meet me on POF, help me understand this......
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Not one woman has ever responded to me clicking the meet me button on them without a follow up message. Totally worthless except for finding new people to message
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie... When I used it before, I used the "meet me" thing to let guys know I was "interested" and then they'd message me (sometimes). So I think it's really designed for girls to kind of "poke" guys and get them to make a move.
Just my interpretation.. That's how I used it.
I thought the same0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?
I have 6 clothed pictures, collared shirts. facebook type photos. Classy and well dressed. No luck. Then last week I added my current profile pic on there but not as profile, it's just the last pic and put the caption as Halloween 2012...so it's obvious it's just a costume. no difference in responses. It doesnt matter. I recently took it back down. but it won't make a difference. None of my pics really show my body or highlight that I am quite fit which is a shame but then again it seems girls hate profile pics of guys with any skin showing
You're going after the wrong girls!
Aren't you both in CA? Hmmm, how far apart are you? Can I wave my magic matchmaker wand?
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I use to be on POF and I thought the whole thing was a waste of time. My profile stated looking for a relationship and I would get messages from men who wanted an activity partner or friends. I also would finally start talking to a descent guy and yep, all he wants to do is see you naked. The 'Meet Me' button was just to pass time for me and that still didn't give off any results. Had enough of that and deleted my account.0
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Yeah i tried to explain this before.
POF and most other online dating sites are so heavily favored for
women it is retarded. Women get all kinds of responses.
Men do this -> Send 50 Emails -> get 10 responses -> convo
with 5 -> get 3 numbers -> hook up with one.
While some cases are better than others, the last time i made
an account i actually got a decent amount of responses,
for the most part it is crap as a man. To be honest, I think that women
seriously look down on meeting people online, so you have an inherit disadvantage
while trying to talk to one.
Their disney fantasy never involved a guy chatting with them online,
so god forbid they take it seriously. While I understand that is a generalization,
and that some women simply don't think that way you would be
surprised at how many who detest the idea. Long story short, I stopped wasting
my time. I figured once my life gets more stable as far as school and such
I will simply just talk to women in real life. You seem to get much less of a bias
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POF in general is worthless.
made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?
I have 6 clothed pictures, collared shirts. facebook type photos. Classy and well dressed. No luck. Then last week I added my current profile pic on there but not as profile, it's just the last pic and put the caption as Halloween 2012...so it's obvious it's just a costume. no difference in responses. It doesnt matter. I recently took it back down. but it won't make a difference. None of my pics really show my body or highlight that I am quite fit which is a shame but then again it seems girls hate profile pics of guys with any skin showing
You're going after the wrong girls!
Guess so. I had more luck the last time I used the site a few years ago.
But now it is seriously like dead silence on the other end. The lack of responses is surprising really.
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See, I feel the same way as a woman. I've sent a ton of messages, very little responses. Now I am getting a ton of messages, but from men that I either A) don't find attractive,
Live too far away from me or C) way too different in age range.
It's all luck of the draw.0 -
See, I feel the same way as a woman. I've sent a ton of messages, very little responses. Now I am getting a ton of messages, but from men that I either A) don't find attractive, Live too far away from me or C) way too different in age range.
It's all luck of the draw.
Let me give you an example of the amount of dumb that comes from these sites.
Apparently women, even in the online world, believe that one way or another a man should email them.
This may or may not, be simply because they get so many emails in general, or because of some ridiculous
standards that are inapplicable to an online set up.
The times I have gotten emails from women, off the bat, one in particular, the convo was this:
Her email - "Hey"
(My head almost exploded right here because HER PROFILE said, don't send her an email without
having something to talk about, aka not "hey")
My response - "Hey"
(I did this because I figure if someone if going to email me, then maybe they should actually try and converse?)
Her response - "Hey"
(LOL, stop talking there)
This isn't the norm though, guys (unless you are a model, or some circumstance where you will
get millions of emails from women, which i guess is possible) we don't get many. We get maybe
1-5ish depending on the week, while most women
here would acknowledge they get that many + much more a day.
It is a waste of time imo. Not only that, the ridiculous standards women set online is mind numbing.0 -
I have gotten one in the past week. it said "how are you". huge double standards on that site.0
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I seem to be the exception to every rule here. I send out emails all the time, and it's usually with conversations starters. But I'm very much a "I see what I want and go for it" type of gal. I don't wait too long for someone else to make the first move.0
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I really would rather he email first. I don't know if it's old fashioned, or what. I've found that the best way to get an email from a guy I'm really interested in on there is to make him a "favorite". So many have emailed within a day of me doing that. They usually say something about having wanted to email me, but didn't were still trying to find the words (or something to that effect). Anyway, it's been about 99% effective in at least getting an initial email started. If it's someone I'm really interested in, I will email a quick personalized hello.
trojanbb - I know when you're sending out a ton of emails it's hard to personalize each, but we can tell if it's your standard note to all. So, for the ones you're really interested in, try to identify something in her profile (other than her pictures) that caught your eye. No matter what, if a guy writes me a nice email, I always respond and give him the benefit of the doubt.0 -
I have gotten one in the past week. it said "how are you". huge double standards on that site.
Extremely true.
And I agree with Run, if you personalize your message, you're more likely to get a response. It doesn't have to be a super long e-mail, but give a good indication that you really read her profile.0 -
what is the point? i am being totally genuine right now. i don't understand. i mean i get that you click yes maybe or no, but what's the point? why do you click one of those? do you click it and then hope and pray that the person you said yes to knocks on your door? ( now i'm being sarcastic obviously :-) )
you click it and then when they are free they click it and then you go make sex.0 -
POF in general is worthless.
made an account 2 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.
My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.
Well I would say the same thing on the female side. If I find someone attractive I look at their profile and read it all. If we seem like we would really click I send them a message to try to get conversation started. Very few times have I ever actually had someone respond and even fewer have asked me to meet up. When I did get asked to meet up (a whole 2 times) one of them stood me up and one of them hung around for a while but then just stopped talking to me. The rest of the messages I get are asking about serial interaction and I haven't even said hi yet and that is nasty.0 -
it is actually a misnomer females get a lot of messages. POF is like fishing in a mudpuddle...0
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I just gave online dating the final chance after I got this message from telling a guy I wasn't interested: "f**k you to h*ll c**t"
*sigh*0 -
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TwistedRider wrote: »
Ugh. I just don't understand the point of being rude. This is why women don't like telling guys we aren't interested. Most of them can't handle it.
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For me it's fun and entertaining.
I met a few nice ppl there too
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Here is my newest experience with online dating.I always thought it was a hoax just to sell paid date sites.I was on them 6months or more with nothing but setups and rejections without even meeting anyone in person.Then I started getting messages from POF and OK Cupid.Went on a couple of dates and it was pretty cool,then I met a girl who I have been with now for 4 months and we are going strong.I am happy now!!1
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