Why do you use online dating?
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I'm a jumper...I jump on and off one of the on-line dating websites almost as often as the seasons change. I haven't been on one in a few months, and was just thinking this morning that I should re-activate my account. I think 50% of the men that messaged me were in their early 20s--asking me if I would date a younger man. My daughter is 23, and I'm 46...so I'm thinking it wouldn't be too cool to date someone her age (although the other night I was flipping though TV channels and came across Extreme Cougars on TLC---saw a 75 year old couple up with a 25 year old. Really??? Ewwwwww. But wait...there's still HOPE!! HAHA!)
Anyways...After a couple of weeks I get bored/frustrated with the process and shut my profile down. Only to restart it a few months later. I'm actually trying to figure out how else to meet men. I've spent the last 23 years taking care of my daughter and not putting much effort into meeting men...and those I did date were usually old classmates or people I happened to run into. Lately, I've been going out with a few of my girlfriends for a couple of drinks and some dancing....but I have yet to meet anyone from scene either. I think I'm and outgoing person, but to initiate that first hello for the first time...no way!! Maybe it's the fear of rejection??
So would you go out with someone 20 years younger if he was your ideal type (let's say he was in good shape, good jobs, normal e-mails, etc)? Or is the age thing a definite deal breaker?
My main reason for not dipping below 25 is because that is my baby sissters age.... I see what alot of 25yr olds are like. Plus I don't come with an intsruction book or have time to train you lol........ That big of an age difference and we probably have nothing in common. OF course there are exceptions to every rule but I haven't found mine for this one yet lol0 -
My main reason for not dipping below 25 is because that is my baby sissters age.... I see what alot of 25yr olds are like. Plus I don't come with an intsruction book or have time to train you lol........ That big of an age difference and we probably have nothing in common. OF course there are exceptions to every rule but I haven't found mine for this one yet lol
I think most early 20-somethings are plenty experienced by now. We're not Puritans here. lol
To this day, I'm always amazed how different men are from women. Most men in their 40's would give ANYTHING to date a girl in her mid 20's.
I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!0 -
I used it as an ice breaker. When we meet in person, I find it easier to hold a conversation.
I met my bf there and I am quite the happy camper.
How is the boyfriend? Has he been keeping the apartment clean or did he hire a cleaning lady? :laugh:
He is marvelous
His house? errr... still working on it. Baby steps but he seems open to suggestions, etc.. Has kept the bathroom pretty decent since I cloroxed it and I'm cleaning it this weekend again.
Last night we went to a cigar event; I've been meaning to tell you about his local b&m, they host one every month. Last night it was by Perdomo. Met Billy Perdomo and tried one of their mild-medium bodied cigars which was ok. Next month is Gurkha.0 -
I'm a jumper...I jump on and off one of the on-line dating websites almost as often as the seasons change. I haven't been on one in a few months, and was just thinking this morning that I should re-activate my account. I think 50% of the men that messaged me were in their early 20s--asking me if I would date a younger man. My daughter is 23, and I'm 46...so I'm thinking it wouldn't be too cool to date someone her age (although the other night I was flipping though TV channels and came across Extreme Cougars on TLC---saw a 75 year old couple up with a 25 year old. Really??? Ewwwwww. But wait...there's still HOPE!! HAHA!)
Anyways...After a couple of weeks I get bored/frustrated with the process and shut my profile down. Only to restart it a few months later. I'm actually trying to figure out how else to meet men. I've spent the last 23 years taking care of my daughter and not putting much effort into meeting men...and those I did date were usually old classmates or people I happened to run into. Lately, I've been going out with a few of my girlfriends for a couple of drinks and some dancing....but I have yet to meet anyone from scene either. I think I'm and outgoing person, but to initiate that first hello for the first time...no way!! Maybe it's the fear of rejection??
So would you go out with someone 20 years younger if he was your ideal type (let's say he was in good shape, good jobs, normal e-mails, etc)? Or is the age thing a definite deal breaker?
Good question...I really don't know as I've not been in that situation before. I guess in my mind I'm thinking the early 20-somethings that are messaging a 40+ year old woman are only looking for one thing. I had actually messaged a couple of them back--more out of curousity than anything, and that was exactly what they were looking for!
I would say early 30's are my main cutoff point...generally speaking (I'm not saying all) 20 somethings have so much growing up to do and life experiences to learn from. Plus...I also think if a man is in his early 20's he's more than likely going to want a family with kids someday. On the other hand, the men I've dated recently have all either been going through a divorce or are recently divorced, and I felt more like a divorce counselor than a date. I find it difficult to meet someone my age who is either not taken or who is "over" a past relationship.0 -
I'm a jumper...I jump on and off one of the on-line dating websites almost as often as the seasons change. I haven't been on one in a few months, and was just thinking this morning that I should re-activate my account. I think 50% of the men that messaged me were in their early 20s--asking me if I would date a younger man. My daughter is 23, and I'm 46...so I'm thinking it wouldn't be too cool to date someone her age (although the other night I was flipping though TV channels and came across Extreme Cougars on TLC---saw a 75 year old couple up with a 25 year old. Really??? Ewwwwww. But wait...there's still HOPE!! HAHA!)
