Guys getting more responces when online dating
jenbit
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One of my guy friends and I were just talking about it and he asked me what kinda emails I get as an intro email and which ones have the best chance of getting a responce. Since I wrote it out I thought it would be fun to post in here lol
here are the ones that never get answered unless I'm bored or your perfect in everyway (like when hell freezes over)
1."hey"
2."what are you up too"
3."Hey, your hot "
The ones that I answer if hes got alot in commen with me
1. "Hi, i saw we have alot in commen"
2." Hey , how are you"
The ones that always get an answer are something that looks original and is more then 4 or 5 words. Especially if they pulled something from my page to reference..... Little things like that get you a lot more responces....
One guy asked me what is was like to be a jets fan in Miami ect ect
However don't write a book it is an intro email wafter all
here are the ones that never get answered unless I'm bored or your perfect in everyway (like when hell freezes over)
1."hey"
2."what are you up too"
3."Hey, your hot "
The ones that I answer if hes got alot in commen with me
1. "Hi, i saw we have alot in commen"
2." Hey , how are you"
The ones that always get an answer are something that looks original and is more then 4 or 5 words. Especially if they pulled something from my page to reference..... Little things like that get you a lot more responces....
One guy asked me what is was like to be a jets fan in Miami ect ect
However don't write a book it is an intro email wafter all
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This one I found well thought out and quirky ..What do you ladies think
I usually compliment a girl's looks, because I don't really know anything else about them. But, I think that's shallow so I'll compliment your sunglasses (pic #3 and #4) instead. They are very nice glasses. I bet they keep the sun out and allow you to drive with relative ease, instead of being blinded by the sun and risk hitting the car in front of you. I bet they came in a nice case too. I think you should take a picture of the case with a thumbs up beside it and send it to the glasses company. They'd appreciate it.
Also, you're super cute and we both like tennis and working out. Could we be any more of a match?
Write back and say hi.0 -
This one I found well thought out and quirky ..What do you ladies think
I usually compliment a girl's looks, because I don't really know anything else about them. But, I think that's shallow so I'll compliment your sunglasses (pic #3 and #4) instead. They are very nice glasses. I bet they keep the sun out and allow you to drive with relative ease, instead of being blinded by the sun and risk hitting the car in front of you. I bet they came in a nice case too. I think you should take a picture of the case with a thumbs up beside it and send it to the glasses company. They'd appreciate it.
Also, you're super cute and we both like tennis and working out. Could we be any more of a match?
Write back and say hi.
Hahaha!! That is cute!
I'll ditto your OP. Emails that also get deleted are those that are sent in text speak.0 -
Nice try ladies
I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops. 0 -
The ones I delete right away are:
1- asking for $ex eg. Your (he misspelled it) beautiful I want to have sex with you.
2- vulgar user names eg. Ishouldbeinyou, I don't care what your message says with a user name like that I'm not going to read it.
3- messages with no pictures
and what Jen and Becky said.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
Damn. You've got me figured out. I really thought I could fool you all.
I don't care how nice a man looks. If he can't hold a conversation, I'm not going to waste his or my time.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
As much fun as most of these so called "physically perfect" guys are to look at most of them down here are giant douche canoes, and cant carry a conversation.... I actually prefer my men with tattoos long hair and a preference for rock and nerdy things....... I dont actually care for skinny guy lol.. My last long term BF was 280 and 6'20 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.
No use of the word privilege : no care :laugh:0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.
No use of the word privilege : no care :laugh:
I'm not actually listening to you, I'm just staring at your body and nodding until you stop. Then I can go back to my sandwich making.
Honestly if you could just put some bacon across your abs and put that as your main pic it'd probably be one of my favoritest things ever.0 -
BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's0
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BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's
Poor spelling oddly enough is another item women frequently express a distaste for. When I did POF at least half the women on there seemed to specifically note that men who can't spell shouldn't bother writing. Oh the irony
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Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
As much fun as most of these so called "physically perfect" guys are to look at most of them down here are giant douche canoes, and cant carry a conversation.... I actually prefer my men with tattoos long hair and a preference for rock and nerdy things....... I dont actually care for skinny guy lol.. My last long term BF was 280 and 6'2
Meh, long term shmong term. I don't question that women do have the ability to occasionally come to their senses and choose quality over looks but just believe that only happens after she gets bored plowing through pretty boys. You can tell more about a woman and what she's really attracted too based off what her last few hook ups were vs her last long term relationship.0 -
BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's
Since you brought it up, you also misspelled common.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
This is exactly what I do when im on a dating site and DAMN PROUD OF IT.
Hopefully the man on the other side searched the entire site- found me the most attractive girl to him, who spends as much time on her body as he does on his, dismissed the flops and the non-qualifiers and messaged me, thinking that attraction plus dedication to similar goals plus single could = awesome date and maybe badass sex.
Sure every once in a while he'll send a message to a normal lookin chick with a badass profile if he's in a certain mood, but in general that would be 1 message out of 50. Cause not everyone goes on dating sites to find a marriage partner and everlasting love of the beautifulness.
Some people want to have a man or a woman by their side to conquer the world with and bang as often as possible and THAT is their definition of the beautifulness.
if you made me date any of those uggos (with bad attitudes toward women, and trying to date someone who is obsessed with fitness and they cant even get off their damn computer to go for a goddamn walk and pause their WOW BULLSHT) that Im not attracted to - guess what. The best he could possibly hope for is a new friend in me.
Cause I dont want anyone by my side that I dont want to lick from top to bottom.
And I dont go on a dating site to make any more effing friends.
I dont care if those guys are interesting. They arent attractive to me.
