Menopausal Mad Hatters Chatter Monday, Aug 27th
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Kathy, my 5k is on Sept. 29 in Portland, OR. It's a color run. I am so excited! I won't be able to run the whole thing, but I will do as much as I can
This is my first...of hopefully many. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other... 0 -
Kathy, my 5k is on Sept. 29 in Portland, OR. It's a color run. I am so excited! I won't be able to run the whole thing, but I will do as much as I can This is my first...of hopefully many. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other...
Have fun! You are doing great!!! I will be there cheering for you in spirit.0 -
Morning!
TA: thank you so much for popping in to let us know... i was indeed watching and saw it last nite when I got home from work.. phew!!
Bis: LOVED your IPOM lol... and absolutely have you to thank for the slogging!!! Was too funny really as I was thinking of you when I would go to start each round!
T2: I think I accidentally put my reply to your last post ABOVE your tag line lol.... so in case it got missed .. loved it!
IT's a holiday weekend here, but alas not for me - but that's okay cause there's lots less traffic going in to work on a weekend heehee
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To all the ladies who have been visited by that horrid Isaac I am relieved that most of its wrath is finished, good luck with any cleanup and those standard hurricane things like power outages, trees down, etc. seems every time we are threatened with a hurricanes my skinny H decides we need to eat the contents of our freezer "just in case". So hopefully there is no ice cream in your freezer that needs to be rescued!
M in law still in hospital without a def diagnosis, she will go to rehab when her oxygen stabilizes, Then we will need to figure out living arrangements for her and F in L with dementia, they can't be alone. But I recognize that my failing to take care of my health won't help any of us. BUT for the next few days H is on his own, as I am headed to a family wedding, which brings other challenges, I can't keep up with celebratory drinking!
So I brought my workout clothes and will do my own body pump to the Hatter tunes,
Have a healthy and safe weekend! Janet0 -
While I haven't been on here much I have kept all of the Mad Hatter's in my thoughts and prayers. This has been a difficult week for me personally. I haven't been affected by Isaac and feel badly for those that have. I have been affected by the move in by daughter and her husband and am ashamed to say that I let it affect my eating habits as well as my frame of mind.
I have a plan to get back on track Tuesday September 4, 2012. This seems like the most logical choice since we have a long weekend coming up and I still basically have no living/dining or kitchen space. I was so worried about how this would affect my daughter (she's more than a little OCD) that I didn't think about myself. Last night I had a breakdown and stayed in my room and just cried. With the gain of a few pounds and all of the chaos I just lost it.
I am not sure that many of you know but my step-son has been at the Mayo Clinic for the past week. He has been previously diagnosed with mitochondrial myopathy, hema gammaglobulina anemia, and needs to have his spleen removed next week. The trip this time was to get a determination on treatment and to have a few more tests run for other issues he is having. The vacation that we took at the first of the month could be his last with the majority of his mobility. It was a sad reality for all of us and we are praying that we have a few more years before that happens.
Not that any of this is an excuse but it is much of the reason behind my poor choices the last two weeks and by my putting it in writing I can come to terms with all of it. Thank you so much for just letting me put it out there and getting it off my chest. I have found that this group is the best for listening and understanding as well as being compassionate.
Thank you all and I hope you all have a great long holiday weekend!0 -
No, I'm not dead. And no I did not gain 50 lbs and get my MFP membership revoked. But like a lot of you (I have been reading your posts even if I haven't been replying), life has intervened and made jumping on the 'puter (as Snooozie would say) difficult.
For those of you who helped me through my vacation, I thank you, truly. Something about being with my family 24/7 (compounded by my husband's desire to be bike buddies and his lack of understanding about how hard weight loss truly is), made the week really challenging. I brought my scale with me, which I know some would think is over kill or obsessive, but in the past I've gained weight because I was unable (or perhaps unwilling), to be honest about what I put in my mouth while away. Coming home with a weight gain could have potentially sent me down the fat river, so I opted to sneak it into my suitcase :ohwell: Fast forward to getting home, and well, I just lost it. I had put so much energy into trying to be "good" on vacation, that I came home and ate everything and then some. I would do it for a day, than get back on track, only to do it again a few days later. When I read Janet's blog, I was so "there" with her. Janet you made SO MANY great points and things I will think about a lot (I especially liked the one about throwing out food...you are so right!). The one thing I did (also in Janet's blog post) was continued to exercise. So in the end, although I didn't lose any weight, I'm exactly where I was before I left. I consider this a huge victory (a definite IPOM), because it's shown me I can fall off the wagon and get back on (instead of riding it all the way to I can't button my pants anymore/how did this happen)!
