Why are you a Single Peep?
pa_jorg
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Not why are you single, but rather why do you find yourself coming back again and again to the Single Peeps board? Curious what the draw for some is.
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1.) To waste time that could otherwise be used on productive endeavors.
2.) To possibly meet a hot single peep-ette.0 -
Quality discussions. I think that should be the focus.0
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Hm, great question, PJ! I actually found and joined Single Peeps because of a guy I saw on the main forums so yes, I followed a guy in, haha....silly, huh?
What keeps me coming back are reading everyone's thoughts. I am good with making decisions, but I like to self-reflect a lot, so reading others thoughts gives me new things to consider.
Also, joining Single Peeps got me out of my shell a lot comparatively. I've been on 3 dates in a little over 3 months... not much for most, but I hadn't been on a date in a LONG time before this. Reading everyone's ideas and encouragement gave me the courage to do the same...
I know it's easy to be a time waster, but there are a lot of great people on here all striving to be better at whatever their focus area is... I agree with Chris, it would be great to meet someone from Single Peeps :bigsmile:0 -
Originally, it was because a guy I liked was very into this forum. Then, my focus shifted into learning what other people thought so maybe I'd get some clues about what I'm doing wrong (why I spent the last two years pining away for 2 guy friends who never cared like that for me). And of course, there used to be a lot of really great guys here whose attention I was hoping to snag, lol!
I was actually going to drop off the group for a bit, because the atmosphere has changed too much for my liking....but then I met this guy and wanted to see what people thought about different scenarios he and I found ourselves in.
From here on out, though, I probably won't be around much. Forums/groups ebb and flow and group personalities change. It seems like we are getting more people starting to be active so I'm not saying that to be negative. It's just that free time is at a premium, and I like to stay focused on things that are fun, positive, and encouraging.0 -
Because I like to read others experience and share mine. I have been on forums a lot and the drama doesn't scare or affect me. I just ignore it.0
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Good question PJ :flowerforyou:
Just thinking about it now:
I think primarily to make friends.
To fill the void of lonely nights.
To learn, from different POV and cultures.
To get a different spin on things.
There arent any 40+ guys in the UK on here, so defo. not to pull!! :laugh:0 -
I have fun here. I like the conversations and the way people have very different views.0
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I like the people
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1.) To waste time that could otherwise be used on productive endeavors.
2.) To possibly meet a hot single peep-ette.
Lol ...Peep-ette... LOL...0 -
I like open,honest and respectful discussion about how we all see things.
I have leaned a lot about how ladies react to issues and have gained an understanding of how I need to be in areas I had no idea about before.0 -
Dammit, apparently the correct answer is "stimulating discourse".
Can I put that as my #1 or would you all know I was pandering at this point? 0 -
I like open,honest and respectful discussion about how we all see things.
I have leaned a lot about how ladies react to issues and have gained an understanding of how I need to be in areas I had no idea about before.
Switch out ladies for guys and this is right on.0 -
I like open,honest and respectful discussion about how we all see things.
I have leaned a lot about how ladies react to issues and have gained an understanding of how I need to be in areas I had no idea about before.
Switch out ladies for guys and this is right on.
Only if you spell learned right.0 -
I like open,honest and respectful discussion about how we all see things.
I have leaned a lot about how ladies react to issues and have gained an understanding of how I need to be in areas I had no idea about before.
Switch out ladies for guys and this is right on.
Only if you spell learned right.
Hahahah didn't even notice!0 -
Dammit, apparently the correct answer is "stimulating discourse".
Can I put that as my #1 or would you all know I was pandering at this point?
Depends, what are you referring to when it comes to "stimulating discourse"? Hahaa
In my case, I followed some cute guy on here but then I actually posted. I said I was a lurker because people tend to not like the things I say and I was told to go for it. Obviously, I have. Probably the best thing I've done on MFP because while I don't have fans, a lot of people have come out of the woodwork and friend requested me in a show of support and agreement.
As time went on fewer and fewer people have added "I don't usually agree with Kitsune, but..." whenever the find themselves agreeing with me. So while I have considered leaving the group several times the fact that I speak up loudly and it's appreciated is what is keeping me here. That and I learned years ago not to back down to bullies because the only thing they understand is force.
So yeah, the conversation, hahahaa!
Also I like flirting with the cute men.0 -
This is embarassing.... :blushing: I didn't have a MFP crush or some other awesome reason I joined. Mine's actually kinda silly. I started lurking and eventually joining this group because of the "Single Peeps!" graphic logo/picture. I don't care for the peeps marshmallow candy or marshmallows in general. Unless it's freshly toasted from a camp fire, wedged in between 2 graham crackers and a piece of chocolate. I saw the pic and immediately thought "eww" Yes, I know that there is in BIG BLACK BOLD LETTERS the words Single Peeps! I work nights and sometimes it takes a while for the coffee to kick in and wake my brain up! :laugh: Out of curiosity I clicked on it to see what it was all about. I joined and didn't post for quite a while.
Reasons I like it here:
1) Reading about other people's experiences with relationships, dates, and view points. Helps me gain insight on many things about both sexes that never crossed my mind in the first place.
2) For a long time I felt there was something wrong with me that I could not find anyone or date. I know that I am not alone in this and it helps reading about other people going through similar situations. It may not always be the exact thing but it helps me reflect and work on my personal issues.
3) I work nights and trolling MFP forums is a way for me to kill time while at work. I'll weep for weeks if MFP ever gets blocked at work. :sad:
4) Some of the drama I find entertaining and can't help but laugh and shake my head at the same time. At the same time I hope it doesn't lead to more people leaving permanently.
