Hey Guys: Would you lie about being a virgin?
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A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
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I have done the reverse (once :laugh: ), i.e. lie about NOT being a virgin. But this particular case you mention doesn't make any sense to me.0
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A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
The only reason I could come up with is to trick a woman into bed with them. Making her think she is special because she is a guy's first. Plus I know there's women that dig being a guy's first.0 -
A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
Didn't you answer your own question?
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2 scenarios. He's either just laying to get you to think you are special or he's not lying and decided to tell you he isn't in case that scared you off.0
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Yeah, that makes absolutely no sense to me...0
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Whichever one was the lie matters little.
Run...run far,run fast ,but for Gods sake RUN!0 -
Whichever one was the lie matters little.
Run...run far,run fast ,but for Gods sake RUN!
Listen to Carl this guy sounds like a nut job ... Just out of curiosity how old is this guy0 -
2 scenarios. He's either just laying to get you to think you are special or he's not lying and decided to tell you he isn't in case that scared you off.
Whether he's a virgin or not, I'd say he's very inexperienced with women. It's a lousy lie to tell since more women will be disinterested in an inexperienced man, who may be bad in bed and get too attached. The women who would be interested would care more about his character anyway. As long as he wasn't some bed-hopping man *kitten*, he would probably be fine. Finally, no one likes a liar and at one time he either lied about being a virgin or not being a virgin. I'm guessing the lie had to do with the pursuit of sex and didn't just come up in some church youth group meeting.0 -
Whichever one was the lie matters little.
Run...run far,run fast ,but for Gods sake RUN!
Listen to Carl this guy sounds like a nut job ... Just out of curiosity how old is this guy
Early 30s. I asked him again later the night he told me he was a virgin, and he said he was...Me thinks he lied about not being a virgin because he rarely has a woman in his life....0 -
Whichever one was the lie matters little.
Run...run far,run fast ,but for Gods sake RUN!
Listen to Carl this guy sounds like a nut job ... Just out of curiosity how old is this guy
Early 30s. I asked him again later the night he told me he was a virgin, and he said he was...Me thinks he lied about not being a virgin because he rarely has a woman in his life....
And/or was hoping you might take pity on him.0 -
I figured he would lie about the opposite. I don't do virgins. I have before and I have zero interest in being the awkward first one.0
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A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
Lol, I have no clue.
The opposite is much more common.0 -
A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
I lied about the opposite. Didn't want the girl to know I was a virgin, as I didn't want her to well...not do things with me b/c I was inexperienced. Not sure why you would lie about being a virgin, unless it was a really religious girl that wants her first to be a virgin too.0 -
A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
I lied about the opposite. Didn't want the girl to know I was a virgin, as I didn't want her to well...not do things with me b/c I was inexperienced. Not sure why you would lie about being a virgin, unless it was a really religious girl that wants her first to be a virgin too.
The thing is he told me he was a virgin first when we were kissing. I sort of joked he probably slept with more people than I did then he "confessed." Then he said he was waiting for the right girl. I asked him again the same night, and he said he was telling the truth. Then I told him two weeks later him I was actually a virgin too. He was shocked especially the way I kissed him and fooled around with him during the date. After the fact he said he wasn't a virgin and had a "two night stand". He said there are different types of virgins and wondered if I ever had oral sex. I said no, so he was shocked. I wonder if he just had oral sex with a woman and that's it.0 -
A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
I lied about the opposite. Didn't want the girl to know I was a virgin, as I didn't want her to well...not do things with me b/c I was inexperienced. Not sure why you would lie about being a virgin, unless it was a really religious girl that wants her first to be a virgin too.
The thing is he told me he was a virgin first when we were kissing. I sort of joked he probably slept with more people than I did then he "confessed." Then he said he was waiting for the right girl. I asked him again the same night, and he said he was telling the truth. Then I told him two weeks later him I was actually a virgin too. After the fact he said he wasn't a virgin and had a "two night stand". He said there are different types of virgins and wondered if I ever had oral sex. I said no, so he was shocked. I wonder if he just had oral sex with a woman and that's it.
Oy...
See my previous statement about running.0 -
A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
I lied about the opposite. Didn't want the girl to know I was a virgin, as I didn't want her to well...not do things with me b/c I was inexperienced. Not sure why you would lie about being a virgin, unless it was a really religious girl that wants her first to be a virgin too.
The thing is he told me he was a virgin first when we were kissing. I sort of joked he probably slept with more people than I did then he "confessed." Then he said he was waiting for the right girl. I asked him again the same night, and he said he was telling the truth. Then I told him two weeks later him I was actually a virgin too. After the fact he said he wasn't a virgin and had a "two night stand". He said there are different types of virgins and wondered if I ever had oral sex. I said no, so he was shocked. I wonder if he just had oral sex with a woman and that's it.
To be honest it isn't a big deal one way or another, it isn't like you magically morph into a superhuman once
you lose your virginity.
That being said, if you like the guy keep with him. He may have self confidence issues, but exactly who doesn't.0 -
To answer the original question...
Nope.
