meet me on POF, help me understand this......
4themoney
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what is the point? i am being totally genuine right now. i don't understand. i mean i get that you click yes maybe or no, but what's the point? why do you click one of those? do you click it and then hope and pray that the person you said yes to knocks on your door? ( now i'm being sarcastic obviously :-) )
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For me, it's a way to pass time when I'm bored... I call it boy shopping. I say no to almost all but when I click yes, it's my passive aggressive way to let them know I'm interested w/o me sending the 1st message. When you say yes or maybe, the person will receive a message saying you want to meet them. If you say no, nothing happens.0
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ok.
so, if a guy clicks "meet me" on YOU, are you supposed to do something? what if it's a mutual "meet me?"
i did it one night and i did have guys message asking why i clicked "meet me" on them..... LOL but i get notices that so and so wants to meet me. but, i've never messaged them or anything like that.
thank you :-)0 -
If you are really interested send them a message. There is no rule that you have to wait for them to message you.0
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ok.
so, if a guy clicks "meet me" on YOU, are you supposed to do something? what if it's a mutual "meet me?"
i did it one night and i did have guys message asking why i clicked "meet me" on them..... LOL but i get notices that so and so wants to meet me. but, i've never messaged them or anything like that.
thank you :-)
Online is a tool,another form of social interaction.
It is a sort of cattle call from both sexes and 90 + % are just throwing feelers out there because for them they found a persons picture attractive (and yes you are).
It is the start point to investigate farther into the person.0 -
I don't respond to meet me's... If I'm really interested I'll send out the flirt option but if they don't send a message, I usually ignore. Like Carl said, the person is looking at your pics so it's all based on physical attraction. Usually the guys that send me a message after they chose to meet me, went further and actually clicked into my profile and read it.
That's what I do.. If the pics grab my attention, I'll go into their profile to see if I'm really interested.0 -
It's pretty much a first impression thing....if you passed by this person on the street would you want to meet them? I don't use it, but will look at the email notifications of those who clicked on me.0
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ok. thanks everyone!!
i wasn't sure what i was supposed to do and i wasn't sure if i was being rude by ignoring someone or not doing something i should do. i'll just keep doing what i've been doing then. :-)0 -
I've used POF a few times but have not had any luck. I guess women are picky. When I'm interested in someone I send them a nice, long message introducing myself and telling them what we have in common. I always try to throw a bit of humor to break the ice. However, what I think is happening are window shoppers. If the person doesn't like your pic, no matter what is written, no response will be returned. That's why I stopped using dating sites.
I will admit I have received several flirts. That's when I go window shopping. If they are interested in me they should go one step further and write something. Otherwise I'm just not interested.
My recommendation is if you are interested in someone, send them a note. Male or female, we are all equal. You're pretty so you should be able to attract any guy you're interested in.0 -
i am so glad i asked this last night. it became very clear and i understood the meet me better. i was having the hardest time figuring out why a guy 3.5 hrs away would want to meet me!!! i never thought of it as window shopping. LOL
so, i paid closer attention to the guys that clicked it and most of them are NOT close. so, i contacted one that lives 1.5 hrs away, and he basically said he hadn't realized i lived in a different state, LOL!!!
so, i definitely get it now :-) THANK YOU!!!0 -
Ok, because this is already a POF thread, I figured I didn't need to start a new one. I signed up (again) last night, pretty much out of boredom, and started talking to a guy who lives only about 10-15 minutes from me. Seems very nice, seem to have a lot in common and he works a crazy schedule like me, which helps when trying to date with a crazy work schedule.
He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!0 -
Ok, because this is already a POF thread, I figured I didn't need to start a new one. I signed up (again) last night, pretty much out of boredom, and started talking to a guy who lives only about 10-15 minutes from me. Seems very nice, seem to have a lot in common and he works a crazy schedule like me, which helps when trying to date with a crazy work schedule.
He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
Go! It's only drinks. If you prolong meeting, you can build up a fantasy or expectation. The sooner you meet, the less invested you will be if he's not the one.0 -
Ok, because this is already a POF thread, I figured I didn't need to start a new one. I signed up (again) last night, pretty much out of boredom, and started talking to a guy who lives only about 10-15 minutes from me. Seems very nice, seem to have a lot in common and he works a crazy schedule like me, which helps when trying to date with a crazy work schedule.
He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
^ Agree just go.
While I don't believe there are any set in stone rules for dating, there are things
that people can or cannot do that can put other people off typically.
You are doing none of these things.
Enjoy
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Thanks folks. I did agree to go, figured couldn't hurt if it was only drinks. I'm just very bad at this dating stuff since I do it so little, I tend to over analyze!0
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Not one woman has ever responded to me clicking the meet me button on them without a follow up message. Totally worthless except for finding new people to message0
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He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
Accept all invitations, unless there are safety concerns.0 -
Ok, because this is already a POF thread, I figured I didn't need to start a new one. I signed up (again) last night, pretty much out of boredom, and started talking to a guy who lives only about 10-15 minutes from me. Seems very nice, seem to have a lot in common and he works a crazy schedule like me, which helps when trying to date with a crazy work schedule.
He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
Go! It's only drinks. If you prolong meeting, you can build up a fantasy or expectation. The sooner you meet, the less invested you will be if he's not the one.
^^^ Yep! Go! :bigsmile:
And dont forget to report back on Monday :bigsmile:0 -
I agree. Go!! At least he wasn't asking for sexy pics!! :-)0
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He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
Accept all invitations, unless there are safety concerns.
