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  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    Quite a few guys have said they would love to be asked out by a woman. I think we've established that men like women to assert themselves at some point.........maybe just not ALL the time......

    From what I recall, though, is that many of the guys who said they would love it also said that a) the women who approach them generally aren't to their liking or b) the ones they did go out with they didn't date long.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Quite a few guys have said they would love to be asked out by a woman. I think we've established that men like women to assert themselves at some point.........maybe just not ALL the time......

    From what I recall, though, is that many of the guys who said they would love it also said that a) the women who approach them generally aren't to their liking or b) the ones they did go out with they didn't date long.

    That was actually said by the men who didn't approve of women doing the approaching.
  • FitnessPalWorks
    FitnessPalWorks Posts: 1,128 Member
    if he had to initate all the time he would get a little bored..... Atleast let him know you want to "play" lol......

    NAILED IT!
    Literally. LOL :)
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    Quite a few guys have said they would love to be asked out by a woman. I think we've established that men like women to assert themselves at some point.........maybe just not ALL the time......

    From what I recall, though, is that many of the guys who said they would love it also said that a) the women who approach them generally aren't to their liking or b) the ones they did go out with they didn't date long.


    Not all of them. I specifically remember a few guys saying this couple months ago, and they were some of the same ones who said they liked it when women approached because it made things easier. I'm not talking about the recent brewhaha. If my other computer hadn't crashed, I'd have pulled it up for you from my master file of posts I've responded to. :flowerforyou:
    That was actually said by the men who didn't approve of women doing the approaching.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Quite a few guys have said they would love to be asked out by a woman. I think we've established that men like women to assert themselves at some point.........maybe just not ALL the time......

    From what I recall, though, is that many of the guys who said they would love it also said that a) the women who approach them generally aren't to their liking or b) the ones they did go out with they didn't date long.

    There have been several threads that intermingle. But my understanding of the general consensus was:

    1.Most men would LOVE to be approached. They get fed up of always having to make the first move. Obviously it's better if the guy finds the woman attractive that is approaching him!
    2. Guys that HAD been approached said that they were mostly approached by women they didnnt find attractive (the examples weren't as nice as that tho!! lol)
    3. No idea where you got b) from.....maybe I missed that thread :flowerforyou: Although I vaguely recall women saying that if they took the initiative those guys didnt hang around for long??
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    No idea where you got b) from.....maybe I missed that thread :flowerforyou: Although I vaguely recall women saying that if they took the initiative those guys didnt hang around for long??

    trust me on this one... it was back before I started dating BB and two of the guys who said this were guys I was crushing on and was thinking I would approach since they said they liked it... of course, once they later said those relationships didn't laugh I was glad I hadn't acted :laugh:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    No idea where you got b) from.....maybe I missed that thread :flowerforyou: Although I vaguely recall women saying that if they took the initiative those guys didnt hang around for long??

    trust me on this one... it was back before I started dating BB and two of the guys who said this were guys I was crushing on and was thinking I would approach since they said they liked it... of course, once they later said those relationships didn't laugh I was glad I hadn't acted :laugh:

    I trust you! No big deal....lol.... Like I said, it was my interpretation of the 'general' consensus.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    No idea where you got b) from.....maybe I missed that thread :flowerforyou: Although I vaguely recall women saying that if they took the initiative those guys didnt hang around for long??

    trust me on this one... it was back before I started dating BB and two of the guys who said this were guys I was crushing on and was thinking I would approach since they said they liked it... of course, once they later said those relationships didn't laugh I was glad I hadn't acted :laugh:

    I trust you! No big deal....lol.... Like I said, it was my interpretation of the 'general' consensus.

    I guess my life is an anomaly. Usually they hang around plenty long, or I end up being the one to lose interest.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    No idea where you got b) from.....maybe I missed that thread :flowerforyou: Although I vaguely recall women saying that if they took the initiative those guys didnt hang around for long??

    trust me on this one... it was back before I started dating BB and two of the guys who said this were guys I was crushing on and was thinking I would approach since they said they liked it... of course, once they later said those relationships didn't laugh I was glad I hadn't acted :laugh:

    I trust you! No big deal....lol.... Like I said, it was my interpretation of the 'general' consensus.

    I guess my life is an anomaly. Usually they hang around plenty long, or I end up being the one to lose interest.

    No, I dont think you're an anomaly. I've known plenty of relationships flourish when the woman made the first move. That's what I'm trying to say, that in general, guys dont mind being approached.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    even if the women doesn't want to jump the man, showing she is in a playful mood is usually enough for a man!

    I've heard that guys want women to initiate sex, but I wonder if this is like when guys say the woman should initiate convo/asking her out but they don't really mean "ask me out." What they really mean is she should make eye contact, smile, make gentle chit-chat that encourages him to keep the convo going, touch their arm as they talk.

    Quite a few guys have said they would love to be asked out by a woman. I think we've established that men like women to assert themselves at some point.........maybe just not ALL the time......

    I don't know, I guess maybe I am old fashioned. I believe in men courting women, so for the first while until a relationship is established, I would want the man to come to me. Once things are going well, I have no issues asking the man... Just me.... but heck I am still single and read alot of books ;)
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    Relationships and casual..I am two very different women. If I pursue and make all the moves..sure sign I don't see anything long term or serious..

    As for initiating sex...doesn't it generally fall to the person with the higher sex drive, regardless of gender?
    Sigh...
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Relationships and casual..I am two very different women. If I pursue and make all the moves..sure sign I don't see anything long term or serious..
    I'd probably say I'm the opposite there. If I want someone it's going to be long term.

    I dont think I've ever pursued casual sex. That just happens when I've given in to it......lol
    As for initiating sex...doesn't it generally fall to the person with the higher sex drive, regardless of gender?
    Sigh...

    good point! :flowerforyou:
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    Is this really a question? Do I feel turned off or emasculated if a woman initiates sex? Um, NO! You mean I don't have to warm her up or beg, she comes to me? That's like the stories in Penthouse Letters.

    I might be suspicious. Like, has she decided she wants a baby? A new car? To move in with me? Turned off though, HELL NO!
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    Is this really a question? Do I feel turned off or emasculated if a woman initiates sex? Um, NO! You mean I don't have to warm her up or beg, she comes to me? That's like the stories in Penthouse Letters.

    I might be suspicious. Like, has she decided she wants a baby? A new car? To move in with me? Turned off though, HELL NO!

    See now that a smart man hes gonna enjoy it but keep his eyes open lol
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Is this really a question? Do I feel turned off or emasculated if a woman initiates sex? Um, NO! You mean I don't have to warm her up or beg, she comes to me? That's like the stories in Penthouse Letters.

    I might be suspicious. Like, has she decided she wants a baby? A new car? To move in with me? Turned off though, HELL NO!

    hahahahaha! @ 'warm her up'!!!!!!!!

    I bet you'd get bored if she did it all that time David !! :tongue:

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