65,000 dollars in matchmaking?!?!
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Imagine you had an amazing perfect awesome mate.
They were utterly amazing in every way you could imagine.
Now imagine EXACTLY THAT with more income.
Who would you rather date?
I'll be honest, I would like the security of more income. That being said, if the one with lower income got to me first I certainly wouldn't up and leave him for a higher paycheck. It's not a dealbreaker, but it certainly helps in the decision making process.
Ah, Flam, I couldn't date you no matter how much you make! You hate animals
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That is what they are calling a 6??0
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I totally get what Kit & Flam are saying in theory, but I guess it just doesn't work for me on a practical level. If a guy has show-off items, like an expensive car, etc. it totally turns me off. On the other hand, I would prefer someone who has a handle on their finances and isn't living paycheck to paycheck either. I guess I'm just a sucker for a middle of the road type guy when it comes to income... does that make me weird?0
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I guess I'm just a sucker for a middle of the road type guy when it comes to income... does that make me weird?
No, not at all.0 -
That is what they are calling a 6??
Just curious, what would you peg him at?
Though personally I find that personality makes up a huge part of an attractiveness number.0 -
I would say a 4. But agreed that personality can change that number.0
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That is what they are calling a 6??
Just curious, what would you peg him at?
Though personally I find that personality makes up a huge part of an attractiveness number.I would say a 4. But agreed that personality can change that number.
Well, to be fair, he is 47 years-old. If he is trim and fit, he is possibly more attractive within the age range of his dating pool. It seems to me that people within this group use some number rating system that is set by the range of 20-30 somethings and an overly harsh judgment of older singles.
To me, personality makes up much more of what I find attractive, so the whole numbering system seems so one-dimensional.0 -
Including his personality, that would make him a 2 then. :laugh: (He gets +1 for drive, dedication and money though).I would say a 4. But agreed that personality can change that number.0 -
I totally get what Kit & Flam are saying in theory, but I guess it just doesn't work for me on a practical level. If a guy has show-off items, like an expensive car, etc. it totally turns me off. On the other hand, I would prefer someone who has a handle on their finances and isn't living paycheck to paycheck either. I guess I'm just a sucker for a middle of the road type guy when it comes to income... does that make me weird?
I kind of see where you are coming from. Both of my exes made pretty good money - there were huge differences. The first one spent money as a form of status and it actually caused him to live outside of his means and he ended up losing his house (after I had broken up with him, thank goodness). He spent money and wanted nice things because of what it meant to other people. My second relationship lived comfortably and spent his money on fun toys and hobbies that HE liked. He was heavy in gun, motorcycles, computers and rockclimbing and it was awesome to share that with him. We always had a blast and he did it because he liked it and gave not a damn what anyone else thought.
At that point though, it's not about what money someone makes. I have no qualms with a rich dude with a shiny car that he loves to death because it goes vroom vroom and not because it makes people think highly of him. Middle and low income people are just as guilty as the rich for living outside their means because they care so much about what other people think of them. I wouldn't guess any one person is a specific way just because of their income. However, since I hardly go around asking dudes what they make before I find out whether or not I like their personality so it's hardly become an issue since I learned so much from ex #1.0 -
A lot of rich people are tight wads with their money. How does a ritch person who doesn't like to spend money have an advantage over a normal person?
So in this day and age, is anyone here *really* arguing that money isn't an advantage? A bonus?
It is kind of like the crazy hot scale some guys use. Some women use the poor hot scale. The hotter they are the less rich they have to be, the less attractive the more rich.
Does not compute... lol. I want to date someone for who they are, not their wallet.
I think DM means that they should have an advantage because they're wealthy and that should make them more attractive to women, and they can take you out on really nice dates, and you know they'd be able to afford a nice life for you two should you date and marry.
Why should?Rich guys should have an advantage in the dating game, but technique still matters.
I am in no way saying all women do this but enough of them do that it is a valid point since some women see money = security.
Or in plain terms, imagine:
- Me, with $30,000,
- Me, with $500,000
Guess who should have an advantage in the dating game? The "me" who can afford more stuff or the one who can afford less stuff (means: clothes, gifts, travels, relaxation massage, haircut, restaurants and more). The great thing is that when you can afford more, you can still afford less (so I could still pretend I only have $30,000).