Then again, I have 2 kids, so kind of easy to catch me in the lie if I was stupid enough to tell it.0 -
Guys will say anything if they think it will help them get laid. Just not sure why he thought this would help. Maybe he had an angle.0
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A 35year old guy doesnt know the difference between sex and oral sex and how those relate to losing one's virginity??
I'm seriously concerned he'd got a mental age of about 8!0 -
A 35year old guy doesnt know the difference between sex and oral sex and how those relate to losing one's virginity??
I'm seriously concerned he'd got a mental age of about 8!
The only issue is OP is telling us half the story, it is out of context.
If the OP said something to the effect of "well I am waiting for the right guy", then he may
have "lied" to make his chances better, but again OP isn't telling us the entire story.
Regardless if you like someone, giving up on them over their virginity status is petty in my opinion.0 -
Sounds like a POS, I advise you move on.0
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A man told me he was a virgin and was waiting for the right one...Then two weeks later he said he lied......Would a man really lie about being a virgin or what?
I lied about the opposite. Didn't want the girl to know I was a virgin, as I didn't want her to well...not do things with me b/c I was inexperienced. Not sure why you would lie about being a virgin, unless it was a really religious girl that wants her first to be a virgin too.
The thing is he told me he was a virgin first when we were kissing. I sort of joked he probably slept with more people than I did then he "confessed." Then he said he was waiting for the right girl. I asked him again the same night, and he said he was telling the truth. Then I told him two weeks later him I was actually a virgin too. He was shocked especially the way I kissed him and fooled around with him during the date. After the fact he said he wasn't a virgin and had a "two night stand". He said there are different types of virgins and wondered if I ever had oral sex. I said no, so he was shocked. I wonder if he just had oral sex with a woman and that's it.
Wow
RUN, RUN like the wind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0 -
I'm a woman and a virgin and even a kissing virgin. My close friends know the truth. Other people I don't tell...if they ask I lie. Freshman year of college, we were playing this game with our RAs and one if the questions was "who was your first kiss?" I lied because who wants to be that baby freshman? Over four years later I would still have to lie.
OP if you know him well I'm inclined to believe he is a virgin. Why would he lie at first? He might have thought you took it badly so he retracted his lie0 -
Why lie? If you found to be lying I would have to say exit stage right, do not pass go or collect $200.000
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I probably would not want to sleep with a virgin, especially when he's mid twenties and older.0
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I probably would not want to sleep with a virgin, especially when he's mid twenties and older.
Yeah I cant say that would make me all into the guy either.... I saw 40 yr old virgin 30 seconds doesnt do it for me..... Besides I dont have the patience to start training a guy from the very begining. Atleast if they have had some experience it gives you something to build on when you get into bed.0 -
I probably would not want to sleep with a virgin, especially when he's mid twenties and older.
Yeah I cant say that would make me all into the guy either.... I saw 40 yr old virgin 30 seconds doesnt do it for me..... Besides I dont have the patience to start training a guy from the very begining. Atleast if they have had some experience it gives you something to build on when you get into bed.
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I probably would not want to sleep with a virgin, especially when he's mid twenties and older.
Yeah I cant say that would make me all into the guy either.... I saw 40 yr old virgin 30 seconds doesnt do it for me..... Besides I dont have the patience to start training a guy from the very begining. Atleast if they have had some experience it gives you something to build on when you get into bed.
this!
^^ This is why guys lie.
Seriously though, I was a late bloomer at 19, the first couple times were awkward with the girl I was with, but then we had some good times.
I think you overestimate exactly how much "training" needs to be done.
I don't understand this mentality, oh and also, what if you liked the guy, you would just completely lose interest?0 -
^^ This is why guys lie.
Seriously though, I was a late bloomer at 19, the first couple times were awkward with the girl I was with, but then we had some good times.
I think you overestimate exactly how much "training" needs to be done.
I don't understand this mentality, oh and also, what if you liked the guy, you would just completely lose interest?
19 is completely acceptable.. 25, 26, 27, and older.. I start to wonder. Even 25 is okay. Maybe they went through a crapload of school and didn't have time to eff around. Or maybe they used to be really fat and since losing weight they've found confidence.
There are many reasons. No, I would not completely lose interest in a guy who was a virgin, but I would be wary to date him because of two extremes: 1) He might get completely attached and clingy, which is a no-go, or 2) Later down the road in the relationship, if there is one, he might decide that he's only had sex with one girl and he needs to experience more!.. which is also acceptable, but meh.
I would never hook up with a virgin, unless he was an Adonis-reincarnate (or whatever the sex god's name is) or something. That would be a waste of time.
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There are many reasons. No, I would not completely lose interest in a guy who was a virgin, but I would be weary to date him because of two extremes: 1) He might get completely attached and clingy, which is a no-go, or 2) Later down the road in the relationship, if there is one, he might decide that he's only had sex with one girl and he needs to experience more!.. which is also acceptable, but meh.
Those are actually fair points.
Fair enough. I guess I never really thought about it too much, although I rarely if ever run into virgins with peers my age anymore so I never think about it.
Interesting.0
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