husbands getting annoyed

imakimm

I am 13 months out from RNY. I am at my goal weight. Every time I log my food, exercise or say something about my food choices or weight my husband gets annoyed. He says that "I am too skinny or too boney" I tell him that I am just making sure that I don't gain my weight back. Like today, I ate some junk that I shouldn't have and it put me over my calories so I asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me. (He likes going to the gym) He asked me why I was going later in the evening and when I told him he got annoyed. Ugh, I really like where I am now and just want him to support me!

Does anyone else have problems like this? How do you handle them?

shirleygirl910

My husband has been very supportive from the first. He actually shocked me when he suggested I have surgery. My husband's first wife had Gastric Bypass, lost all her weight and the started going out with other guys while they were married, flirting on the computer in front of him and the kids. I didn't want Tony to feel like, "Oh no here we go again!" but when my health was beign effected by my weight, he told me he wanted me to be around for along time and not suffer from complicaitons of my weight.

He did tell me from the start not to get too thin, but now I've gone from 314 down to 200 and he tells me how much he likes it, but don't jepordize my health trying to get too thin. I see it in his eyes, how he loves me, but I have to remember he's a guy and he needs reasurance that I love him too. (not in words)

You are doing the right thing keeping up with logging even when it is bad, and being concious of what you eat. I don't know what to tell you when he says things about your weight, except every time he says something negative, maybe he's insecure about you loving him. What in his mind shows him you absolutely love him and only him?

gspea

I am fortunate that my hubby supports me. He will remind to chew slowly and smaller bites. He does say that I will be out looking for a new guy after I have lost all my weight - but he knows I won't. He knows that by having this surgery and losing this weight that I will be around for much longer than if I had not done anything.

Tho' he won't exercise with me and he does get annoyed if I have a 'bad' day at work and go overboard with the temptations of the co-workers food contributions - thank god the holidays are over for me at work - on vacation for two weeks now. :drinker:

I honestly don't really know how to deal with your hubby. Have you had a talk with him and asked him about this?

Keep up with your log, your exercise and do not give in and slide back. Like shirleygirl91 said - maybe he is insecure? They can be afraid of the change that is going on.

Laura8603

I am thankful my boyfriend (whom I've known for 22 years) is always very supportive of me, no matter what my weight. He has made one or two comments in the past 3 years that I am too thin, but I nipped that in the bud. He knows now that this is who I am and who I am determined to be forever.

TriciaAllen7251

I too am one of the lucky ones in that I have a very supportive husband. He has stuck with me through thick and thin. Watches what he brings into the house and what he cooks (he's retired so he has become my house husband). This is not an easy journey by far, but at least I don't have that battle to deal with.