I'm Fatter Than My Husband
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I think the lesson there is that if you are a rotten b*tch you're gonna end up with a fat, stupid husband, and if you are fat and stupid you'll have a hot b*tchy wife.
I'm OK with that.
Exactly. Proves my point. Guys just want a trophy. Period.
You take the word of one guy out of 3 billion (and not any average guy, Mr Thighgap-fake boob-barbie doll lover himself!) and call it correct?? I despair............:noway:0 -
I think the lesson there is that if you are a rotten b*tch you're gonna end up with a fat, stupid husband, and if you are fat and stupid you'll have a hot b*tchy wife.
I'm OK with that.
Exactly. Proves my point. Guys just want a trophy. Period.
1. Deep down, Mike is kidding
2. Learn quickly not to take Mike as gospel!
3. I read your profile...you are a pretty girl...so negative about yourself.... don't seek male opinions that back up those feelings. It won't help!0 -
I read the article and I disagree with the main flavor of the thread in the sense everyone feels the guy is a douche.
If husband and wife cannot be open and honest with each other then what is the point. He said she doesnt turn him on anymore essentially. That isnt wrong, that needs to be said. Is it okay if one partner feels the other is continually selfish to say something? I dont see any difference.
It has nothing to do with only wanting a trophy wife or anything like that. People age and grow and all sorts of fun things but yes I know that if I got married and put on 50 lbs or got a big old gut I would want my partner of all people to say something.0 -
It has nothing to do with only wanting a trophy wife or anything like that. People age and grow and all sorts of fun things but yes I know that if I got married and put on 50 lbs or got a big old gut I would want my partner of all people to say something.
Yeah, they could say something. But there are respectful and tactful ways to say that kind of stuff without tearing someone down in the process.0 -
True, there are ways to say it better and clearly no one here appreciated the way he made his point. But really we dont know if he actually said it that way or how they communicate as a couple or anything.
How he said it is In my opinion less important then the fact I believe it did need to be said. They are husband and wife not kids dating. So they have heard or said worse to each other I am sure.0 -
Regardless of whether or not it needed to be said, which it may have(Idk what she looks like...) I just think it's disrespectful and doesn't show a whole lot of love. If you love someone, I don't think you should talk to them like that. To me it was like he was saying, "If you weighed less I'd totally bang you more. But now you're fat and I don't want to touch you."
But you're right that we don't know how they communicate... Maybe that's just how they talk to one another. Maybe they both bite at each other a lot.
Either way, I certainly wouldn't want a man who is supposed to love me talking to me like that. He'd get hit with a baseball bat
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As everyone knows, when you love someone it is forever and regardless of everything that happens...
Other possibility: the lady was sure that she "had" the guy, became lazy, started letting herself go and stopped making any efforts.
What's wrong with wanting to be "seduced" by your partner? To want to have sex with your partner?0 -
I think the lesson there is that if you are a rotten b*tch you're gonna end up with a fat, stupid husband, and if you are fat and stupid you'll have a hot b*tchy wife.
I'm OK with that.
Exactly. Proves my point. Guys just want a trophy. Period.
1. Deep down, Mike is kidding
2. Learn quickly not to take Mike as gospel!
3. I read your profile...you are a pretty girl...so negative about yourself.... don't seek male opinions that back up those feelings. It won't help!
:laugh: Wait. People don't take what as I say as gospel?0 -
i'm so gonna start!!! ;-)
:laugh: Wait. People don't take what as I say as gospel?0 -
Yes...I agree the topic is frustrating.
For Janie..and all the other tall or short, large framed, wide shouldered women....
I am only 5'8 and my goal weight is about 175-180. A size 12 is probably a possibility for me. I am nowhere near that yet!
In order for me to lose what I have and to continue to my goal, the first thing I had to do was come to terms with my body.. I will never be a size 6. I will never be short and tiny. But there is such beauty in being strong, capable, broad and well proportioned. Our bigger bodies can do things! We have incredible stength, stamina, and I am willing to bet you tend to be ridiculously healthy as well. We can lift stuff. We can build muscle. We will probably not ever have brittle bones!
The right men don't care if your pants are a 16. They don't notice that bit you haven't lost yet. They don't wonder how much you weigh. The keepers care that you are happy, fulfilled and confident. That you take care of yourself and celebrate your own unique strengths. Plus size, larger or not...this isn't about "fat acceptance"...it is just about coming to terms with people coming in different sized packages..and finding that all of them really are beautiful.
Thank God for this - I'm at work, and I can't scream out loud at how unbelievably irritating, frustrating, infuriating this thread is.