In the meantime, my 16 year old is giving us a run for our money. We were very lucky with our daughter who wasn't really interested in drinking in HS, but this guy...OMG. I feel like I'm in the CIA, always checking his stories, smelling his breath and not trusting him. He doesn't seem to be able to just have a couple of beers...we get phone calls from his friends "I think you need to come and get him" because he's passed out. Then he's grounded (which makes for a lovely scene at home as he tortures his younger brother because he's trapped in the house). Grounding is lifted, scenario repeated. Ugh. He's playing football, but didn't really put any time in during the off season and for the first time in his life isn't starting (which makes him pissed off and us just sad).
Now we're having issues with my daughter who's in college 6.5 hours away. She isn't feeling well, it seems to be getting worse, and we can't figure out what's going on. She had 9 tubes of blood drawn on Wednesday and so far all the results are normal. The situation is compounded, because she's the kind of kid that feels everything in her body (to an extremely annoying degree), so I don't know if she's REALLY sick or not. She's missing classes (which she NEVER does), so we're hopeful something will come out in the tests that are still pending.
And than my poor youngest son, who always has a smile on his face, made the JV soccer team as a freshman and I'm finally making it to one of his scrimmages (an hour an half away today on the Friday before Labor Day, which means it will take me 3 hours to get home as I fight the traffic coming down to the beach). The poor kid just doesn't get the attention he deserves (maybe that's why third borns are so easy going?)
My dear husband, who really is a great guy is an attorney. So his way of dealing with all of this is through constant questioning, cross-examination and "discussion", which inevitably turns into an argument.
And there you have it. I know as lives go, I'm incredibly lucky. But right now, I'm a combination of nervous, anxious and angry...and my drug of choice (food, duh!) is not an option. So I'm trying to muddle through without stuffing my face.
I know this is really long, and has more information than you're probably interested in. But you're my hatters, and I know you'll read it and be supportive anyway!
Snooozie, thanks for your messages and staying it touch, you really are a special friend. Glad your eyeball is in the home stretch
Leslye, so sorry about ALL you're going through. It makes my issues seem really insignificant. Hang in there, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have to admit, I pictured a race with the oxygen tank guy and Snooozie's goose....
Carol, in Cape May again, and again, no phone call, no coffee, lol. Enjoy!!
Janet, thanks again for your heartfelt and honest posts. Congratulations on getting back on track, we both know that that in itself is a HUGE victory!
Gail, thanks for your support, it couldn't have come at a better time. Truly, you will never know.
Tonya, I wish I could give you a hug. I'm so sorry to hear about the health issues your step son is having, please keep us posted. It is unfortunate that as moms we have a tendency to put the needs of everyone else ahead of our own. When my kids were born, my mom came to take care of me so I could take care of my babies. From here on out, I'M going to take care of me, so I can take care of them (or maybe they should just take care of their own damn selves, lol)
And Janet, when I read about your husband and the freezer, I laughed out loud. Thanks 0 -
Morning Hatters, and happy Labor Day Weekend!!
Just going to get my coffee and come back to do some replies (so wanted to do it yesterday but ran out of time before I had to go into work).
Know its a holiday weekend for many (but not me :sad: ) but hope everyone enjoys (I get to see the airshow from work so not really suffering too much lol) but in case there are any other Hatters about as well... my mantra for the weekend is gonna be the good old stand by "Don't give up what you want the most... for what you want now". Hoping it will keep me from straying should the urge rear its ugly little head!
I want caffeine now.... lol but I don't have to give up what I want the most to have it.. so be right back!0 -
HSH: I’m thinking as I type this you’re either getting ready for the wedding, or sweating to the hatter tunes with the body pump on the morning after LOL!!
