Mean breakups
pa_jorg
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I was listening to the radio on my drive into work this morning and the DJ's were taking calls to hear about the meanest way people broke up with someone - or were broken up with.
I have to admit I was a bit shocked by some of the stories since that's not my personal style...so Peeps, let me hear more. What have you done or has been done to you to end a relationship that was downright mean or cruel?
I have to admit I was a bit shocked by some of the stories since that's not my personal style...so Peeps, let me hear more. What have you done or has been done to you to end a relationship that was downright mean or cruel?
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Was dumped on 28th December, after her and her eldest daughter had spent Christmas with me and family at my parents house. No real warning, and did so over text after ignoring first few attempts to contact her, it was only when I said I felt like I had done something majorly wrong that she replied, told me I hadn't but that was ending things.
Initially told me was cos couldn't handle a relationship with everything else going on in her life, and that her kids felt like she didn't love them anymore so had to focus on them, but was then complaining less than a month later about not being able to find a guy.
Reasons repeatedly changed in following months and wouldn't talk about it face to face for a long while.
Finally spoke properly about things 8 months later. We're good friends now but was difficult for a while.0 -
I had a guy tell I was stupid and he just can't be with stupid people.0
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My last long term relationship...
We were serious, had been talking about what marriage would look like (not when, but logistics of moving two families together with four kids). Out of the blue he just grew very cold. Physical affection stopped, as did "I love you". I asked him about it and he said that we'd laid the groundwork, were past the honeymoon phase and he shouldn't have to reassure me in that way anymore. I explained to him what my love languages were (words of affirmation, physical touch). We were both well versed in the book, and both agreed to try harder. A week later he texted and said "I don't think this is working out". I asked him if he was really breaking up with me via text. And, he said "Guess so". It took me aback because we had just laughed at his teenage son for doing the same and swore that was the most ridiculous thing ever. Anyway...14 months later and he still texts me about once a month. He knows he made a mistake, but he'll never admit it. Better that way, because I'd never take him back.0 -
I had been dating a guy for around six months when I was in my late 20s. "I love yous" had been exchanged, we had met each other's family and friends, we were exclusive, etc. We had a lot of fun together and were very compatible. He typically spent a couple of nights at my house each week.
He stayed over at my house on a Sunday night. We had a great night, had sex, all that. He got up the next morning, left for work, and never spoke to me again.
I called and e-mailed him. I thought he might be dead. (Duh.) Got a hold of one of his friends who told me he was okay. I was really humiliated; I still don't know what happened. It was completely out of the blue and he never responded to my calls or e-mails to say anything about why he poofed.
However, he left one of his favorite shoes at my house. I took great delight in throwing it in the trash.0 -
My ex-girlfriend and I broke up after about 2 years, I don't remember exactly what happened. I think we were fighting about something stupid and I told her I couldn't take it and wasn't happy anymore. About and hour later her mom called me, I let it go straight to voicemail. When I listened to the message her mom was yelling at me over voicemail about how I lead her on, and "how can you sleep at night", and a bunch of other psychotic drivel.
It was then that I realized how happy I was to not be attached to that crazy *kitten* family any more.0 -
Was dumped on 28th December, after her and her eldest daughter had spent Christmas with me and family at my parents house. No real warning, and did so over text after ignoring first few attempts to contact her, it was only when I said I felt like I had done something majorly wrong that she replied, told me I hadn't but that was ending things.
Initially told me was cos couldn't handle a relationship with everything else going on in her life, and that her kids felt like she didn't love them anymore so had to focus on them, but was then complaining less than a month later about not being able to find a guy.
Reasons repeatedly changed in following months and wouldn't talk about it face to face for a long while.
Finally spoke properly about things 8 months later. We're good friends now but was difficult for a while.
you are WAY too nice!0 -
I think I win this one.....
My son was six weeks old and I had just started back at work....My husbands cell had broken...
Well I had a work related accident ended up majorly spraining my ankle and needed to go to the hospital... I had a friend come get me at work and we went home to pick up my husband..There was a Dear John note on the table saying how he wasn't happy and was moving back to his mom's. He waited til I was at work cause he couldn't face me to tell me.. Needless to say that was a fun hospital visit ...Later I found out that he was cheating on me during my pregnancy (I found video) with his now GF......We all get along really well now but that first 6 months were crazy.....
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My worst breakup was right after I graduated from high school. We were together our whole senior year and were planning to stay together when I left for college (you know how that goes). He had been distant for a week or so, so I knew something was wrong. He called me one night and told me he wanted to break up, and I heard a girl's voice in the background. I asked him who it was, and he said "Well, I have a date, so I need to get going, but I'll call you later tonight so we can finish this conversation."
I attribute it to the guy just being young and immature. We didn't speak for a few years, but we are good friends now. He's a great guy, happily married with an infant daughter, and I genuinely wish him the best.
More recently, I've had a couple of guys end things via text or email, which I just think is so ridiculous it's almost comical. I could understand using that medium if this is someone you met online that you've only been on one date with and you just email them or text them to say it's not going to work out. But someone you've been dating for months? A phone call is the absolute least you could do, and if you are able to see them and do it in person (privately, of course), you should.0 -
I heard a story once. I'm sure it isn't actually real.
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Loving young couple lives together. The girlfriend comes home to a plate of fresh baked cookies with a card on top reading something like "Hit 'play' on TV". She takes a bite of the first cookie and begins to watch the video. It's her best friend blowing her BF and spitting it into the cookie dough.
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Anyone else hear that one? I looked for the recipe on MFP, but couldn't find it. Not a bad source of protein.0 -
Physical affection stopped
This is when you know you have a problem with a guy. Some guys are just not physically affectionate in general, but you know that about them from the very beginning. If a guy starts out wanting to kiss you and touch you all the time and seems to enjoy when you get "grabby" with him, and then he's suddenly pushing your hand away or never kissing you, he has simply lost interest. Saying "you shouldn't still need this kind of reassurance," is just his way of projecting his disinterest back onto you.0 -
I had him served with a restraining order.0
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After talking about marriage, rings, me being his wife, etc. etc. etc., one day he came to my work out of the blue and told me he just couldn't do this anymore.0
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Worst happened not too long ago--after a weekend away, and both affirming we had a great time, 2 nights later I got a TEXT stating "i don't feel a connection so it is not fair to lead you on, and we have nothing in common" I knew this was not completely true, but had no idea what happened........we had a great deal in common, and thought maybe he did just not feel the connection anymore -though he had started talking about moving in together, etc. Found out about a month later, he got scared---thought he was going to lose himself like he did when he got married, so bailed while he could. We were supposed to get together and talk and "go from there" but he met someone when I went on my cruise..........c'est la vie..........
Not as bad as others for sure.........0 -
In high school, I broke up with a girl on her birthday. A few years later, we got back together. She pissed me off so bad that I walked out of a surprise birthday party she threw for me and broke up with her again.0
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Physical affection stopped
This is when you know you have a problem with a guy. Some guys are just not physically affectionate in general, but you know that about them from the very beginning. If a guy starts out wanting to kiss you and touch you all the time and seems to enjoy when you get "grabby" with him, and then he's suddenly pushing your hand away or never kissing you, he has simply lost interest. Saying "you shouldn't still need this kind of reassurance," is just his way of projecting his disinterest back onto you.
No, I'll disagree on this one. It's the way his family was. I was really worried about it after meeting them and spending several weekends at their house. His family shows no affection towards each other whatsoever. I just felt luck that he was not like them. He was not overly affectionate, however there was enough to meet my needs. As soon as it stopped, he reminded me of his father and I knew I needed to address it right away. But, after speaking with his brother, it was just the way he's wired. He thinks that signs of affection are only needed for those that are insecure and there was no way to fix it.
The breakup was more than him being "disinterested". It took him 3 months before he was ready to meet for dinner to exchange keys and talk. I gave him a hug and he said the biggest mistake he made was letting me go. He still texts me now to say he's heard "our song" on the radio, to ask how my kids are, wish happy birthdays, etc. Anyway, it was a little more than him waking up one day and not wanting the relationship.0 -
In high school, I broke up with a girl on her birthday. A few years later, we got back together. She pissed me off so bad that I walked out of a surprise birthday party she threw for me and broke up with her again.
Did she get the wrong flavor of ice cream? B*tch.0 -
In high school, I broke up with a girl on her birthday. A few years later, we got back together. She pissed me off so bad that I walked out of a surprise birthday party she threw for me and broke up with her again.
Did she get the wrong flavor of ice cream? B*tch.
