It`s just emotion
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I'm still confused as to why most of you think that emotion translates to drama!! ?? :huh:
I see it as a syllogism. Not all emotion is drama, but all drama is emotion. The drama talk came up when we were discussing how guys SAY they don't like drama, but ditch you for not being drama.
Like I said I have emotions, I just try and keep the negative to myself until I have a bit of time to process and understand it. I have no problem being happy/excited/funny/laughing/etc.0 -
I don`t get the guys being pissed off because a lady does not get jealous thing.
I would be annoyed if one was jealous endlessly over everything.
More and more I think I am an aberration as a guy.
I'm with you Carl, I've never met a guy that appreciated a jealous partner. Maybe it's our age........:laugh:0 -
I'm still confused as to why most of you think that emotion translates to drama!! ?? :huh:
I see it as a syllogism. Not all emotion is drama, but all drama is emotion. The drama talk came up when we were discussing how guys SAY they don't like drama, but ditch you for not being drama.
Like I said I have emotions, I just try and keep the negative to myself until I have a bit of time to process and understand it. I have no problem being happy/excited/funny/laughing/etc.
Everyone has emotion. Everyone!! So yeah, I suppose everything in life is pretty much led by emotions. But the most drama I've ever seen in my life is created by people NOT out of emotion, but out of a weird/evil sense of boredom or attention. But yes, I suppose even boredom is emotional...........I get your point......:laugh:0 -
I don`t get the guys being pissed off because a lady does not get jealous thing.
I would be annoyed if one was jealous endlessly over everything.
More and more I think I am an aberration as a guy.
I'm with you Carl, I've never met a guy that appreciated a jealous partner. Maybe it's our age........:laugh:
So you're saying I should date older men!
I try but they think I'm too young.
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I like men who can deal with their emotions and not expect the woman to do all the "feeling" for them, but that doesn't mean they have to be all metro/dramatic/emo on me.
The biggest thing for me is if something bothers him does he address it (good for my personality style) or does he stuff it, ignore it, and hope it goes away (bad for me because I'll continue on like everything is ok and will likely rack up more offenses this way).
I also look for a man who does not invalidate a woman's emotions by saying things like "you're just a silly emotional woman" or "it must be that time of the month" when the real problem is he just doesn't want to fess up, deal with it, or face the issue. Sometimes it *is* that time of the month, but that doesn't mean my feelings should be dismissed.0 -
oh this totally does not put me in a good mood, LOL!
you would NEVER know when i was " on my time of the month." why? because my moods do not change. if i'm in a sour mood, it's because of something other than my period. but guys immediately go to " you must be on your period" if you're in a bad mood. gah!!!! to men i can tease with or men i don't know and will never see again i make similar comments. i will ask them if THEY are on THEIR periods if they get pissy.
it's like we can't have a bad day until we are PMSing, LOL!!!!!I also look for a man who does not invalidate a woman's emotions by saying things like "you're just a silly emotional woman" or "it must be that time of the month" when the real problem is he just doesn't want to fess up, deal with it, or face the issue. Sometimes it *is* that time of the month, but that doesn't mean my feelings should be dismissed.0 -
I will communicate why Im being irrational and oversensitive so you dont have to guess. All I expect in return is a hug and an Ok Baby, you know you're crazy right? And I'll nod and its over.0
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Emotions are emotions. Communication would be nice though. Cause if no one speaks about what's going on that's when things go wrong. I am a talker, I want to talk issues out, I find it hard to cope with people that withdraw and think all over for ages. I can cope with it, if you let me know this is what you are doing but I am getting cranky when I am being shut off without further warning and then get it in the neck weeks later for not rightly figuring out what's going on
Saying that, I can be rather emotional detached and do not have to talk about everything at once and instantly... all in all I pretty much agree with yoovie0 -
I strongly disagree that emotion and drama are in the same arena. I'm very emotional, but I avoid drama like the plague!!
Of course, you're British.
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i think guys are so used to women being emotionally up their butts......
I have had guys stop seeing me for exactly this reason - I wasn't jealous/angry/etc enough so they didn't feel needed or appreciated. And every single one of them claimed to hate drama.
I've found myself very very interested in a man who is like this. Emotional and craves attention, when he doesn't get it he goes into a pout and gets pissy. Since this isn't me, I'm definitely pulling back.
I'm not claiming I'm any less emotional than the average person, but that doesn't mean I should find it attractive in a mate.0
