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We were thinking about creating some kind of fake girl to start talking to him and get his attention off my friend..bad or good idea?
Bad bad bad idea. He is still a person .. even if he is a douchey person. Don't play with his heart.
I know but it would be sooo fun. Except knowing my luck I would end up on Catfish the TV show.
You guys are thinking way to much into this. She just needs to tell him straight up "I don't want to have sex with you". I know you guys are young but if you are having sex with someone you need to act like a grown up and face the facts.0 -
I know but it would be sooo fun. Except knowing my luck I would end up on Catfish the TV show.
OMG! I love that show! Scares the crap out of me tho!
It is so good!!0 -
We were thinking about creating some kind of fake girl to start talking to him and get his attention off my friend..bad or good idea?
Bad bad bad idea. He is still a person .. even if he is a douchey person. Don't play with his heart.
I know but it would be sooo fun. Except knowing my luck I would end up on Catfish the TV show.
You guys are thinking way to much into this. She just needs to tell him straight up "I don't want to have sex with you". I know you guys are young but if you are having sex with someone you need to act like a grown up and face the facts.
I agree. But she is very shy and I know she is too scared to say no. I know that is no ones fault but her own but I just hate that I can't do anything to help.0 -
I agree. But she is very shy and I know she is too scared to say no. I know that is no ones fault but her own but I just hate that I can't do anything to help.
Steal her phone and do it for her!0 -
We were thinking about creating some kind of fake girl to start talking to him and get his attention off my friend..bad or good idea?
Bad bad bad idea. He is still a person .. even if he is a douchey person. Don't play with his heart.
I know but it would be sooo fun. Except knowing my luck I would end up on Catfish the TV show.
You guys are thinking way to much into this. She just needs to tell him straight up "I don't want to have sex with you". I know you guys are young but if you are having sex with someone you need to act like a grown up and face the facts.
I agree. But she is very shy and I know she is too scared to say no. I know that is no ones fault but her own but I just hate that I can't do anything to help.
If she can't do it in person try it by phone, she can always hang up if he keeps pushing. Or get her some liquid courage before the call.0 -
^^^ Is she still sleeping with him over the course of these 2 yrs. Cause then yes she is totally using him as the back burner
Not regularly but it has happened occasionally.
She doesn't like him anymore though but she has trouble with people pressuring her and being unable to say no. So every once in a while he presses hard enough and she gives in.
But ever since he upset her while they were hooking up she hasn't seen him. So she is trying but he won't give it up.
We were thinking about creating some kind of fake girl to start talking to him and get his attention off my friend..bad or good idea?
So how long ago did she stop giving in to him?
Wether or not she has a problem saying no he should not be able to pressure her into sex. Sorry but she may be sending him ixed signals in which case its not really his fault...... And never create a fake person to stalk him its childish, immature and just plain out mean
October.
And I think it's one of those things where if he went to kiss her she wouldn't push him away. Like I said she is very shy and unassertive.
October huh? thats only a few months and if he goes to collage out of town he might have no clue what is going on. Sorry but if your friend wants this handled she needs to put her big girl panties on and text him a message. Hes not stalking her he is trying to hook up0 -
She should at least be able to text or email him to say she's not interested. It's not the best method, but better than not saying anything at all and expecting him to get the hint when he hasn't.0
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First of all, it sounds like everyone on this thread is giving this poor guy a bad name.
The more I read into this thread, the guy is fine and doing nothing wrong. If she doesn't spell it out for him that she isn't interested, then how is he going to know? All she needs to do it spell it out in a text and say something along the lines of "I don't want to sleep with you anymore". Problem solved.
If she doesn't have the guts to say that, then this is ALL ON HER. You're friend needs to have some guts in this situation.0 -
I agree. But she is very shy and I know she is too scared to say no. I know that is no ones fault but her own but I just hate that I can't do anything to help.
Forgetting anything to do with this guy if that is the case and not a cop out then the best thing you can do for her is help her in some way deal with that.
He is not the only guy in the world that eventually will want to be with her and if she can`t say no when she does not want to she is in for a miserable existence.0 -
^^^ Is she still sleeping with him over the course of these 2 yrs. Cause then yes she is totally using him as the back burner
Not regularly but it has happened occasionally.
She doesn't like him anymore though but she has trouble with people pressuring her and being unable to say no. So every once in a while he presses hard enough and she gives in.
But ever since he upset her while they were hooking up she hasn't seen him. So she is trying but he won't give it up.
We were thinking about creating some kind of fake girl to start talking to him and get his attention off my friend..bad or good idea?
So how long ago did she stop giving in to him?
Wether or not she has a problem saying no he should not be able to pressure her into sex. Sorry but she may be sending him ixed signals in which case its not really his fault...... And never create a fake person to stalk him its childish, immature and just plain out mean
October.
And I think it's one of those things where if he went to kiss her she wouldn't push him away. Like I said she is very shy and unassertive.
October huh? thats only a few months and if he goes to collage out of town he might have no clue what is going on. Sorry but if your friend wants this handled she needs to put her big girl panties on and text him a message. Hes not stalking her he is trying to hook up
Nope he lives in town!
And yeah I agree she needs to say something. Jen, I did almost send hiim something yesterday. I think the next time we hang out I'm just going to tell her either tell him no for good or ill steal her phone and do it.0 -
First of all, it sounds like everyone on this thread is giving this poor guy a bad name.
The more I read into this thread, the guy is fine and doing nothing wrong. If she doesn't spell it out for him that she isn't interested, then how is he going to know? All she needs to do it spell it out in a text and say something along the lines of "I don't want to sleep with you anymore". Problem solved.
If she doesn't have the guts to say that, then this is ALL ON HER. You're friend needs to have some guts in this situation.