Speaking of #4, I was reading some of what other people posted. I was a little sad that some people have given thought to leaving the group :frown:0 -
Even if there is a bit of drama sometimes in this forum, I keep coming back because I'm interested in what all of you have to say. I don't spend much time on MFP on the weekends, but by Monday I'm jonesing for a Single Peep Fix. I hope to keep posting to questions and hope my insights are valued and appreciated. A 33 year old single profession woman has to be good for something! LOL0
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I originally joined SP because it was a way to not be embarassed when I discuss realtionship issues. Most my single friends when I joined this had a totally different opinion on dating then I do. So joining this group helped me see different aspects of the being single and dating. I think if it wasn't for this group I probably wouldn't have ventured out and joined a meetup group which I have now met a bunch of new friends. I might not have found the person of my dreams yet but it helped me find other ways to get out there as online dating just doesn't seem to be working for me.0
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I can't remember how I came across the group. Pretty good bunch of regulars which a few of are on my FL. I was dating at the time I joined and alway like hearing other people's views.
If it wasn't for this group, I wouldn't have met someone so special and gorgeous that I love so much
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to make sure i am not the only single person around.0
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I knew I was more likely to stay logging on regularly and therefore losing if I knew some people on here. This is a smaller group than the main forum and it's easier to get to know people because we talk about personal stuff. It's all about the weight loss 0
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I like to live vicariously through the peeps that are actually out there dating. And reading about everyone's experiences has convinced me to never ever try online dating. :laugh: So it has been invaluable lurking around here.0
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This is embarassing.... :blushing: I didn't have a MFP crush or some other awesome reason I joined.
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Reasons I like it here:
1) Reading about other people's experiences with relationships, dates, and view points. Helps me gain insight on many things about both sexes that never crossed my mind in the first place.
2) For a long time I felt there was something wrong with me that I could not find anyone or date. I know that I am not alone in this and it helps reading about other people going through similar situations. It may not always be the exact thing but it helps me reflect and work on my personal issues.
4) Some of the drama I find entertaining and can't help but laugh and shake my head at the same time. At the same time I hope it doesn't lead to more people leaving permanently.
Speaking of #4, I was reading some of what other people posted. I was a little sad that some people have given thought to leaving the group :frown:
Thanks, Lacroyx!! ^^^^ this for me.0 -
I like to live vicariously through the peeps that are actually out there dating. And reading about everyone's experiences has convinced me to never ever try online dating. :laugh: So it has been invaluable lurking around here.
Pretty much this!
I'm really not that interested in dating right now (I wouldn't say no to an appropriate FWB, though!), but sometimes I need a little romantic drama in my life. Other people's will do nicely.
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I joined because I was in the single world and none of my friends were, so I came here for advice and different viewpoints, and have appreciated all I have learned here
Though I am now singe but unailable it is still helpful to come here and see different views.
And, I agree that the dynamic is changing a bit, but not in a bad way so I post less, but still lurk a lot 0 -
Apparently my first post here was on Valentine's day. I guess I realised I was a "single peep" on this day, and then started posting.
I generally consider myself "sufficiently skilled" at dating and I'm quite analytic about everything, so I come back because I hope I can offer a more down to earth/realistic/cynical perspective on some issues.
The debates are generally good and interesting here, so I like to see what other people have to say, particularly when they are from a different walk of life.
I like to meet people from all horizons, but my daily life do not necessarily collide with people from all horizons, so I'm glad I've actually physically met people from this group who I would probably never have bumped into otherwise.
Lastly, I've learnt a lot from people who are seemingly polar opposite from me (JJ! :smooched: ) and really try to put myself in their shoes and think as they would. I find it fascinating to understand other people.0 -
1. I consider myself a bit "dating challenged". I think that both the topics discussed and various outlooks from both genders provide some valuable and interesting information. :noway:
2. Entertainment value...definitely! :drinker:
3. The very cool people in this group. :flowerforyou:
4. Ya never know who you could meet. :blushing:0 -
I like being part of a forum talking about dating - especially things that come up with online dating. It's so weird and unnatural to me! I don't have any friends who are actively dating and I find it easier and more engaging to talk about such things with other single people who are in the trenches rather than with people who are coupled off or have just given up.0
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I like being part of a forum talking about dating - especially things that come up with online dating. It's so weird and unnatural to me! I don't have any friends who are actively dating and I find it easier and more engaging to talk about such things with other single people who are in the trenches rather than with people who are coupled off or have just given up.
That's really great Mellie!
People who have coupled off have no idea the type of stuff we go through, especially if they have been off the dating scene for more than like 3 years.
Most of my friends are still in the actively dating, less than a year in a relationship phase.0 -
I find it easier and more engaging to talk about such things with other single people who are in the trenches rather than with people who are coupled off or have just given up.
Mellie, I agree... I keep coming back to this group because I have very few IRL friends to discuss dating and men with. Most of my friends are either married or they haven't dated in ages. I've got one friend who I heard (second hand- haven't asked her about it yet) who is upset that I have a boyfriend and she has no prospects, and I had one friend flat out tell me she was tired of me talking about dating (which bummed me out, b/c she was the only of my friends who WERE dating). I guess it comes across as rubbing my dating life in peoples faces, which strikes me as odd because they're all cuter than me and any of them on Match would have had WAY more attention than I got.
So, yeah, Single Peeps is a great place to talk about those things and get other people's opinions.0
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