what do you do when
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I enjoy your threads! Thanks!
THANK YOU!! i am so scatterbrained that half the time i'm sure i'm not making any sense. i tend to type like i would talk, and sometimes the conversation in my head just does not flow well to my finger and computer screen ;-)You're not that invested which definitely helps with making a clear decision to try again or keep moving. I am seeing someone now too and he's on the online dating site everyday! However, he calls me every night and we see eachother every weekend! Don't get it... :-/ It's been 2 months. Avoid that if you can... I'm still trying to figure things out.
i can't say i get it either.
we just such a visual, instant gratification society.........0 -
according to john grey, the mars/ venus guy, THIS is what we are supposed to do ( as women).
be polite and friendly if they disappear for a while. that if he comes back, even if it's weeks later, it's a good sign!
that men are like rubberbands. they NEED to pull away in order to spring back and get close. and before they find someone to settle down with, they need to be able to do this several times. to make sure they CAN pull away, and to learn that they miss the person enough to spring back!!!!
but, i am thinking that standing someone up, is not really the same as " the houdini" .............. maybe i'm wrong though. i dunno :-)
if that person contacts you again afterwards do you talk to them?
This has happened quite a few times....where a guy has dropped off the planet for a couple weeks and then sends a text. If he's someone that I'd be interested in keeping as a friend, I'll send him a friendly text in reply, but nothing flirty. If he attempts to start flirtiing again, I'll play it by ear.0 -
according to john grey, the mars/ venus guy, THIS is what we are supposed to do ( as women).
be polite and friendly if they disappear for a while. that if he comes back, even if it's weeks later, it's a good sign!
that men are like rubberbands. they NEED to pull away in order to spring back and get close. and before they find someone to settle down with, they need to be able to do this several times. to make sure they CAN pull away, and to learn that they miss the person enough to spring back!!!!
but, i am thinking that standing someone up, is not really the same as " the houdini" .............. maybe i'm wrong though. i dunno :-)
You know, that's really interesting. The cowboy I'm seeing now did this. Just all of a sudden....poof. I wrote him off thinking ok, whatever. Then out of nowhere, he starts contacting me again. Said he got super busy with work. Ok, I can handle that. I'll just wait and see what happens next!
if that person contacts you again afterwards do you talk to them?
This has happened quite a few times....where a guy has dropped off the planet for a couple weeks and then sends a text. If he's someone that I'd be interested in keeping as a friend, I'll send him a friendly text in reply, but nothing flirty. If he attempts to start flirtiing again, I'll play it by ear.0 -
I usually don't care. There are several people that have poofed on me and honestly I can't really name them - I just have a vague memory of being aware that I was poofed on and then moving on to the next guy.
I don't understand why people dwell so much, or need to know "why". I always just figure he didn't like something about me, and I don't care enough to try and change for a stranger danger anyway. Meh.0 -
I don't know, I'm kinda with Anna .. not everyone is perfect. You aren't dating exclusively, so in theory he doesn't owe you anything. If you really like them, give them another chance. If you were iffy to begin with, don't.
Most people won't be honest anyway if you ask them.
I wish that some people would be more flexible and realize the world doesn't revolve around them and only them .. not that I am saying you think that .. but people have *kitten* going on in their lives and need some understanding. Some people are straight up liars. You have to decide if that person is worth you trying to find out which it is. shrugs.0 -
someone blows you off?
do you just move on or do you contact them?
do you feel better if you do one vs. the other?
if that person contacts you again afterwards do you talk to them?
i'm curious. :-) i don't have any single friends in real life that i can ask these kinds of questions.
thanks!
I'll usually throw one mesg their way asking if I did or said something to offend them. But if they continue to ignore me, I'm not about to chase someone who doesn't want to talk to me, no matter how much it might hurt. And it does sometimes!
If they contact me after a time, yes, I talk to them. I'm a softy that way, and once someone is in my life, I want them to stay there-for the most part. I care about them as people and want to know what they are up to.0
