Christmas presents etc

La_Amazona

I'm home alone drinking wine watching my show. I'm thinking...

This question was asked last year, I'm sure but..

I've been talking/ dating pilot for a bit over 3 weeks (we talk or text almost everyday and have had 5 dates but all have been super long dates!!). We are just enjoying each others company, not official. He says I'm the only one he's dating though and w/o noticing, I've been only dating him for a bit.

Christmas is coming up soon and we seem to talk about the near future alot such as he's going to take me country dancing, I'm coming over for Christmas if he's home (he will be on call so he can't leave home and it works out great because my family celebrates christmas eve), etc.

Anyway, do I get him something small for Christmas since most likely I'll visit him? He wants me to bring some tamales from home for him. Whatcha think? I'd get him something airplane related as he obviously loves flying and he has a small collection.

shammxo

You could grab him something small or maybe just get him a card...

Or just make him some eats and give those to him!

La_Amazona

You could grab him something small or maybe just get him a card...

Or just make him some eats and give those to him!

I thought of making him some cookies and giving him something small.

Awkward30

Honestly, I'd ask him if he wanted to exchange presents. I suck at guessing stuff, so when in doubt, I ask.

If you're super against that, I'd get a really small (physically and financially) present and keep it in my purse and only give it if he initiates gifting. Is that weird? Maybe.

La_Amazona

Hiding it sounds good! I'm notorious for not making first move and I'd be embarrassed if I gave him something and he didn't. He mentioned something about "oooh you can get me Cuban cigars for Christmas" and I said "whaaaa??" which he replied with "oh well I'm not getting you anything". We joke a lot. A LOT. So he was joking but now I wonder if he is getting me something..

Danielle_2013

My new man and I had the conversation. We decided to not do gifts this year but to spend a day together instead. We are going to go to these outdoor hotsprings/spa in Whistler for the day. More fun, less awkward!

4themoney

i'd bake him something :-)

jesusHchris

I'd blow him.

Wait, I personally wouldn't blow him. I mean I would if I was his girlfriend. Not that I think about being anyone's girlfriend... or a girl at all for that matter. Really, I swear.

TheKitsune6

Steak and BJ

baraccus

Yeah, its fairly new, instead of buying him a gift, give him a gift ;-) (agrees with previous posts, lol)

kerrymh

Ok, I can't help but think that a bj isn't a gift if its something the giver does often anyway lol..not talking about you OP..just thinking if it was me.
I would cook a nice meal, and get a card but I wouldn't go over board..I've been burned this way before. If he produces a present..then act all shocked and be really appreciative. Have fun either way. You always seem to have the most interesting dating life around here.

lacroyx

Steak and BJ

Agreed, however....

He wants me to bring some tamales from home for him. Whatcha think?

Tamales and BJ.

AnnaPixie

My new man and I had the conversation. We decided to not do gifts this year but to spend a day together instead. We are going to go to these outdoor hotsprings/spa in Whistler for the day. More fun, less awkward!

I'm well jel of this day out! :bigsmile:

I'd much rather that than a bj off Chris anyday!! :laugh:

kristen6022

I'd go for something small. 6 pack of his favorite beer, bag of his favorite candy, bake him something, maybe a book he might have mentioned. Nothing bigger than that...just schedule a day together - time spend together means much more than any gift!

PS. Ceasar: Lookin' good in your new pic! :flowerforyou: Great progress!

grum84

Ok, I can't help but think that a bj isn't a gift if its something the giver does often anyway lol..not talking about you OP..just thinking if it was me.
I would cook a nice meal, and get a card but I wouldn't go over board..I've been burned this way before. If he produces a present..then act all shocked and be really appreciative. Have fun either way. You always seem to have the most interesting dating life around here.

From a guys perspective, a BJ always works well as a gift. Combine that with food...

Win win.

Daisy_Cutter_

I'd blow him.

Wait, I personally wouldn't blow him. I mean I would if I was his girlfriend. Not that I think about being anyone's girlfriend... or a girl at all for that matter. Really, I swear.

I freakin' love you! Lol

jenbit

Bake him cookies (men love food) and BJ if you guys are at that stage lol...... If not get him some ktchy little dollar store toy mini airplanes. That way you can keep those in your purse so you dont make him feel ackward if he doesnt have something for you and its cute and tiny

dbrightwell1270

get him a membership in the mile high club!

poncho33

I'd blow him.

Wait, I personally wouldn't blow him. I mean I would if I was his girlfriend. Not that I think about being anyone's girlfriend... or a girl at all for that matter. Really, I swear.

This just made my day!

Danielle_2013

Seriously though for two seconds...does anyone think of sex or any sexual act as a gift? If so I have clearly been far too generous in this relationship!

zachatta

Seriously though for two seconds...does anyone think of sex or any sexual act as a gift? If so I have clearly been far too generous in this relationship!

I am pretty sure people don't personally think sexual acts are gifts.

It is mostly said because in general men don't give a **** about gifts,

so they would rather have a BJ then something they may dislike and will have to

fake liking because of "consequences" for not liking the gift.

La_Amazona

No bj's have been given and we haven't boned. I don't think that's going to change on Christmas.

I know not to give something big. If I do, it'll be small...

poncho33

No bj's have been given and we haven't boned. I don't think that's going to change on Christmas.

I know not to give something big. If I do, it'll be small...

..... I know what you're getting, Step one: you find a box.....

La_Amazona

**** in a box?? Haha

poncho33

**** in a box?? Haha

How come everytime some steps and a box are involved the female mind always goes to a D*ck in a box?? Can't we have nice things??

castadiva

Maybe something nice to complement the tamales he's asked for - a new experience, or an introduction to something he hasn't had before could be a nice 'gift' and a thoughtful gesture, without going down the awkward roads of intimacy before you're ready and/or the 'I got you something/did you get me something' scenario. Or you could teach him to make tamales!

castadiva

My new man and I had the conversation. We decided to not do gifts this year but to spend a day together instead. We are going to go to these outdoor hotsprings/spa in Whistler for the day. More fun, less awkward!

I'm well jel of this day out! :bigsmile:

Yes. Can I come too? I love Whistler, and I could really, really use a day of hotsprings/spa. Damn Atlantic :grumble: :grumble:

lacroyx

I'd go for something small. 6 pack of his favorite beer, bag of his favorite candy, bake him something, maybe a book he might have mentioned. Nothing bigger than that...just schedule a day together - time spend together means much more than any gift!

PS. Ceasar: Lookin' good in your new pic! :flowerforyou: Great progress!

Thank you.:blushing:

Danielle_2013

Step one...cut a hole in a box...

THANK YOU for reminding me to watch this...along with a few more...**** in my pants..... "nautical themed pashmina" ....so funny!

christine24t

I would get something. I'd rather get someone a gift then not generally speaking.

Double_Tapp

Steak and BJ

March 14th is the official steak and BJ day. I marked it on my calendar! :laugh: