talk a little more intimately. It was just a little more of the same,
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I wasn't able to get her alone to ask her out.
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