Janie, you're beautiful, by any standard. You may be a size 16, but it's a toned, elegant 16 - and that's OK. That's more than OK. Would you be able to do the job you love so much as well if you were less strong, if your shoulders weren't quite as wide? Would you be able to lift your son and swing him around in joy?! (Even if you can't anymore, I bet you could a lot longer than the smaller girls you seem to so envy could with their kids!). That 30lbs? Muscle, strength, endurance... If the clothing tags bother you that much, cut them out. A 12, or a 16 or an 8 looks mighty different on different people. A friend and I , who wore the same size at the time, were in a costume fitting once, and the wardrobe assistant, trusting her 'eye', without checking our measurement sheets, brought out stock costumes for us to try. I have a much bigger build than my friend, yet the costumes she brought out for me were two sizes smaller than those she brought for my friend (and two sizes too small!). Same size - totally different appearance. You do not look like you wear a 16 in that photo, even if it mattered, which it really, really doesn't.
My stats - my goal weight, height, frame are similar to SB's and no amount of wishing, or dieting, or punishing myself for being born like this - an 11.5lb-at-birth, unique combination of my Scottish Highlander and Northern European genetic codes that gives me size 42 feet (I think it's a US 11?), shoulders wider than the vast majority of my male friends', and a rib cage and pelvis that will never fit anything smaller than a US 10-12/UK 14, even if I never ate again. It also gives me a rib cage expansion that allows me to project my voice over a 50-piece orchestra, to fill a 2000-seat theatre. It gives me presence on a stage. It means I can get myself, and two heavy suitcases, across any major city in the world, by public transport, without collapsing in a heap, halfway. All very, very good things.
We humans come in so many wonderful variations of frame, of size, of muscularity or litheness. We are born that way - from the 5lb baby to the 13lb baby. It's nonsensical that we seem to expect that all adults should all somehow magically conform to one idea of what is 'right', or 'healthy' or 'beautiful'. It's beyond time we stopped beating ourselves up, denigrating ourselves for something that is beyond our control - the frame we were born with. I can eat sensibly and exercise 'til I'm slim, but I'll never wear single-figure sizes. That doesn't make me worth any less, or any less beautiful, or competent, or capable, or interesting, or attractive. That makes me, 'me'.0 -
an 11.5lb-at-birth.
Your poor mum! :indifferent:0 -
i read a guys profile once that actually said " if your clothing size is bigger than your shoe size, move along."
well, that works if you have really big feet..... but there are women that have SMALL feet. meaning he'd be looking for the teenagers or the women who haven't had kids who LOOK like teenagers...... though, i wonder, if he had woman placed in front of him, would he be able to figure out WHO wore a size larger than their shoe size?!?!?!?!
i was heavier than my ex for most of our marriage. mainly because i was almost always preggo and nursing. he was ALWAYS a fitness fanatic, and i wasn't. when we met he was working out two hours a day, every day. i went several times a week, but nothing like him. this is how it was in our marriage too. last night he dropped the kids off and we got talking about a local gym. turns out, he's a member of TWO gyms in the area!!! one that is 24 hrs and one that is just closer to home. LOL. he's really really serious about his fitness. he was more serious about that than he ever was about being married, being a husband, or being a dad.
i can't say i was ok, or am ok, weighing more than a guy. but, i don't think most people realize just what i weigh....... i think most people would be surprised. i wear very fitted clothing on a daily basis, and i don't have rolls, or bulges or muffin tops.... as one or two guys have put it, i'm TIGHT/ TONEd ( though i hate that word). i have had guys that i've just met grab the backs of my arms and comment.
i don't like my body. eventually i will.0 -
i read a guys profile once that actually said " if your clothing size is bigger than your shoe size, move along."
My shoes are a size 3! :noway: :noway: :noway: :noway:0 -
an 11.5lb-at-birth.
Your poor mum! :indifferent:
C-section... :happy: My sister was even bigger (she's just shy of 6 ft, wears a size 44 shoe, and has shoulders another quarter as wide again. Plays ice-hockey on the boys team, and towers over most of the consultants in the hospital in her flat feet, let alone the 3-4in heels she prefers!) Poor Mummy, indeed - that one was natural! :frown:0 -
an 11.5lb-at-birth.
Your poor mum! :indifferent:
C-section... :happy: My sister was even bigger (she's just shy of 6 ft, wears a size 44 shoe, and has shoulders another quarter as wide again. Plays ice-hockey on the boys team, and towers over most of the consultants in the hospital in her flat feet, let alone the 3-4in heels she prefers!) Poor Mummy, indeed - that one was natural! :frown:
Powerful viking ladies! I love it!
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