does anybody else do this??
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Well as you all know.. I have a particular fondness for Mike! I really can't explain it..but I love the extreme, non-nonsense, tell it how he sees it approach, and I've always thought much of it was just to stir up debate or have a little fun. Perhaps I don't believe anyone would actually be that extreme in real life!
Considering I am the antithesis of anyone M would ever date.. I'm not sure why it works.. but I love that man!
I kinda figured that too, that's why I said he's a caricature. I don't believe he's representative of a real person.
Certainly wouldn't call it no-nonsense though. More like all-nonsense hahahaha!0 -
oh i know there are men just like mike. i've enjoyed reading their conquests and such. but there are men that aren't nomadic in relationships. they want "the ONE" and over at BB.com they call it 'oneitis.' LOL! the part that rough is that they treat "the one" like they treat "not the one." so, she doesn't get that in his eyes, she's special :-)0
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Didn't know I garnered so much attention on here!
@Castadiva. I'm originally from eastern Pennsylvania. Which is becoming a big commuter spot for people who work in New York City and even Philadelphia. Both of those major cities are a hike and I wouldn't want to deal with that commute, but a lot of my neighbors growing up worked in NYC.
@Anna. I have a VERY hard time believing that you don't encounter men like me in London. They might not be so forthright about it, but I can guarantee you that a lot think the same way I do. Yes, there are regional differences, but men are still men.
I'll be the first to admit that I strive to be jaw-dropping when I post on here. I think the only way to express my opinion among so many strong and outspoken women is to be pretty extreme as well. However, I do speak the truth. Consider my posts a window into the male mind. Grab a pencil and take notes.
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I enjoy a good debate (shocking, I know...), so occasionally I do check in specifically to see what Mike has said, because I can pretty much guarantee that'll provoke some response :laugh: DM a little less so, perhaps because he's here less often anyway, and is more concise, less inclined to say things that make me cringe on an almost-every-post basis (though I sometimes think Mike enjoys being a provocateur), and just occasionally, says something I actually agree with (shock, horror!). I do try always to express myself politely and not to 'ram' anyone though, even if I vehemently disagree with what they're saying, and say so!
I agree with this. I think DM comes at topics in a very logical way, if statistics say men tend to like women in their 20's DM will support that, I don't think he is trying to provoke people. Mike tends to start a *kitten* storm, sometimes it's entertaining. I tend to agree with him on not kissing posters a$$es, but sometimes he's just being an *kitten* and he probably knows it when he's doing it. I don't think Mike represents most men though, I'd say Roadie or Will seem like most the dudes I know.0 -
Hmm... "Oneitis" would normally considered a pretty bad thing and normally means you haven't been with nearly enough women to realise that no woman is in fact special.oh i know there are men just like mike. i've enjoyed reading their conquests and such. but there are men that aren't nomadic in relationships. they want "the ONE" and over at BB.com they call it 'oneitis.' LOL! the part that rough is that they treat "the one" like they treat "not the one." so, she doesn't get that in his eyes, she's special :-)
I doubt they use the term with fondness but rather to make fun of the dude who is into this "one" woman and are probably encouraging him to get over her.
The other aspect of this is that if you have been with enough women, you are inclined to realise that all women have their share of problem and not put the woman you are interested in on a pedestal, thus minimizing the chances of a oneitis and optimising your chances of success with the said woman.
I think it should happen naturally though, you shouldn't be forcing it (i.e. playing games to look "disinterested").0 -
normally means you haven't been with nearly enough women to realise that no woman is in fact special.
That is so sad. Are you really that jaded?0 -
There is a lot of overlap in the way Mike and I perceive topics relevant to single life. However, I wouldn't say that we agree 100% of the time.
I actually dont liken you to Mike at all. You're never rude, sarcastic or criticising, just matter of fact :flowerforyou:
I like to be very matter of fact.
Perhaps that is why Kits thinks I am a robot. 0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:0 -
There is a lot of overlap in the way Mike and I perceive topics relevant to single life. However, I wouldn't say that we agree 100% of the time.
I actually dont liken you to Mike at all. You're never rude, sarcastic or criticising, just matter of fact :flowerforyou:
I like to be very matter of fact. Perhaps that is why Kits thinks I am a robot.
To be fair, one of my favorite characters of all time is Data from TNG.0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?
No, she's a very sweet and hard working woman that had it rough early on in life. She married and got pregnant young, her husband went to jail and she had to raise her son on her own. Lived on practically nothing until she met "Tom". He promised her that if she kept herself up she never had to work a day in her life ever again. They have a nice house, horses (which she loves), motorized toys, take nice vacations and she has everything she ever wanted...but "freedom" to be who she wants to be, she has to be what he wants.
I guess you have to make a choice in life what you want. If you can give up something for another and be happy, then go for it. But now, after 5 years of this "arrangement" she's miserable, but is afraid to go back on her own. She wants to get a job so she has her own money, but he won't let her. She feels like she's in prison...0 -
Well as you all know.. I have a particular fondness for Mike! I really can't explain it..but I love the extreme, non-nonsense, tell it how he sees it approach, and I've always thought much of it was just to stir up debate or have a little fun. Perhaps I don't believe anyone would actually be that extreme in real life!
