When to accept that you will not have a child?
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WE have been trying for 6 years. It doesn't help that my husband travels for work and never seems to be home when I O (if I O) my doctor wants us to do some of the testing, ultrasound and all that stuff to be able to have kids, which I wouldn't mind, BUT I am a teacher. I can't take all that time off work.
I know how tough it is, especially when you hear people with PCOS say that it happens to them, well why can't it happen to me? It's frustrating, and I just want you to know I understand!
That is a long time..could you work it out to arrange it during the summer when your off on summer vacation? I know everything just seems endless and trying, and just not do-able.. I was there a few months ago, I am a little better now, but I usually start out hopeful, then I get frustrated, then I give up... This will be my 3rd round in almost 2.5 years... sooo.. we shall see. I wish you lots of baby dust.... and a miracle story too
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The main problem is his morphology. They are nice and quick so getting to the destination isn't the problem, them getting through the barrier is. He is on a vitamin regime that might help (fingers crossed). I might talk to my DR about IUI though. See if it might help.0
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The main problem is his morphology. They are nice and quick so getting to the destination isn't the problem, them getting through the barrier is. He is on a vitamin regime that might help (fingers crossed). I might talk to my DR about IUI though. See if it might help.
How is it going Nikki??0 -
I was reading everyone's posts above and feel much better knowing that I am not alone. I am turning 28 next month, my husband is 35, and we were intensely TTC. I was diagnosed with PCOS 6 years ago and went undiagnosed for 4 years before that. I put on 80 lbs. in 2004. My gynecologist sent me to some half-assed reproductive endocrinologist. It was my fault for not doing my research. I was put on Metformin and Clomid for months. Then they wanted me on Ovidrel injection and an IUI. I started nursing school and decided I would not use BC, and would take a break. I was constantly disappointed every month as well as most. I needed a break. I am in nursing school and if it happens I will make it work, but probably won't actively TTC until next year again. I am focusing on losing weight and getting my hormones under control. We have discussed adoption, but I don't think I could accept not being able to have a child. I would like just one of my own and would gladly adopt after that.0
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Hi Ladies, Firstly don't quit trying to achieve your dream. 10 years my husband & i were trying to conceive (from when our daughter was 2) I could sit here and tell you all day about how the medical team nearly killed me because i wanted a baby so bad.
from liver damage, kidney damage, stuffing up in surgery during my D&C to wrong medication. it took me just over a year to repair my liver from the birth control pill to regulate my cycles. weekly i'd need blood test. (stay away from Yaz/Yasmin birth control) i went on 300mg clomid, 2000mg metformin to get pregnant. I lost my hair, depression, anxiety got worse, gained weight, got pregnant and miscarried, thyroid screwed up. I was told i needed to lose weight to get pregnant but that it was impossible for a woman with pcos to lose weight and to just accept I'll never lose it and never get pregnant.
I joined a gym in May, have lost alot of weight and guess what? in september and late october i got pregnant (that's right, twice) without any medication. I miscarried very early though because of my thyroid. But at least i know that when i do want a baby (now it's unlikely as I'm sick of being hurt) that i do have a good chance to carry a baby if i get the right medical attention in time.
If you really want it, don't give up. chase the dream and it will come true.0