Oh no, I get it now. It's probably because rich people are horrible, egocentric b@stards and us, poor people, at least we stick together, right?
TL;DR: Yes, someone with more money should be at an advantage in the dating game.0 -
A lot of rich people are tight wads with their money. How does a ritch person who doesn't like to spend money have an advantage over a normal person?
So in this day and age, is anyone here *really* arguing that money isn't an advantage? A bonus?
It is kind of like the crazy hot scale some guys use. Some women use the poor hot scale. The hotter they are the less rich they have to be, the less attractive the more rich.
Does not compute... lol. I want to date someone for who they are, not their wallet.
I think DM means that they should have an advantage because they're wealthy and that should make them more attractive to women, and they can take you out on really nice dates, and you know they'd be able to afford a nice life for you two should you date and marry.
Why should?Rich guys should have an advantage in the dating game, but technique still matters.
I am in no way saying all women do this but enough of them do that it is a valid point since some women see money = security.
Or in plain terms, imagine:
- Me, with $30,000,
- Me, with $500,000
Guess who should have an advantage in the dating game? The "me" who can afford more stuff or the one who can afford less stuff (means: clothes, gifts, travels, relaxation massage, haircut, restaurants and more). The great thing is that when you can afford more, you can still afford less (so I could still pretend I only have $30,000).
Oh no, I get it now. It's probably because rich people are horrible, egocentric b@stards and us, poor people, at least we stick together, right?
TL;DR: Yes, someone with more money should be at an advantage in the dating game.
Money = Security. A rich man in his 40s that is a tight wad will have more money stashed away for retirement. This is actually better then a rich person that spends their money on frivilous things.0 -
A lot of rich people are tight wads with their money. How does a ritch person who doesn't like to spend money have an advantage over a normal person?
So in this day and age, is anyone here *really* arguing that money isn't an advantage? A bonus?
It is kind of like the crazy hot scale some guys use. Some women use the poor hot scale. The hotter they are the less rich they have to be, the less attractive the more rich.
Does not compute... lol. I want to date someone for who they are, not their wallet.
I think DM means that they should have an advantage because they're wealthy and that should make them more attractive to women, and they can take you out on really nice dates, and you know they'd be able to afford a nice life for you two should you date and marry.
Why should?Rich guys should have an advantage in the dating game, but technique still matters.
I am in no way saying all women do this but enough of them do that it is a valid point since some women see money = security.
Or in plain terms, imagine:
- Me, with $30,000,
- Me, with $500,000
Guess who should have an advantage in the dating game? The "me" who can afford more stuff or the one who can afford less stuff (means: clothes, gifts, travels, relaxation massage, haircut, restaurants and more). The great thing is that when you can afford more, you can still afford less (so I could still pretend I only have $30,000).
Oh no, I get it now. It's probably because rich people are horrible, egocentric b@stards and us, poor people, at least we stick together, right?
TL;DR: Yes, someone with more money should be at an advantage in the dating game.
Money = Security. A rich man in his 40s that is a tight wad will have more money stashed away for retirement. This is actually better then a rich person that spends their money on frivilous things.
Even better, and old rich dude in his 70's that's about to die want a girl to have fun with that he will then leave his fortune to.0 -
THIS is the only reason why I'm all for women to access high salary jobs - so that I too can hope to meet a rich woman in her 70s who is about to die (unlikely at present).
Even better, and old rich dude in his 70's that's about to die want a girl to have fun with that he will then leave his fortune to.Money = Security. A rich man in his 40s that is a tight wad will have more money stashed away for retirement. This is actually better then a rich person that spends their money on frivilous things.0 -
THIS is the only reason why I'm all for women to access high salary jobs - so that I too can hope to meet a rich woman in her 70s who is about to die (unlikely at present).
Even better, and old rich dude in his 70's that's about to die want a girl to have fun with that he will then leave his fortune to.Money = Security. A rich man in his 40s that is a tight wad will have more money stashed away for retirement. This is actually better then a rich person that spends their money on frivilous things.
Yeah, women tend to live longer (so shoot more for the 80's) and they haven't had access to high paying jobs like that for very long so your best bet would be a rich widow. Maybe in another twenty years or so there'll be more of this. Good luck!0
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