Considering I am the antithesis of anyone M would ever date.. I'm not sure why it works.. but I love that man!
Don't forget the booties when you visit :laugh:0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?
No, she's a very sweet and hard working woman that had it rough early on in life. She married and got pregnant young, her husband went to jail and she had to raise her son on her own. Lived on practically nothing until she met "Tom". He promised her that if she kept herself up she never had to work a day in her life ever again. They have a nice house, horses (which she loves), motorized toys, take nice vacations and she has everything she ever wanted...but "freedom" to be who she wants to be, she has to be what he wants.
I guess you have to make a choice in life what you want. If you can give up something for another and be happy, then go for it. But now, after 5 years of this "arrangement" she's miserable, but is afraid to go back on her own. She wants to get a job so she has her own money, but he won't let her. She feels like she's in prison...
So basically she choose to be arm candy and submerge her personality. Of course she is miserable but honeslty cant blame the guy on this one. He told her what he wanted she decided she was willing to do it to get what she wanted. It was a buisness transaction0 -
I think Patrick is cute so I like to see him post. :blushing:
Having a crappy day, but this made it a bit brighter. Thanks. :flowerforyou:
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Well as you all know.. I have a particular fondness for Mike! I really can't explain it..but I love the extreme, non-nonsense, tell it how he sees it approach, and I've always thought much of it was just to stir up debate or have a little fun. Perhaps I don't believe anyone would actually be that extreme in real life!
Considering I am the antithesis of anyone M would ever date.. I'm not sure why it works.. but I love that man!
Don't forget the booties when you visit :laugh:
:-) Nice one.
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I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?
No, she's a very sweet and hard working woman that had it rough early on in life. She married and got pregnant young, her husband went to jail and she had to raise her son on her own. Lived on practically nothing until she met "Tom". He promised her that if she kept herself up she never had to work a day in her life ever again. They have a nice house, horses (which she loves), motorized toys, take nice vacations and she has everything she ever wanted...but "freedom" to be who she wants to be, she has to be what he wants.
I guess you have to make a choice in life what you want. If you can give up something for another and be happy, then go for it. But now, after 5 years of this "arrangement" she's miserable, but is afraid to go back on her own. She wants to get a job so she has her own money, but he won't let her. She feels like she's in prison...
So basically she choose to be arm candy and submerge her personality. Of course she is miserable but honeslty cant blame the guy on this one. He told her what he wanted she decided she was willing to do it to get what she wanted. It was a buisness transaction
Exactly.
If she's so miserable, she should just leave. No one is forcing her to stay with this man. She wants to be so independent so bad, she should grow a spine and bail on him.
However, it sounds like all this "bad stuff" that this guy does, doesn't outweigh the nice house, motorized toys, and nice vacations in her mind.
As always, I think we are only getting a slight fraction of the entire story here. I'm sure there is much more to the situation (maybe she does love him..?)0 -
Well as you all know.. I have a particular fondness for Mike! I really can't explain it..but I love the extreme, non-nonsense, tell it how he sees it approach, and I've always thought much of it was just to stir up debate or have a little fun. Perhaps I don't believe anyone would actually be that extreme in real life!
Considering I am the antithesis of anyone M would ever date.. I'm not sure why it works.. but I love that man!
Don't forget the booties when you visit :laugh:
.. and the promise not to get a fingerprint on anything!0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?
No, she's a very sweet and hard working woman that had it rough early on in life. She married and got pregnant young, her husband went to jail and she had to raise her son on her own. Lived on practically nothing until she met "Tom". He promised her that if she kept herself up she never had to work a day in her life ever again. They have a nice house, horses (which she loves), motorized toys, take nice vacations and she has everything she ever wanted...but "freedom" to be who she wants to be, she has to be what he wants.
I guess you have to make a choice in life what you want. If you can give up something for another and be happy, then go for it. But now, after 5 years of this "arrangement" she's miserable, but is afraid to go back on her own. She wants to get a job so she has her own money, but he won't let her. She feels like she's in prison...
So basically she choose to be arm candy and submerge her personality. Of course she is miserable but honeslty cant blame the guy on this one. He told her what he wanted she decided she was willing to do it to get what she wanted. It was a buisness transaction
Oh, I completely agree. And more than likely she thought she'd be happy like this. I guess what I'm saying is that men like Mike exist. And there are women that are like my mom's friend that entertain their philosophies. Do I want that, even if I was blonde, petite and fit, no. Could I do a "sugardaddy" arrangement and be happy, no. But that doesn't mean it's wrong. But if that's the life you choice you need to own it. Every situation has ups and downs.0 -
I know men like Mike in real life and I typically ignore them. One is married to a good friend of my mother's. He's 48, balding with a beer gut and he's 5'10 if he's lucky and he feels the need to have a pretty little thing of his arm and if women aren't thin, blonde and knock outs they aren't worth his time. His wife is 44, looks like she's 20, size 3, dresses provocatively and constantly lives in fear of gaining weight and getting older and not being enough to "keep her man". I'd prefer my life, even if I look 34, am a size 6, and doubt live in fear of not being enough for the one I love.