Anyways...After a couple of weeks I get bored/frustrated with the process and shut my profile down. Only to restart it a few months later. I'm actually trying to figure out how else to meet men. I've spent the last 23 years taking care of my daughter and not putting much effort into meeting men...and those I did date were usually old classmates or people I happened to run into. Lately, I've been going out with a few of my girlfriends for a couple of drinks and some dancing....but I have yet to meet anyone from scene either. I think I'm and outgoing person, but to initiate that first hello for the first time...no way!! Maybe it's the fear of rejection??
So would you go out with someone 20 years younger if he was your ideal type (let's say he was in good shape, good jobs, normal e-mails, etc)? Or is the age thing a definite deal breaker?
My main reason for not dipping below 25 is because that is my baby sissters age.... I see what alot of 25yr olds are like. Plus I don't come with an intsruction book or have time to train you lol........ That big of an age difference and we probably have nothing in common. OF course there are exceptions to every rule but I haven't found mine for this one yet lol
I agree....never say never because there is always the exception--although a very very slim exception. But if it was to happen, it would have to be someone I met in real life (vs. online dating). My big red flag is the long-term potential.0 -
Good question...I really don't know as I've not been in that situation before. I guess in my mind I'm thinking the early 20-somethings that are messaging a 40+ year old woman are only looking for one thing. I had actually messaged a couple of them back--more out of curousity than anything, and that was exactly what they were looking for!
I would say early 30's are my main cutoff point...generally speaking (I'm not saying all) 20 somethings have so much growing up to do and life experiences to learn from. Plus...I also think if a man is in his early 20's he's more than likely going to want a family with kids someday. On the other hand, the men I've dated recently have all either been going through a divorce or are recently divorced, and I felt more like a divorce counselor than a date. I find it difficult to meet someone my age who is either not taken or who is "over" a past relationship.
You're right.. most younger guys are looking for sex. I'd even say that guys in their early-mid 30's who are chasing a mid- 40 something are looking for sex. Now, I've met a lot of women that actually go for that. They are generally the cougars I see at the gym or out at the bars. Maybe it's a confidence boost? Who knows.
I would think if you're looking for a serious relationship, it's always best too look at an older guy. Though there are some exceptions (a different Kristen on here dates a younger guy).0 -
My main reason for not dipping below 25 is because that is my baby sissters age.... I see what alot of 25yr olds are like. Plus I don't come with an intsruction book or have time to train you lol........ That big of an age difference and we probably have nothing in common. OF course there are exceptions to every rule but I haven't found mine for this one yet lol
I think most early 20-somethings are plenty experienced by now. We're not Puritans here. lol
To this day, I'm always amazed how different men are from women. Most men in their 40's would give ANYTHING to date a girl in her mid 20's.
I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!
Not me but I am pretty sure I don`t fit in any definition of "normal guy" that 2013 can come up with. :laugh:0 -
I used it as an ice breaker. When we meet in person, I find it easier to hold a conversation.
I met my bf there and I am quite the happy camper.
How is the boyfriend? Has he been keeping the apartment clean or did he hire a cleaning lady? :laugh:
He is marvelous His house? errr... still working on it. Baby steps but he seems open to suggestions, etc.. Has kept the bathroom pretty decent since I cloroxed it and I'm cleaning it this weekend again.
Last night we went to a cigar event; I've been meaning to tell you about his local b&m, they host one every month. Last night it was by Perdomo. Met Billy Perdomo and tried one of their mild-medium bodied cigars which was ok. Next month is Gurkha.
You're quite the cigar aficionado now. I'm proud and very impressed! 0 -
I used it as an ice breaker. When we meet in person, I find it easier to hold a conversation.
I met my bf there and I am quite the happy camper.
How is the boyfriend? Has he been keeping the apartment clean or did he hire a cleaning lady? :laugh:
He is marvelous His house? errr... still working on it. Baby steps but he seems open to suggestions, etc.. Has kept the bathroom pretty decent since I cloroxed it and I'm cleaning it this weekend again.
Last night we went to a cigar event; I've been meaning to tell you about his local b&m, they host one every month. Last night it was by Perdomo. Met Billy Perdomo and tried one of their mild-medium bodied cigars which was ok. Next month is Gurkha.
You're quite the cigar aficionado now. I'm proud and very impressed!
