How long should the "swoon" last?
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I am thinking I did not word or explain what I intended in keeping with what I perceived was the discussion on the other thread.
What I was taking from that discussion was not an issue of love but that giddy euphoria which happens with the first blushes of an infatuation.
That time when a person refuses to look at life and reality under the belief that the feeling of "love" they have will overcome all regardless of what living actually entails.
I honestly don't know the difference then. Unless there's a disagreement I'm usually pretty swoony when I'm in love. But I don't know if I've been in a long enough relationship to really have gotten to the "settled" part.
The love will fix everything ideal...where 2 unemployed people will swear that just being together will be enough even though that doesn`t explain where groceries come from.
Yes I know that is an exaggeration but the idea.
More realistic perhaps is where every meeting is a rush,Christmas morning all over but no thought given to actually living together and dealing with lifes stresses as well as those that occur with being together.
Oh, then never. I don't believe in that at all. Denying hardship because you're in love and that's all that matters is stupid.0 -
My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.0 -
I think when the swoony part is over .. your relationship is over. When you are with someone you are supposed to be with you will always swoon over them.
When you are in a relationship that will eventually end .. the swooning ends after about 4-6 months. That is when you know you are in trouble. lol.
I agree that swooning ends when you are really in love only when a betrayal happens.
Even when real life kicks in and you are sharing bills and messes and kids .. whatever .. you will have days that you don't swoon over them .. but it takes very little for the right person to get you back on the swoon path. When you are with someone who is not your person .. each act of non =swoonworthy material will chip away at your relationship and you will get less and less enthralled with them until it eventually ends.0 -
My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.
I think that is because you weren't in the kind of love that would last a lifetime. I am not sure you have ever felt that kind of love.
Or perhaps it is a man thing.0 -
my great grandparents were married for like 60 years . my great grand dad said he'd get that infatuated swoony feeling all the way until she died several years before he did.
who says infatuation has to completely end just because the relationship becomes more long terms and settled?
Awww maaan, that's proper love. That's the kind of love I want again
I agree with Mesha, Jen, Kits, life does not get in the way of swoon!! You deal with life and stress and worry and strife, but the reason you smile at your partner when you're sitting on the floor in the middle of winter, eating beans when the heating just packed up, is because of the swoon!! That moment of swoon makes it all worthwhile
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Or perhaps it is a man thing.
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Or perhaps it is a man thing.
This.
Sad commentary.
Luckily I have a lot of friends and family that have had long-term relationships and marriages so I know true happiness is out there. It's not easy and takes work, but if you're not willing to "swoon" for more than two weeks or try in a relationship - ever - you will just be alone....
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My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.
I totally get this mentality.
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.0 -
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Now you're making me swoon DM!! :flowerforyou: 0 -
My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.
I totally get this mentality.
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
I see Mike's point and DM1983z point as well. There will be ups and downs. Life is not a freakin' Disney fairy tale. Swoons won't be 24/7/365.0 -
My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.
I totally get this mentality.
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
I see Mike's point and DM1983z point as well. There will be ups and downs. Life is not a freakin' Disney fairy tale. Swoons won't be 24/7/365.
Nobody said its a 24/7 feeling Mr Lacroyx!! :noway: Just that you still feel it, even 60 years down the road, if you're crazy, madly, deeply about someone 0 -
My swoons last 2 weeks. Max.
I find the real world and real world stress get in the way of the "butterflies". Working long hours, paying a mortgage, and dealing with day-to-day drama really takes the wind out of my sails when it comes to swooning over a partner.
I totally get this mentality.
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
I see Mike's point and DM1983z point as well. There will be ups and downs. Life is not a freakin' Disney fairy tale. Swoons won't be 24/7/365.
Nobody said its a 24/7 feeling Mr Lacroyx!! :noway: Just that you still feel it, even 60 years down the road, if you're crazy, madly, deeply about someone
Yeah that's what I was agreeing with both points. Lifetime, I agree yes.0 -
Cuz he's Batman. He would strike fear in the hearts of criminals if he was wearing a pink tutu and ballerina slippers.
In 1995-1996 I experienced the Internet for the first time. I was at a friend's house going to a chat room. He told me to pick a name and I had no clue what to use. I looked around his room and read "lacroyx" on a cardboard box VCR. I've used that since. I've heard it is supposed to mean "The Cross" in French.2. What does Lacroyx mean?
Cesar [pronounced seh-sahr, say-zahr, or see-zahr]3. What is your real name??
I am only 1/3 of it done and ready to go home. :sad:4. Good morning, how's the night shift? It's 9.15am here and I'm just getting ready for work
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Cuz he's Batman. He would strike fear in the hearts of criminals if he was wearing a pink tutu and ballerina slippers.
In 1995-1996 I experienced the Internet for the first time. I was at a friend's house going to a chat room. He told me to pick a name and I had no clue what to use. I looked around his room and read "lacroyx" on a cardboard box VCR. I've used that since. I've heard it is supposed to mean "The Cross" in French.2. What does Lacroyx mean?
Cesar [pronounced seh-sahr, say-zahr, or see-zahr]3. What is your real name??
I am only 1/3 of it done and ready to go home. :sad:4. Good morning, how's the night shift? It's 9.15am here and I'm just getting ready for work
:flowerforyou:
Awwww, I gotta go now, otherwise we could chat. Sees ya later :flowerforyou:0 -
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
This is very sweet. :flowerforyou:
Thank you for disproving that the two week swoon is a 'guy thing'.0 -
I like swoons to last because I like the situation to be that when a woman and I are together, nothing else matter. I'm very good at being in the moment.
I like relationships to be the cocoon from the day to day nonsense. A ecosystem of fun, trust, warmth, love, etc. An ideal relationship solves a problem, not causes additional stresses.
That's how I swoon.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Now you're making me swoon DM!! :flowerforyou:
Me tooooooooo DM! I think in another life we would have been soul mates!0 -
I think this question will validate my man card for life.... so what the hell is "swoon??"0
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I think this question will validate my man card for life.... so what the hell is "swoon??"
Did you ever see Bambi? Twitterpaited.0 -
I think this question will validate my man card for life.... so what the hell is "swoon??"
Did you ever see Bambi? Twitterpaited.
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