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Do you feel your weight has kept you single?

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  • maryb26
    maryb26 Posts: 2 Member
    I think it affects the men who would be interested in me.
  • mmartinez_az
    mmartinez_az Posts: 580
    Not really, its just a lack of luck in the fact of finding the right one.
  • scubasuenc
    scubasuenc Posts: 626 Member
    I'm not sure my weight has kept me single, or I have used it as an excuse. Basically I have disliked myself so much, that I had a low opinion of any man who showed interest because he was into fat women. Really stupid I know.

    I have used my fat as armor. I have made it into a much bigger issue with the opposite sex that it really is. By doing that I could blame everything on the weight and not deal with the underlying self esteem issues.
  • becs3578
    becs3578 Posts: 836 Member
    Weight affected how other saw me.. and how I saw myself.. Since losing about 40 lbs (with about 10 to go).. I can see myself as desirable (Well to a point, ha).. and see that someone might be interested in me. Before I just couldnt see that. I spent over 4 years alone.. without going on a date and hiding myself away. About to end a relationship of about 4 months.. but I see it an a positive thing and something that is a building bblock of who I want to be and who I want to be with.

    For me the weightloss, strength and confidence I have gained (a lot of credit goes to crossfit).. is the reason I can see myself finding a healthy and family relationship.. and that I will not stay in one that isnt really where I should be staying.
  • Leoness726
    Leoness726 Posts: 14 Member
    I don't believe my weight has kept me single, I believe that I have kept me single. There are plenty of men and women out there who don't mind or even prefer a larger woman, but because I don't personally feel comfortable, confident, or happy with how I look and feel I don't tend to go out of my way to meet anyone. It's in my own head, it's my own problem.

    I believe there is someone for everyone, but you have to be ready for that to happen. I have been overweight my whole life and I've had several partners, none of which minded the weight. It has only been the last few years when I really piled on weight that I made the choice to stop trying or even thinking about having someone.

    People are beautiful and sexy at all shapes and sizes, it only comes down to how YOU feel. Will every man or woman be attracted to someone overweight? No, of course not. You have to accept that not everyone you are attracted to will be attracted to you, but it doesn't mean there aren't any at all.

    Ultimately, I think it's important that you do what you need to do to feel confident in yourself. Whether that's losing weight, or maybe talking to a therapist about confidence issues, or anything else that can help you exude the beautiful person you are so that others can see it, too. :flowerforyou:

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