I've always enjoyed the smell of a cigar. When I met him and found out he was a cigar aficionado it was a major turn on. He's been educating me on it and I've been trying a few here and there. I'm enjoying it 0 -
As I am turning 35 this year I have decided my datable age range is 30-40. I really liked being with someone 3 years younger recently because I certainly don't act my age...and hopefully don't look it. I just think it fits a little better where I am right now. Having said that...I generally enjoy the manners and dating traditions of men older than myself.0
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I used it as an ice breaker. When we meet in person, I find it easier to hold a conversation.
I met my bf there and I am quite the happy camper.
How is the boyfriend? Has he been keeping the apartment clean or did he hire a cleaning lady? :laugh:
He is marvelous His house? errr... still working on it. Baby steps but he seems open to suggestions, etc.. Has kept the bathroom pretty decent since I cloroxed it and I'm cleaning it this weekend again.
Last night we went to a cigar event; I've been meaning to tell you about his local b&m, they host one every month. Last night it was by Perdomo. Met Billy Perdomo and tried one of their mild-medium bodied cigars which was ok. Next month is Gurkha.
You're quite the cigar aficionado now. I'm proud and very impressed!
I've always enjoyed the smell of a cigar. When I met him and found out he was a cigar aficionado it was a major turn on. He's been educating me on it and I've been trying a few here and there. I'm enjoying it
I love cigars ...... I will buy the occasional one and smoke it myself lol. However not a fan of the black and milds :grumble: those are not cigars0 -
I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!
I would give a high five too.
Most men are primarily interested in younger women. My ideal range is 2-7 years younger at the moment.0 -
I used it as an ice breaker. When we meet in person, I find it easier to hold a conversation.
I met my bf there and I am quite the happy camper.
How is the boyfriend? Has he been keeping the apartment clean or did he hire a cleaning lady? :laugh:
He is marvelous His house? errr... still working on it. Baby steps but he seems open to suggestions, etc.. Has kept the bathroom pretty decent since I cloroxed it and I'm cleaning it this weekend again.
Last night we went to a cigar event; I've been meaning to tell you about his local b&m, they host one every month. Last night it was by Perdomo. Met Billy Perdomo and tried one of their mild-medium bodied cigars which was ok. Next month is Gurkha.
You're quite the cigar aficionado now. I'm proud and very impressed!
I've always enjoyed the smell of a cigar. When I met him and found out he was a cigar aficionado it was a major turn on. He's been educating me on it and I've been trying a few here and there. I'm enjoying it
I love cigars ...... I will buy the occasional one and smoke it myself lol. However not a fan of the black and milds :grumble: those are not cigars
Those are definitely not cigars. Someone was smoking a vanilla cigar last night and I thought it was a black and mild, lol. Not a fan of the flavored ones either.0 -
I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!
I would give a high five too.
Most men are primarily interested in younger women. My ideal range is 2-7 years younger at the moment.
Same here. Not saying I wouldn't go older.. but she better be pretty damn fantastic for me to date older!0 -
Becuase I am a single mom of 2 who works full time, doesn't get alot of breaks from my kids (ie every 2nd weekend) who works out alot, and has kids activities. I am not into the bar scene, so minus going out occasionally with my married friends how else do I meet people?
Do I think online dating will land me a spouse? I have no idea, but it opens alot more doors than previously were open.
That said, I am picky about the sites I use. I will NOT use POF as it seems to be a hookup site. I have had some luck on Eharmony.0 -
Same here. Not saying I wouldn't go older.. but she better be pretty damn fantastic for me to date older!
I am.0 -
I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!
I would give a high five too.
Most men are primarily interested in younger women. My ideal range is 2-7 years younger at the moment.
The girl I'm dating is 24, but she acts like she is 72 with all the baking.... needless to say you can call me Hansel as I'm getting fat off of baked goods.
** I'm not complaining btw, NOM NOM NOM NOM0 -
Same here. Not saying I wouldn't go older.. but she better be pretty damn fantastic for me to date older!
I am.
I agree 100%
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I have a colleague who's in his mid 40's who recently dumped his long term girlfriend (he was previously married too) for a 25 year old Colombian chick. He's financially stable and in decent shape and was able to swing it.. so I had to give him a high five!
I would give a high five too.
Most men are primarily interested in younger women. My ideal range is 2-7 years younger at the moment.
The girl I'm dating is 24, but she acts like she is 72 with all the baking.... needless to say you can call me Hansel as I'm getting fat off of baked goods.
** I'm not complaining btw, NOM NOM NOM NOM
Best. Situation. EVER.0 -
The girl I'm dating is 24, but she acts like she is 72 with all the baking.... needless to say you can call me Hansel as I'm getting fat off of baked goods.
** I'm not complaining btw, NOM NOM NOM NOM
Very good!0
