How long should the "swoon" last?
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Carl01
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Stolen from here...
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/785864-too-good-looking
Think it is interesting to see how long folks have it last,want it to last and also curious if it becomes so intoxicating for lack of a better word that some pursue it relentlessly at the sacrifice of a serious relationship developing.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/785864-too-good-looking
Think it is interesting to see how long folks have it last,want it to last and also curious if it becomes so intoxicating for lack of a better word that some pursue it relentlessly at the sacrifice of a serious relationship developing.
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i didn't read the thread, but there is info out there that states the chemical connection we create with those we fall in love with ends at the two year mark. so, by that time the love has to be something more than simple swooning... :-)0
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I think it goes through phases. I've gone through two swoons with SL so far. Initially and up to when I said I love you.. then it kinda died down in the months after that until he finally said it back. Now I'm swooning again.
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I think it comes and goes. All relationships cycle up and down. At least they do in my personal experience. For me, that initial "swoon" tends to last for quite some time. Once Im hooked, Im hooked. If I start to feel unappreciated that feeling tends to fade. But a sweet or romatic gesture on his part, a kind word, or an especially passionte kiss is all it takes to get my "swoon" going on again!0
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Not very long.
I think you are initially attracted to someone because you feel an intense, sexual attraction...that is why new couples are always hanging off each other and busy in bed. But once you get to know the person, you care about them not sex or looks so much.0 -
I'm into my 6th year of swooning over someone..........but we're not together anymore, so I guess that's a bit of a false swoon
TBH I dont think it ever ends if I'm mad about someone......... 0 -
I think it comes and goes. All relationships cycle up and down. At least they do in my personal experience. For me, that initial "swoon" tends to last for quite some time. Once Im hooked, Im hooked. If I start to feel unappreciated that feeling tends to fade. But a sweet or romatic gesture on his part, a kind word, or an especially passionte kiss is all it takes to get my "swoon" going on again!
Yep, exactly this! For me, anywho.0 -
A lifetime.0
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AwwwwwwA lifetime.
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Yes, relationships go through phases, but if you stop swooning at all, what's the point of being with the other person?0
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If you continue to flirt with your partner, make them feel sexy, and you are sexy for THEM, and you still go on "dates", you still enjoy each other's company, still make each other laugh.... as comedian Ron White would say, it should last
FOOOOOOORRRRREVAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
Basically, it lasts as long as you BOTH want it to. It definitely isn't a one-way street....0 -
A lifetime.
this.it doesnt have to be a daily thing, but i'd think if people aren't taking each other for granted, still being flirty and still attracted to the other the swoon could happen forever0 -
Chemically speaking, 12-18 months.0
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I'm into my 6th year of swooning over someone..........but we're not together anymore, so I guess that's a bit of a false swoon
I feel you there. I think there is something to the whole "wanting what we cannot have" thing. I'm suspicious that these would probably fade if attained though.0 -
When I met my husband.. I fell head over heels for him from day one. I loved him no matter what happened.. so my swoon ended for him after he cheated on me the first time. I think when you meet the love of your life you swoon over them always.0
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I'm into my 6th year of swooning over someone..........but we're not together anymore, so I guess that's a bit of a false swoon
I feel you there. I think there is something to the whole "wanting what we cannot have" thing. I'm suspicious that these would probably fade if attained though.
Yeah, that may well be the case, but I wouldn't mind finding out! If I ever do, I'll let you know
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I'm into my 6th year of swooning over someone..........but we're not together anymore, so I guess that's a bit of a false swoon
TBH I dont think it ever ends if I'm mad about someone.........
Ditto that...
When I'm in love I'm kind of in this... constant state. The first boyfriend I remember very clearly when that changed - it was a very dramatic event that changed my entire perception of who he was as a person and finally allowed me to see who he really was. It made it almost easy to extricate him from my life despite us living together.
So for me? The swooning ends at betrayal or death.0 -
I am thinking I did not word or explain what I intended in keeping with what I perceived was the discussion on the other thread.
What I was taking from that discussion was not an issue of love but that giddy euphoria which happens with the first blushes of an infatuation.
That time when a person refuses to look at life and reality under the belief that the feeling of "love" they have will overcome all regardless of what living actually entails.0 -
I am thinking I did not word or explain what I intended in keeping with what I perceived was the discussion on the other thread.
What I was taking from that discussion was not an issue of love but that giddy euphoria which happens with the first blushes of an infatuation.
That time when a person refuses to look at life and reality under the belief that the feeling of "love" they have will overcome all regardless of what living actually entails.
I honestly don't know the difference then. Unless there's a disagreement I'm usually pretty swoony when I'm in love. But I don't know if I've been in a long enough relationship to really have gotten to the "settled" part.0 -
I am thinking I did not word or explain what I intended in keeping with what I perceived was the discussion on the other thread.
What I was taking from that discussion was not an issue of love but that giddy euphoria which happens with the first blushes of an infatuation.
That time when a person refuses to look at life and reality under the belief that the feeling of "love" they have will overcome all regardless of what living actually entails.
I honestly don't know the difference then. Unless there's a disagreement I'm usually pretty swoony when I'm in love. But I don't know if I've been in a long enough relationship to really have gotten to the "settled" part.
The love will fix everything ideal...where 2 unemployed people will swear that just being together will be enough even though that doesn`t explain where groceries come from.
Yes I know that is an exaggeration but the idea.
More realistic perhaps is where every meeting is a rush,Christmas morning all over but no thought given to actually living together and dealing with lifes stresses as well as those that occur with being together.0 -
my great grandparents were married for like 60 years . my great grand dad said he'd get that infatuated swoony feeling all the way until she died several years before he did.
who says infatuation has to completely end just because the relationship becomes more long terms and settled?0
