Challenge April 6th
Missmegan831 *TEAM SCARIMONI*
This challenge can be interpreted in so many ways..so this is what came to my mind when I saw it:
I was in a very abusive marriage for 10 yrs..I was overweight 309 pounds, due to using food to comfort the pain that I went thru everyday of my life. I was put down by my exhusband mentally and abused emotionally, physically and sexually, I felt so trapped like I was such a disgusting person that 'this was the best I could have in life'... (fast forward) after my divorce I dropped an entire person 150+ pounds, from going to TOPS and walking, and feeling good about myself and being FREE of the nightmare I was once stuck in over the years I gained and lost and gained and gained due to other stresses and lack of love for myself... along the way, I have made several friends that have lived the same abuse that I once did..and it wasnt until about 2 yrs ago that I realized that 90% of the women that are in abusive relationships and stay is because they have lost sight of their self worth, their purpose and their spirits have been broken...so when I moved to Tennessee little over 2 1/2 years ago I got very active in the Domestic Violence homeless shelter here in the area where woman and their children can go to have a fresh start, a safe place and start rebuilding their lives, their strength and their courage to stand up for themselves. I visit their at least twice a week, talk with the girls about how they are, what goals they are setting for themselves and boy oh boy do I cook... I have walked in both DV 5K walks to raise money to maintain the home they all live in. I help with the fundraising and volunteer my time...if only there were resources back when I needed the help, I know I would have become stronger long ago... This coming week I am offering my services, I'm a massage therapist and sometimes just making someone feel good about themselves is motivation all in its own.LOOK GOOD, FEEL GOOD, DO GOOD... I have 2 friends there that are in dire need of losing weight to stay healthy for their young children and I have suggested MFP, along with some group activites that will get them out, and motivated and moving..its baby steps, as most survivors of abuse lack the 'spark' to make changes outta of fear of failure...but I dont care how long it takes..I know if I can help at least one woman change her life then that is an accomplishment I am truly blessed with...
Just want everyone to remember that its not always about the number on the scale, or the measurements on the tape...its how we feel inside and how we look at food, stress and our gift of life, we only get one life so lets make it remarkable... nothing will change unless we all stay focused, motivated and believe in yourself xx
30 Oblique crunches
Today, I drove to Pittsburgh and attended a meeting about a 20.7 mile hike for curing childhood cancer, and I registered for it. I did this because I lost my mom to cancer, as well as other loved ones, and hiking is my thing. I do 20 mile hikes already, it is my thing!
Wow, everyone on here is so amazing, that my story of helping someone may very much pale. The person (the only person really) that I even have time to help it seems right now is my own son. He is 10 years old, has Aspergers, Adhd combined, Mood disorder NOS, anxiety and is on the verge of being diagnosed Bipolar. Needless to say he has periods of going from horrible rage to debilitating self worth I spend most of my days trying to deal with his ups and downs and make him realize how much he really is worth. I won't go into it further, but as because of his condition I don't get to go out much, this is what I do. Where he's my child, sorry if this isn't what you were going for
MissMegan your story made me cry and to inspire me in that if you could lose a person then dang it I can lose a large child!! You are amazing and I'm so grateful to have posted a thread in which you responded that led to our friendship. Love you girl!!
Here is my challenge w/ backstory. My neighbor is a 30 yo man w/ a 12 yo daughter who's mother abandoned her when she was 2 to live a life of drugs. Her dad kinda sucks as far as making her feel special, spending time w/ her, etc. He now has a new gf and they just had a baby and I know the girl feels even less important now. The girl, Amber, has a lot of annoying traits that I admit drove me bsc when she used to ring the doorbell every 30 minutes to come in and tell me the right way to do things. After time I realized this was her way of feeling important and was really her insecurities coming through. I also found out from the new gf that Amber partakes in some really disturbing behavior at home that to me indicates abuse/neglect. Ever since I have begun to like her more and make time to talk to her, asking her about her day and life in general. For today's challenge I wanted to reach out to her and take her to the park with my kids to play and enjoy the weather. She wasn't home but that doesn't mean I can't take a raincheck! I firmly believe God puts us and other's in our paths for a reason and maybe between the new gf and myself we can offset some of the pain this girl feels from being abandoned by her mom.
Wow, everyone on here is so amazing, that my story of helping someone may very much pale. The person (the only person really) that I even have time to help it seems right now is my own son. He is 10 years old, has Aspergers, Adhd combined, Mood disorder NOS, anxiety and is on the verge of being diagnosed Bipolar. Needless to say he has periods of going from horrible rage to debilitating self worth I spend most of my days trying to deal with his ups and downs and make him realize how much he really is worth. I won't go into it further, but as because of his condition I don't get to go out much, this is what I do. Where he's my child, sorry if this isn't what you were going for :-/ I also try to motivate my friends here the way I have been motivated by others
Thank you all for your stories, you're all amzing, kind people!
*50 Oblique crunches to come
Crystal.. I never been a big cry baby but you ruined my makeup with this...IN A GOOD WAY... you are a great support to me and so many others...dont ever forget that!!
A very close friend of mine recently lost his 6 yr old nephew. He was very ill with cerebral palsy and was very close to him. I keep in touch every day trying to lift his spirits and also so that he knows he always has a chance to talk about him if he wishes.
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