Tonya: first off.. big hugs.. we knew of course about the huge stress with the changes from the kids moving back in.. but when I read about your s/son’s illness too.. well I almost locked myself in my room and cried for ya!! (actually I find the occasional meltdown with a box of Kleenex and a good wail does me a world of good)… I can’t even imagine the stress you’ve been under, but it’s completely understandable that you’ve been focusing on everyone else instead of yourself… you ARE a woman.. it’s what we do in times of need.. I honestly think we’re hard wired that way which is why so many of us end up at this stage with weight and health issues. You have NO reason to be ashamed at all about not having time to focus on your food, so any lingering thoughts about it.. banish them forever my friend.. you did what you had to do (and still have going on) and when you can, you will start taking care of yourself again.. I love your plan to have a scheduled return to doing just that… shows just how far you’ve come sweetie.. I don’t know about you but I’ve sworn to change before, and then completely thrown in the towel about a hundred.. or maybe a thousand times… but you DIDN’T! and I’m SO proud of you… because that’s the whole purpose of what we’re doing now.. learning that bumps in the road aren’t going to deter us or set us back.. they just “are” and will be there because life.. happens… and its all about knowing when those moments come… they might block our path for a while, but they won’t knock us off it this time.. huge huge hugs Tonya.. and know we’re always here for you!
Merobi: you too are dealing with so much of “life happens” stuff right now.. wow.. and the fact that you managed to keep exercising too.. absolutely claim your IPOM woman!!! And a big IPOU TOO!! And added in the trubbles with the kids.. I’m guessing nervous, angry and anxious are only the top 3 of all the emotions your feeling right now!!! I hope they can figure things out with your daughter soon.. and you’re so right.. we take care of everyone else.. but the only one who takes care of us.. is us… so I was very glad to see you’re putting yourself on the front burner for a little while now.. as a good friend of mine said to her husband when he whined that he was feeling like he was on the “bottom rung” of the ladder when it came to her time and attention….. “well, at least you’re ON the ladder.. I’m on the ground!!”
This is a tough time for many of our Hatters with life issues… so just want you all to know your willingness to share your struggles and fears as well as your success throughout everything.. well the strength and courage you all have inspires me every day.
And every day.. you prove my theory.. that women.. excel at "hard". :flowerforyou: Stay strong my friends!0 -
Hello to all! I know I'm going to miss a comment to somebody. Please forgive me if I do.
Tonya - I've been in a similar situation. I was worried about you since you told us about this situation. Someone told me that the Chinese symbol for trouble is two grown women under the same roof. It's funny now. Wasn't then. Feelin' your pain.
To everyone in Isaac's path - prayers are with you. My daughter went to Katrina clean-ups seven times in four years while she was in college. She was in Pearlington, Waveland, Gulfport - all around the area. She's waiting to hear about clean-up efforts so that she can go again. I'm sure there are lots of people waiting for the word so that they can help.
Snoozie - I've been *pimping* the Hatters group to new members. We'll see if it works. Thanks for keeping it going.
For those dealing with teenage terrors - My wild child turned 26 this week. I remember the pediatrician predicting that she would be a handful until "development of the amygdala in the frontal cortex of the brain where decision-making occurs - around age 25". I burst into tears CERTAIN I'd never make it, even if she did. She's 26 and he was right. We all made it through, Thank God!
Have a great weekend!
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To my Ladies (as I refer to the group when talking with my husband)
Such a tough time for so many of our ladies and so many revelations shared. One could look at these and think of the post as negative. While it makes my heart sad for what each of you are going through, it makes me very proud that we become a group where we feel COMFORTABLE enough that we can share and unload whatever is needed. I believe having a safe place to do just that helps both the poster and the reader since the post always contains something that I myself can relate to.
Well we have no more garden since Issac found it necessary to take every thing down, but we were already planning on clearing out summer remainder and getting started with winter crops so no worries.
Feeling blah today. Want to be out doing something and like so many rural areas there isn't so I am missing Seattle
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Good Morning Ladies,
I am getting on here before my day really starts. I thank each of you for your kind words and thoughts. I am trying really hard to get all of this messy house organized this weekend so I can get back on track. I even went to the grocery store yesterday and restocked! That was a necessary thing
Update on Stepson is appt Wednesday with Mito specialist here and on Thursday consult and schedule his spleenectomy. While removing his spleen they will also be taking out a few lymph nodes as now they are going to check for lymphoma. These last tests at Mayo have determined a lot of these things. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers. It is an eight week recovery from this surgery and he is not one to sit still long. Oops, better keep Michel (his wife) in them too cause she will have to put up with him more than any of us!