This guy is 5'10", has a beer gut, and my personality.. and he's dating a younger woman who looks 20, is a size 3, and keeps in shape. Sounds like this guy wins in every aspect of getting a woman. This guy might even be my new personal hero.
A lot of guys might want to take note here :laugh:
I was thinking the same thing. This scenario doesn't sound real at all. Is she a horrid rotten bully of a person that deserves this guy or something?
No, she's a very sweet and hard working woman that had it rough early on in life. She married and got pregnant young, her husband went to jail and she had to raise her son on her own. Lived on practically nothing until she met "Tom". He promised her that if she kept herself up she never had to work a day in her life ever again. They have a nice house, horses (which she loves), motorized toys, take nice vacations and she has everything she ever wanted...but "freedom" to be who she wants to be, she has to be what he wants.
I guess you have to make a choice in life what you want. If you can give up something for another and be happy, then go for it. But now, after 5 years of this "arrangement" she's miserable, but is afraid to go back on her own. She wants to get a job so she has her own money, but he won't let her. She feels like she's in prison...
So basically she choose to be arm candy and submerge her personality. Of course she is miserable but honeslty cant blame the guy on this one. He told her what he wanted she decided she was willing to do it to get what she wanted. It was a buisness transaction
Oh, I completely agree. And more than likely she thought she'd be happy like this. I guess what I'm saying is that men like Mike exist. And there are women that are like my mom's friend that entertain their philosophies. Do I want that, even if I was blonde, petite and fit, no. Could I do a "sugardaddy" arrangement and be happy, no. But that doesn't mean it's wrong. But if that's the life you choice you need to own it. Every situation has ups and downs.
I guess that's why they say "Be careful what you wish for". She is basically imprisoned, imagine trying to get back on the job market now. It's sad but when she really wants to she'll find a way out. I wonder if he is truly happy in the marriage, or if he feels just as horrible with a loveless marriage that only sparkles when people admire his arm candy.0 -
.. and the promise not to get a fingerprint on anything!
There is so much dirty to be written in response right now... but I will be good. 0 -
.. and the promise not to get a fingerprint on anything!
There is so much dirty to be written in response right now... but I will be good.
Yeah, you don't want to be too dirty cause then Mike will come at you with some paper towels and windex!
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.. and the promise not to get a fingerprint on anything!
There is so much dirty to be written in response right now... but I will be good.
Yeah, you don't want to be too dirty cause then Mike will come at you with some paper towels and windex!
LMAO!!!!0 -
You can read this in two ways...
That is so sad. Are you really that jaded?normally means you haven't been with nearly enough women to realise that no woman is in fact special.
What this really means is: no your life won't end if you are not with that woman/man (he/she is not that special), and yes you will probably meet someone else in the future that you will be able to love with all your heart should you want to do so.
Everybody is special, thus nobody is special. Or you are unique, just like everyone else.
(People having a case of "oneitis" often need to hear that, otherwise the stakes are too high and they screw up. Imagine if your entire happiness - as they see it - was determined by a single conversation with a single person!!!)0 -
You can read this in two ways...
That is so sad. Are you really that jaded?normally means you haven't been with nearly enough women to realise that no woman is in fact special.
What this really means is: no your life won't end if you are not with that woman/man (he/she is not that special), and yes you will probably meet someone else in the future that you will be able to love with all your heart should you want to do so.
Everybody is special, thus nobody is special. Or you are unique, just like everyone else.
(People having a case of "oneitis" often need to hear that, otherwise the stakes are too high and they screw up. Imagine if your entire happiness - as they see it - was determined by a single conversation with a single person!!!)
Sounds like two unnecessary extremes. Everyone is special, therefore everyone is special as far as I'm concerned. But if someone's happiness is linked to a single conversation to a person, then they have put that person on a pedestal so high they're setting BOTH of them up for failure. You can be realistic and value an individuals traits all at the same time.0 -
Hmm... "Oneitis" would normally considered a pretty bad thing and normally means you haven't been with nearly enough women to realise that no woman is in fact special.oh i know there are men just like mike. i've enjoyed reading their conquests and such. but there are men that aren't nomadic in relationships. they want "the ONE" and over at BB.com they call it 'oneitis.' LOL! the part that rough is that they treat "the one" like they treat "not the one." so, she doesn't get that in his eyes, she's special :-)
I doubt they use the term with fondness but rather to make fun of the dude who is into this "one" woman and are probably encouraging him to get over her.
The other aspect of this is that if you have been with enough women, you are inclined to realise that all women have their share of problem and not put the woman you are interested in on a pedestal, thus minimizing the chances of a oneitis and optimising your chances of success with the said woman.
I think it should happen naturally though, you shouldn't be forcing it (i.e. playing games to look "disinterested").
No one is special?
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Don't forget the booties... and the promise not to get a fingerprint on anything!
There is so much dirty to be written in response right now... but I will be good.
Yeah, you don't want to be too dirty cause then Mike will come at you with some paper towels and windex!
LMAO!!!!0 -
Mike!! I see your pu$$y!!!!!0
