The "crazy hot" and "poor hot" scales
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Probably for some it rings true because many people tend to be superficial.
My initial reaction was to say, "No Way! I'm not materialistic." And I'm not. But, after reflecting for a brief moment, I realized the following for me is more true:
It's the purpose for dating that requires a hotter scale for me. If I am just looking to go out and have some fun, leaving my checklist for a future mate at home, then he has to be pretty hot. The younger they are, the hotter they better be. Because if I'm going to go out with a younger man, he better be a hot younger man. I'm not talking a few years younger. I'm talking the ones that are still in their twenties or right at 30 that contact me. The reason? Unless he is extremely mature for his age and has an "old" soul, we most likely do not have a lot in common, so he needs to be eye candy. LOL (For the record, the youngest man I've been out with was 8 years younger than me.)
On the other hand, if he's a lot older, he better be one sexy older man. The oldest man I've dated (ever) was 42, and that was just a few months ago. (and I was crazy about him) It's not that I'm not attracted to some men in their 40's, but, in general, I do not get contacted by many men in their 40's. For whatever reason... (that's another thread)
I don't care how hot he is, though. He needs to have a decent job, preferably one he enjoys or is at least content with OR is moving towards bettering himself in order to do something he does enjoy. He needs to have drive, motivation, ambition, goals, and dreams. As long as he can take care of himself, is not mooching off of his mama or his brother, and is able to pay his own way... I'm good. He also has to be able to carry on a semi-intelligent conversation with me that doesn't involve the words "boobs" and "oral"... (of course, those have their time and place... I just don't want that to be the only topic of our conversations)...
The hotness scale only plays a role if I have no intentions of getting serious with him. LOL (Not to say that attraction isn't important if I do have intentions of getting serious, but other factors are equally important then.)0 -
Probably for some it rings true because many people tend to be superficial.
My initial reaction was to say, "No Way! I'm not materialistic." And I'm not. But, after reflecting for a brief moment, I realized the following for me is more true:
It's the purpose for dating that requires a hotter scale for me. If I am just looking to go out and have some fun, leaving my checklist for a future mate at home, then he has to be pretty hot. The younger they are, the hotter they better be. Because if I'm going to go out with a younger man, he better be a hot younger man. I'm not talking a few years younger. I'm talking the ones that are still in their twenties or right at 30 that contact me. The reason? Unless he is extremely mature for his age and has an "old" soul, we most likely do not have a lot in common, so he needs to be eye candy. LOL (For the record, the youngest man I've been out with was 8 years younger than me.)
On the other hand, if he's a lot older, he better be one sexy older man. The oldest man I've dated (ever) was 42, and that was just a few months ago. (and I was crazy about him) It's not that I'm not attracted to some men in their 40's, but, in general, I do not get contacted by many men in their 40's. For whatever reason... (that's another thread)
I don't care how hot he is, though. He needs to have a decent job, preferably one he enjoys or is at least content with OR is moving towards bettering himself in order to do something he does enjoy. He needs to have drive, motivation, ambition, goals, and dreams. As long as he can take care of himself, is not mooching off of his mama or his brother, and is able to pay his own way... I'm good. He also has to be able to carry on a semi-intelligent conversation with me that doesn't involve the words "boobs" and "oral"... (of course, those have their time and place... I just don't want that to be the only topic of our conversations)...
The hotness scale only plays a role if I have no intentions of getting serious with him. LOL (Not to say that attraction isn't important if I do have intentions of getting serious, but other factors are equally important then.)
I pretty much agree with this 100%.
If its just a roll in the hay I better be pretty excited just by looking at the guy..job ect not important.
If its long term..having the ability to support yourself and not mooch off of me is just as important as how attractive I find him, and personality.0 -
Probably for some it rings true because many people tend to be superficial.
My initial reaction was to say, "No Way! I'm not materialistic." And I'm not. But, after reflecting for a brief moment, I realized the following for me is more true:
It's the purpose for dating that requires a hotter scale for me. If I am just looking to go out and have some fun, leaving my checklist for a future mate at home, then he has to be pretty hot. The younger they are, the hotter they better be. Because if I'm going to go out with a younger man, he better be a hot younger man. I'm not talking a few years younger. I'm talking the ones that are still in their twenties or right at 30 that contact me. The reason? Unless he is extremely mature for his age and has an "old" soul, we most likely do not have a lot in common, so he needs to be eye candy. LOL (For the record, the youngest man I've been out with was 8 years younger than me.)
On the other hand, if he's a lot older, he better be one sexy older man. The oldest man I've dated (ever) was 42, and that was just a few months ago. (and I was crazy about him) It's not that I'm not attracted to some men in their 40's, but, in general, I do not get contacted by many men in their 40's. For whatever reason... (that's another thread)
I don't care how hot he is, though. He needs to have a decent job, preferably one he enjoys or is at least content with OR is moving towards bettering himself in order to do something he does enjoy. He needs to have drive, motivation, ambition, goals, and dreams. As long as he can take care of himself, is not mooching off of his mama or his brother, and is able to pay his own way... I'm good. He also has to be able to carry on a semi-intelligent conversation with me that doesn't involve the words "boobs" and "oral"... (of course, those have their time and place... I just don't want that to be the only topic of our conversations)...
The hotness scale only plays a role if I have no intentions of getting serious with him. LOL (Not to say that attraction isn't important if I do have intentions of getting serious, but other factors are equally important then.)
So if they're younger, they have to be hot. If they're older, they have to be sexy.
For the first in a long time, I agree 100% with someone!0 -
Granted we are also taught from birth that if you fall in love with a poor man, you will always be happy and have love. But if you fall for a rich man, either yall will lose everything or he'll lose interest. cause rich men are always trying to upgrade to the new sleeker model. So leave them alone in their rich world and dont ever get mixed up in that place. Its nothing but heartbreak and lonely nights.
What a load of crap that first part is! Never fallen for a rich guy before, but hell, maybe I should. It can't turn out worse than those poor guys have for me. Bunch of cheating, lying losers the lot of them!
(But I'm not bitter or anything!)0 -
Something to remember guys...
And the same applies the other way as far as a guys "wealth" being an attractive thing.0 -
So if they're younger, they have to be hot. If they're older, they have to be sexy.
For the first in a long time, I agree 100% with someone!
LOL!!! Me and you agree... wow... has a cow jumped over the moon?! Just kidding, Mike...0 -
I've never been attracted to super-hot or super-rich, but I can't see either attracted to me either.
I guess I've always played in the correct league?0 -
Something to remember guys...
And the same applies the other way as far as a guys "wealth" being an attractive thing.
My uncle told me that 10 yrs ago. Laughed so hard at the time. Still true.0 -
Granted we are also taught from birth that if you fall in love with a poor man, you will always be happy and have love. But if you fall for a rich man, either yall will lose everything or he'll lose interest. cause rich men are always trying to upgrade to the new sleeker model. So leave them alone in their rich world and dont ever get mixed up in that place. Its nothing but heartbreak and lonely nights.
What a load of crap that first part is! Never fallen for a rich guy before, but hell, maybe I should. It can't turn out worse than those poor guys have for me. Bunch of cheating, lying losers the lot of them!
(But I'm not bitter or anything!)
thanks, glad you think i was raised on crap :drinker:0