TA- I understand about rural nothingness..Hopefully things will clear up soon.
Kobie/Cheryl- Things are ok really I am just frustrated by the amount of CRAP that Rick and I have accumulated over the years and with Cassie, quitting and starting a new job in the same week we moved them it hasn't been the most pleasant thing for any of us. I think maybe I had higher expectations of when this all would be done than I should have.
Snoozie- Thank you for being my biggest Cheerleader and for understanding. You make my day with your posts
MeRobi- Sons have a way of doing some crazy things. I remember when mine grew a foot over the summer and though he was big enough to punch me. I had to look up at him but I told him "go ahead hit me, you will knock me down and it will hurt, but YOU have to go to sleep sometime and when you do I will be there"..lol never again did he pull that crap. You are in my prayers during this difficult time.
I know there are others that I have missed but I have got to get busy before everyone gets up. If I don't then I won't get anything done I think is important.
Have a wonderful day my Ladies..(I love that TA) and thanks again for just listening.0 -
I'm back - safe and sound...had a blast!
Even saw dolphins in the ocean! Wow!...
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cbmc= Dolphins are a wonderful thing. I love them and even have a tattoo on my shoulder of one. It's the first I ever had and it has a lot of meaning. I also have one on my right foot that is the body of a lady bug (good luck) and the wings of a butterfly. My daughter has the same one except in a different color. The lady bug is for all of the cancer victims we love and the butterfly wings are for all that we know that survived. I am so glad you enjoyed your time away0
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welcome back cb! glad you had such a good time!
T2: just saw the thread you started for newbies - what a great idea!! I see we have a couple of new members... welcome ladies.. lovely to have you with us... you can catch up on each weeks threads from the MMH group site (they're all dated) if you want .. or just jump in now and feel free to post at will or just lurk for a little way to see if ya like us LOL... i'll be starting a new thread for tomorrow after this..
I have to say now that I'm back at work.. i would just like to APPLAUD every single one of you who have ANYONE else to take care of (family wise) and you still manage to log and post... I had been on vacation for so long that it was pretty easy for me.. and i only have ME to look after! So i'd just like to tilt my hat to all of ya....
Very tired tonite, I had logged in what I had planned to take for lunch.. but in the end ended up changing it so I had to go delete it all ... thought it would be a time saver but alas... best laid plans LOL... oh well..
and.. i'd just like to say.. I had a COMPLETE mentlepause moment today.. i probably shouldnt share it.. but i swear.. i got showered for work and put on my...er.. undergarments, then put on my jeans and threw a shirt in the dryer to de wrinkle it a bit.. so i was running around with just my squeaky bra on top (remember I live alone.. no one to see me cept the dust bunnies lol..and yes the blinds were closed!) so I packed up my lunch then went and dried my hair and what not... blah blah..put all my stuff in my lunch bag, slipped my sandals on, grabbed my purse and keys, and headed for the door - flipped the lock, yanked it open..
and yup.. realized i had totally forgotten to go put my shirt on!!!! Thankfully as I'm in a condo, there was no one in the hallway... but I could NOT believe I almost walked out shirtless.... lord love a duck....
I'm blaming menopause!!!!!!!!!
Hope everyone is enjoying the long weekend.....and is clothed appropriately :laugh:
I'm off to start a new thread for Monday!0 -
Just came to log those last snacks of the day :grumble: Didn't do bad but have been in snack mood today. Food food didn't taste good and I choose to not make myself eat lunch since I have learned even if I do I end up still eating what I want for snacking usually anyway. I stayed within my numbers though so I am happy with that.
Oh Snoozie I love it !!!!!!!!!!!!! I laughed out loud on this one. I really thought I was the only one that did such crazy things and now I have a Hatter sister that does the same. I so needed that.
Praying for all our stragglers, you are all in my thoughts may your storms soon past.0 -
OMG Snoozie, I have done that so many times it's not funny. I make it all the way downstairs and open the basement door, feel the sunshine on my skin and think WTH...lmao thank you so much for sharing!0
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:laugh: :laugh: thanks Tonya!! I feel much better knowing I'm not alone :laugh: :laugh:0
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