X2 !!!!!!!!!!!
Plus is she isnt pushing him away when he kisses her then WTF is the poor guy supposed to think. I'm starting to feel worse for the guy then her in this situation.
And just think about it if we reversed the genders in this people would be hunting for your friends blood on here0 -
I also think it's extreme low to call this guy a stalker. The girl is clearly giving this guy mixed signals. She responds to some of his texts *and* sleeps with him.. then she get's mad that he's still in the picture?
And you wanted to create a fake female online profile to get his attention off of her? That's downright pathetic (let alone really cruel).0 -
If she is as shy as you say, how did she end up having sex in the first place?0
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If she is as shy as you say, how did she end up having sex in the first place?
Good question.
Previously she has had sexual partners she likes. She liked this guy at first so when he started talking to her she loved it and wanted him.0 -
I also think it's extreme low to call this guy a stalker. The girl is clearly giving this guy mixed signals. She responds to some of his texts *and* sleeps with him.. then she get's mad that he's still in the picture?
And you wanted to create a fake female online profile to get his attention off of her? That's downright pathetic (let alone really cruel).
It was kinda a joke Mike but if I really did it I'd use a burner phone. Haha0 -
Immediately send him a message telling him in no uncertain terms that it's over and done with and she wishes to have no further communication with him. "I don't want to see or talk to you again."
Immediately after that NEVER respond to him again. Any kind of communication muddles the message.0 -
That guy is all over your friend apparently!
It's a damn shame that he is probably completely oblivious to other girls out there, potentially available, who would be happy to get some attention from this guy...0 -
That guy is all over your friend apparently!
It's a damn shame that he is probably completely oblivious to other girls out there, potentially available, who would be happy to get some attention from this guy...
Exactly. I told her that there are so many other women out there and he should pursue them.0 -
That guy is all over your friend apparently!
It's a damn shame that he is probably completely oblivious to other girls out there, potentially available, who would be happy to get some attention from this guy...
Exactly ... SHe is leading him on by not coming out and saying anything and responding to his messages and having sex with him. Plus you tell me she wouldn't push him away if he kissed her are you sure shes telling you everything0 -
I agree with everyone else, she has to tell him.
I get being shy and it being hard doing things in person - but if she hasn't seen him since October and really doesn't care to see him again... then just TEXT him... how can someone be to shy for a text?
Now I don't agree with text 'dumping' generally (as it happened to me lol) But in a FWB, rarely see eachother, he is kind of annoying her kind of way - I say go for it.0 -
If she really wants to get rid of the guy, she should tell him she is in loe with him, wants to get married and have lots and lots of babies very soon! She won't ever get another text from him again.
hahahah so funny and so true! LOL0 -
1 - 2 texts a day is "obsessed"?
Tell your friend to man up and either tell him "sorry, bro, i'm not interested anymore and I don't want to be friends, please stop texting me" OR stop texting back completely.
If neither work and he still text....get blocking software for the phone and block out his number so you don't know he's sending texts or calling.
I had to use that on someone and it worked great. Best part was if they called, the app would just send a busy signal to them...that way they can't even have the chance to leave a whiney voicemail.0 -
1 - 2 texts a day is "obsessed"?
Tell your friend to man up and either tell him "sorry, bro, i'm not interested anymore and I don't want to be friends, please stop texting me" OR stop texting back completely.
If neither work and he still text....get blocking software for the phone and block out his number so you don't know he's sending texts or calling.
I had to use that on someone and it worked great. Best part was if they called, the app would just send a busy signal to them...that way they can't even have the chance to leave a whiney voicemail.
Good idea!! I will look up the app!
1-2 texts per day that aren't answered...would you keep texting someone that says nothing!0 -
1 - 2 texts a day is "obsessed"?
Tell your friend to man up and either tell him "sorry, bro, i'm not interested anymore and I don't want to be friends, please stop texting me" OR stop texting back completely.
If neither work and he still text....get blocking software for the phone and block out his number so you don't know he's sending texts or calling.
I had to use that on someone and it worked great. Best part was if they called, the app would just send a busy signal to them...that way they can't even have the chance to leave a whiney voicemail.
Good idea!! I will look up the app!
1-2 texts per day that aren't answered...would you keep texting someone that says nothing!
I have at&t and they have a program for that. They gave me an intro period for 3 months and I cancelled it before it charged me anything but it worked wonders! ALTHOUGH, he did text me from someone elses number telling me I didn't have to block his number. Really?0 -
If she doesn't answer his texts in a couple of days, he will drive by her house (he does have a friend who lives a block over).
Is this just a guy desperate to hook up or do you think it's anything more creepy than that?
Don't really know his motives, but this here is a huge red flag. Sorry if you have to drive around to check up on your SO then your relationship might as well be in shambles.
So as far as input, tell her to lose this dude. The guy should also stop being obsessive.0 -
sounds like some game playing is going on.
if she isnt interested then she should just tell him, but if she's just stringing him along as some sort of punishment or making herself feel better for being blown off in high school then she should just accept the consequences and leave him out some milk and cookies when he's in the bushes.0 -
Update!
Guy finally got the hint. After not responding for a few days he wrote "well I guess I understand now Ill stop contacting you." Yay it only took 4 months!!0 -
Update!
Guy finally got the hint. After not responding for a few days he wrote "well I guess I understand now Ill stop contacting you." Yay it only took 4 months!!
That 4 months wouldn't have been as stressful if she had been up front to begin with, eh?0 -
Update!
Guy finally got the hint. After not responding for a few days he wrote "well I guess I understand now Ill stop contacting you." Yay it only took 4 months!!
That 4 months wouldn't have been as stressful if she had been up front to begin with, eh?
I agree but it's not my choice. I told her a long time ago to say something.0
