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Is there a tendency to rush?
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Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
This.
A kiss on the first date is a MUST for me. How else am I suppose to know if she is interested or not?
If I go on a blind date (or online date) with someone and I'm not interested, I'm still going to talk to them and try to have some decent conversation. I just hate awkward silences. The kiss at the end of the first date solidifies if there will be a date #2 or not.0 -
See, to me that is a rule that rushes things. You've put a timetable on things. My last match that I met from POF kissed me for the first time after date #3, I think. He didn't think I was uninterested and wasting his resources (well... date #3 was my turn to plan and treat anyway). We both felt like total strangers that needed to get to know each other before any romantic first move.Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
He knew I was interested because I wanted to see him again... and again. To me, asking at the end the first date solidifies date #2, not a scheduled kiss. We're now approaching the 4 month mark...0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?0 -
See, to me that is a rule that rushes things. You've put a timetable on things. My last match that I met from POF kissed me for the first time after date #3, I think. He didn't think I was uninterested and wasting his resources (well... date #3 was my turn to plan and treat anyway). We both felt like total strangers that needed to get to know each other before any romantic first move.Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
He knew I was interested because I wanted to see him again... and again. To me, asking at the end the first date solidifies date #2, not a scheduled kiss. We're now approaching the 4 month mark...
In my experience, that tends to be the exception, not the rule.
It doesn't have to be a long, 1/2 minute kiss. Just a small quick kiss on the lips will give guys the green light to pursue date #2.
Whenever I was on a date and there was no kiss at the conclusion, she was never interested in date #2 with me when I tried contacting her again. This has happened a handful of times. We can have a great time on a date, but if there's no kiss, I'm not looking for a second date. I'd rather just set up another first date with someone new.0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
I think I went off on this in the coupon thread, lol. Anyway I just stopped bothering with it and have a nice relaxed first date on my end... if there is an insane connection on date one I might go for it. But I don't use it for any sort of tool for measuring interest. Also, I've always had the option of a 2nd date... except for the gal that thought I was too short at 6'
To be honest it's really easy to tell if a women is interested by her eyes... if they light up your golden, if not, better luck next time.0 -
See, to me that is a rule that rushes things. You've put a timetable on things. My last match that I met from POF kissed me for the first time after date #3, I think. He didn't think I was uninterested and wasting his resources (well... date #3 was my turn to plan and treat anyway). We both felt like total strangers that needed to get to know each other before any romantic first move.Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
He knew I was interested because I wanted to see him again... and again. To me, asking at the end the first date solidifies date #2, not a scheduled kiss. We're now approaching the 4 month mark...
In my experience, that tends to be the exception, not the rule.
It doesn't have to be a long, 1/2 minute kiss. Just a small quick kiss on the lips will give guys the green light to pursue date #2.
Whenever I was on a date and there was no kiss at the conclusion, she was never interested in date #2 with me when I tried contacting her again. This has happened a handful of times. We can have a great time on a date, but if there's no kiss, I'm not looking for a second date. I'd rather just set up another first date with someone new.
This might also be a bit of a cultural/ area thing. In Miami Hispanic people great and say goodbye bye kissing each other on the cheek. Usually if you don't atleast get the cheek kiss at the end of the first date it's a dud....Down here atleast. Its like the ultamite sign of disinterest.0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
I think I went off on this in the coupon thread, lol. Anyway I just stopped bothering with it and have a nice relaxed first date on my end... if there is an insane connection on date one I might go for it. But I don't use it for any sort of tool for measuring interest. Also, I've always had the option of a 2nd date... except for the gal that thought I was too short at 6'
To be honest it's really easy to tell if a women is interested by her eyes... if they light up your golden, if not, better luck next time.
I guess I missed your previous post, but I really like your relaxed attitude toward life.0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
I think I went off on this in the coupon thread, lol. Anyway I just stopped bothering with it and have a nice relaxed first date on my end... if there is an insane connection on date one I might go for it. But I don't use it for any sort of tool for measuring interest. Also, I've always had the option of a 2nd date... except for the gal that thought I was too short at 6'
To be honest it's really easy to tell if a women is interested by her eyes... if they light up your golden, if not, better luck next time.
I guess I missed your previous post, but I really like your relaxed attitude toward life.
The Dude abides0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
I think I went off on this in the coupon thread, lol. Anyway I just stopped bothering with it and have a nice relaxed first date on my end... if there is an insane connection on date one I might go for it. But I don't use it for any sort of tool for measuring interest. Also, I've always had the option of a 2nd date... except for the gal that thought I was too short at 6'
To be honest it's really easy to tell if a women is interested by her eyes... if they light up your golden, if not, better luck next time.
I guess I missed your previous post, but I really like your relaxed attitude toward life.
The Dude abides
I need me some white russians now!0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
I think I went off on this in the coupon thread, lol. Anyway I just stopped bothering with it and have a nice relaxed first date on my end... if there is an insane connection on date one I might go for it. But I don't use it for any sort of tool for measuring interest. Also, I've always had the option of a 2nd date... except for the gal that thought I was too short at 6'
To be honest it's really easy to tell if a women is interested by her eyes... if they light up your golden, if not, better luck next time.
I guess I missed your previous post, but I really like your relaxed attitude toward life.
The Dude abides
I need me some white russians now!
Shut the **** up Donnie! 2nd best movie of all time0 -
The Dude abides
I need me some white russians now!
Shut the **** up Donnie! 2nd best movie of all time
What's the 1st?0 -
Does this mean you are going to drop your rule about a first date kiss and go with the flow, DM?
Not even close. How else can I tell if they are interested or just wasting my resources?
So do you kiss them before the date starts?? Or is the first date a freebee on the DM resources?
Jim, I'd be curious to hear another male perspective on the first date kiss... thoughts?
Even though not directed at me I would say that while I would not demand it if it seemed she shunned it then I at the very least would wonder how interested she was.0 -
The Dude abides
I need me some white russians now!
Shut the **** up Donnie! 2nd best movie of all time
What's the 1st?
Pulp Fiction IMO.0 -
The Dude abides
I need me some white russians now!
Shut the **** up Donnie! 2nd best movie of all time
What's the 1st?
Pulp Fiction IMO.
Hmm, not my choice but at least you have good taste
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The Dude abides
The Dude does not put up with nonsense. When the Big Lebowski presses him, the Dude says that "this aggression will not stand, man!". Therefore, I believe that if The Dude encountered a woman who didn't want to kiss, The Dude would calmly let her know that it would not stand. If a woman says to The Dude, "you're not my type", The Dude would say "well, um, that's just like your opinion, man!".0 -
I will say that yes..I have "rushed romantic situations and friendships in the past.
Now my issue is more of not giving things a chance....I feel my biological clock ticking and if I meet someone who I know might be "fun" to hang with..or a good friend but I'm guessing would go no where else I don't even bother.
I don't have time to waste on something non long term is what my head tells me.
But I'm still lonely and frustrated so..my snap judgments aren't getting me anywhere yet again.
i know someone in the same shoes. hmm...0
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