Hate it when that happens.... :grumble:0 -
In high school, I broke up with a girl on her birthday. A few years later, we got back together. She pissed me off so bad that I walked out of a surprise birthday party she threw for me and broke up with her again.
Did she get the wrong flavor of ice cream? B*tch.
Hate it when that happens.... :grumble:
what did she do?0 -
Hmm...my last breakup. We had dated for about 6 months or so. I had to go out of town on business all week as I travel a lot during the week for my job.
So the Sunday before we were together, and got all of our twirly out of the way. And the next Saturday she had bought tickets for a concert that she knew I wanted to see.
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Wednesday I am sitting in a meeting in Utah when I get a text from her. "We are over. I need to make up with my [abusive] ex husband. I hope you still want to go to the concert with me."
So the rest of that week sucked at work. And now, regretfully, I went to the damn concert. I regret that everyday as now I can barely listen to those songs without feeling all kinds of emotions. Been about 6 months and still trying to get over it all.0 -
Eh, 'mean' has never been part of my romantic history.
-knock on wood-0 -
In high school, I broke up with a girl on her birthday. A few years later, we got back together. She pissed me off so bad that I walked out of a surprise birthday party she threw for me and broke up with her again.
Did she get the wrong flavor of ice cream? B*tch.
Hate it when that happens.... :grumble:
what did she do?
Nothing I care to share over the interwebz. It wasn't that bad but we were having problems because of immaturity and lack of communication. Oddly (or pathetically), we dated again a year later and were talking about getting married. I broke it off because I figured one of was likely to kill the other and I wasn't sure I would be the one standing trial. She's married now and doing well. We just weren't good for each other. It was way too hot or cold. Neither of us has ever met another person that could infuriate the other like we did.0 -
I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.0
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WOW, I feel bad for everyone...
Mine are miniscule and maybe not even 'bad'
1. (dated 5 months) dumped via text message after ignoring me for 2 days
2. (the gambling addict, dated 9 months) He told me he forced himself to see me and felt no joy -- all after finding out his secret
3. (saw this guy only 5 times) slept with him and got 'dumped' the next day0 -
I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.0 -
I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.
i'm so sorry that happened. I wouldn't know how to react either. Wait I do know how I would react, I would lose my sh%t , beat the crap out of him (and her) and end up in jail. :laugh:0 -
I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.
i'm so sorry that happened. I wouldn't know how to react either. Wait I do know how I would react, I would lose my sh%t , beat the crap out of him (and her) and end up in jail. :laugh:
I think I would say, "wow this is awkward. I just came back from the doctor where I found out I have [fill in the STD that scares her most]. I was worried I gave it to you. I guess now that probably isn't the case." Then lose your **** and end up in jail.0 -
I was in shock. Went cold and numb. Didn't say anything and left. Of course later on she denied it.I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.
i'm so sorry that happened. I wouldn't know how to react either. Wait I do know how I would react, I would lose my sh%t , beat the crap out of him (and her) and end up in jail. :laugh:
I think I would say, "wow this is awkward. I just came back from the doctor where I found out I have [fill in the STD that scares her most]. I was worried I gave it to you. I guess now that probably isn't the case." Then lose your **** and end up in jail.0 -
I was in shock. Went cold and numb. Didn't say anything and left. Of course later on she denied it.I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.
i'm so sorry that happened. I wouldn't know how to react either. Wait I do know how I would react, I would lose my sh%t , beat the crap out of him (and her) and end up in jail. :laugh:
I think I would say, "wow this is awkward. I just came back from the doctor where I found out I have [fill in the STD that scares her most]. I was worried I gave it to you. I guess now that probably isn't the case." Then lose your **** and end up in jail.
WTF. How does that just get explained away?0 -
I was in shock. Went cold and numb. Didn't say anything and left. Of course later on she denied it.I walked in on her while she was riding a guy.
See, I don't know how I'd react to that. I truly cannot even mentally put myself in that situation and imagine what I would do. That is awful.
i'm so sorry that happened. I wouldn't know how to react either. Wait I do know how I would react, I would lose my sh%t , beat the crap out of him (and her) and end up in jail. :laugh:
I think I would say, "wow this is awkward. I just came back from the doctor where I found out I have [fill in the STD that scares her most]. I was worried I gave it to you. I guess now that probably isn't the case." Then lose your **** and end up in jail.
WTF. How does that just get explained away?
WTF how can u deny being caught red handed?0