Unless you're not desperate and have a life outside of serial dating.
People are allowed to be discerning with their time and who they spend it with.0 -
I don't get the whole "meet me" thing either. I've actually messaged guys after they clicked "meet ME" and they didn't respond. I'm like okay WTF? My pics are the same that you saw in the meet me section but in an actual message you don't like them anymore?? Stupid feature in my opinion ....0
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Not one woman has ever responded to me clicking the meet me button on them without a follow up message. Totally worthless except for finding new people to message
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie... When I used it before, I used the "meet me" thing to let guys know I was "interested" and then they'd message me (sometimes). So I think it's really designed for girls to kind of "poke" guys and get them to make a move.
Just my interpretation.. That's how I used it.0 -
He asked me out this weekend for drinks. Is it too soon? Should I have accepted? Shoud I not have accepted? Advice? Thanks peeps!
Accept all invitations, unless there are safety concerns.
LOL, I do agree with you to a point DM. If it seems you have things in common and have exchanged a few pleasant emails and/or texts/phone calls, I say definitely go for all invites that have potential. However, because POF is free, there are far too many invites just tossed out on there.
And, back to the original question....it seems you two have clicked. I say go for it and enjoy!! 0 -
I don't get the whole "meet me" thing either. I've actually messaged guys after they clicked "meet ME" and they didn't respond. I'm like okay WTF? My pics are the same that you saw in the meet me section but in an actual message you don't like them anymore?? Stupid feature in my opinion ....
I just clicked meet me.
Seriously though, ^ what shammxo said.0 -
I didn't get the "Meet Me" thing on POF for the longest time either. While it's a bit of an ego boost to have the notifications come into my inbox, I think it's a pretty useless tool. I've never used it. Nobody who ever clicked that he wanted to meet me has sent me a message, and I never sent them one - when I looked at their profiles, I just didn't see anything I'd be attracted to or they were very poor fits (obviously they had not read my profile before clicking).
While I was on POF, I communicated with enough men who sent me messages and I initiated a couple of my own (including my now boyfriend!) so I don't really see the use of that tool since it didn't really show interest in me (interest in my photo only).0 -
Go! It's only drinks. If you prolong meeting, you can build up a fantasy or expectation. The sooner you meet, the less invested you will be if he's not the one.
^^^ Yep! Go! :bigsmile:
And dont forget to report back on Monday :bigsmile:
I will! Thanks all! We've been texting through the day today and all plans are go for drinks Saturday! Here's to first date number 482,000!0 -
i'm thinking this too. it's pretty useless. and like i said, i didn't really get it. all of the guys that clicked it did NOT message me and some of them live REALLY far from me. so, yeah. what's the point really? :-) LOL!!!
i figure, if you're interested you'll message.
yesterday, i had been messaging with one guy and then poof he deleted his acct.... married maybe? dunno. another guy we had messaged before too, and he asked for my number. i gave it to him and within 20 min he was asking for sexy/ boobie pics. LOL! i think that's the easiest way to weed out the creeps from the non creeps, so i usually do it.
another guy sent me a list of questions, that i had no problem answering. but when i asked HIM to answer them, he was like " i will do that for you" and i haven't heard back from him ( this was yesterday).
i have to say, these guys do keep me laughing. two nights ago one of them messaged me " how's it going sexy lips?" HUH?? who says something like that??? sexy lips??? gah.
oh, and i had a guy profess his love for me in his 3rd message, after i rejected him twice........ sigh ;-)I didn't get the "Meet Me" thing on POF for the longest time either. While it's a bit of an ego boost to have the notifications come into my inbox, I think it's a pretty useless tool. I've never used it. Nobody who ever clicked that he wanted to meet me has sent me a message, and I never sent them one - when I looked at their profiles, I just didn't see anything I'd be attracted to or they were very poor fits (obviously they had not read my profile before clicking).
While I was on POF, I communicated with enough men who sent me messages and I initiated a couple of my own (including my now boyfriend!) so I don't really see the use of that tool since it didn't really show interest in me (interest in my photo only).0 -
YAY!!!! have fun :-)
can't wait to hear how it goes!
Go! It's only drinks. If you prolong meeting, you can build up a fantasy or expectation. The sooner you meet, the less invested you will be if he's not the one.
^^^ Yep! Go! :bigsmile:
And dont forget to report back on Monday :bigsmile:
I will! Thanks all! We've been texting through the day today and all plans are go for drinks Saturday! Here's to first date number 482,000!0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 2 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?
I have 6 clothed pictures, collared shirts. facebook type photos. Classy and well dressed. No luck. Then last week I added my current profile pic on there but not as profile, it's just the last pic and put the caption as Halloween 2012...so it's obvious it's just a costume. no difference in responses. It doesnt matter. I recently took it back down. but it won't make a difference. None of my pics really show my body or highlight that I am quite fit which is a shame but then again it seems girls hate profile pics of guys with any skin showing0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?
I have 6 clothed pictures, collared shirts. facebook type photos. Classy and well dressed. No luck. Then last week I added my current profile pic on there but not as profile, it's just the last pic and put the caption as Halloween 2012...so it's obvious it's just a costume. no difference in responses. It doesnt matter. I recently took it back down. but it won't make a difference. None of my pics really show my body or highlight that I am quite fit which is a shame but then again it seems girls hate profile pics of guys with any skin showing
You're going after the wrong girls!
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