Hopefully the guy I do find hot, that has an email that I DO open, isn't a dumbass about to stick his foot in mouth - cause then he goes on the pile of other rejects.
And if he isnt a dumbass, and he is compatible with me and he did ignore everyone else that didnt appeal to him - then we officially have two people staring each other down that know what they want and it's in front of them. No games. No charity. No guilt for not being attracted to each other.
Jesus christ. Every time I hear the whining that girls only talk to guys they are attracted to - i wanna scream - NO ****.
You dont work on your body? you arent fit to touch mine.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
As much fun as most of these so called "physically perfect" guys are to look at most of them down here are giant douche canoes, and cant carry a conversation.... I actually prefer my men with tattoos long hair and a preference for rock and nerdy things....... I dont actually care for skinny guy lol.. My last long term BF was 280 and 6'2
Meh, long term shmong term. I don't question that women do have the ability to occasionally come to their senses and choose quality over looks but just believe that only happens after she gets bored plowing through pretty boys. You can tell more about a woman and what she's really attracted too based off what her last few hook ups were vs her last long term relationship.
lol well last see... THe last 4 guys I've had sex with then..
1 really short -like 5"5 and suer skinny but funny as hell and a friend for years
2 slighty shorter then me ,little chunky long haired guitar player
3. Cocky a$s long haired Akido instructor
4. Taller then me canadian muclear tech who is super sarcastic......
So what does that say about me lol0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
This is exactly what I do when im on a dating site and DAMN PROUD OF IT.
Hopefully the man on the other side searched the entire site- found me the most attractive girl to him, who spends as much time on her body as he does on his, dismissed the flops and the non-qualifiers and messaged me, thinking that attraction plus dedication to similar goals plus single could = awesome date and maybe badass sex.
Sure every once in a while he'll send a message to a normal lookin chick with a badass profile if he's in a certain mood, but in general that would be 1 message out of 50. Cause not everyone goes on dating sites to find a marriage partner and everlasting love of the beautifulness.
Some people want to have a man or a woman by their side to conquer the world with and bang as often as possible and THAT is their definition of the beautifulness.
if you made me date any of those uggos (with bad attitudes abotu women trying to date someone who is obsessed with fitness and they cant even get off their damn computer to go for a goddamn walk) that Im not attracted to - guess what. The best he could possibly hope for is a new friend in me.
Cause I dont want anyone by my side that I dont want to lick from top to bottom.
And I dont go on a dating site to make any more effing friends.
I dont care if those guys are interesting. They arent attractive to me.
Hopefully the guy I do find hot, that has an email that I DO open, isn't a dumbass about to stick his foot in mouth - cause then he goes on the pile of other rejects.
And if he isnt a dumbass, and he is compatible with me and he did ignore everyone else that didnt appeal to him - then we officially have two people staring each other down that know what they want and it's in front of them. No games. No charity. No guilt for not being attracted to each other.
Jesus christ. Every time I hear the whining that girls only talk to guys they are attracted to - i wanna scream - NO ****.
You dont work on your body? you arent fit to touch mine.
HELL YES!!!
Yes on so many levels
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Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
This is exactly what I do when im on a dating site and DAMN PROUD OF IT.
Hopefully the man on the other side searched the entire site- found me the most attractive girl to him, who spends as much time on her body as he does on his, dismissed the flops and the non-qualifiers and messaged me, thinking that attraction plus dedication to similar goals plus single could = awesome date and maybe badass sex.
Sure every once in a while he'll send a message to a normal lookin chick with a badass profile if he's in a certain mood, but in general that would be 1 message out of 50. Cause not everyone goes on dating sites to find a marriage partner and everlasting love of the beautifulness.
Some people want to have a man or a woman by their side to conquer the world with and bang as often as possible and THAT is their definition of the beautifulness.
if you made me date any of those uggos (with bad attitudes toward women, and trying to date someone who is obsessed with fitness and they cant even get off their damn computer to go for a goddamn walk and pause their WOW BULLSHT) that Im not attracted to - guess what. The best he could possibly hope for is a new friend in me.
Cause I dont want anyone by my side that I dont want to lick from top to bottom.
And I dont go on a dating site to make any more effing friends.
I dont care if those guys are interesting. They arent attractive to me.
Hopefully the guy I do find hot, that has an email that I DO open, isn't a dumbass about to stick his foot in mouth - cause then he goes on the pile of other rejects.
And if he isnt a dumbass, and he is compatible with me and he did ignore everyone else that didnt appeal to him - then we officially have two people staring each other down that know what they want and it's in front of them. No games. No charity. No guilt for not being attracted to each other.
Jesus christ. Every time I hear the whining that girls only talk to guys they are attracted to - i wanna scream - NO ****.
You dont work on your body? you arent fit to touch mine.
QFT!!!
and to the monkey guy...dude you just sound so miserable!!!!0 -
Also of course people only sleep with someone they are attracted to lol but you need to remember different things attract different people.......
BTW men are gonna get no sympathy on this board complaining about being judged based on looks... We ladies have been told time and time again that our looks are our biggest assest and nothing else matters lol.....Some of us took it well and do the best we can to make ourselves look the best we can..Other got angry , and then kept working out adn trying to improve themselves0 -
BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's
Poor spelling oddly enough is another item women frequently express a distaste for. When I did POF at least half the women on there seemed to specifically note that men who can't spell shouldn't bother writing. Oh the irony
That's not irony.
Stop trying to guilt trip women into being attracted to you. Your bitterness is off-putting (in case you haven't noticed). The most annoying this is you aren't a bad looking dude, and yet you are still whining about how supermodels aren't pursuing you. Maybe the problem is the women you are pursuing, not the women that aren't pursuing you.0 -
Also of course people only sleep with someone they are attracted to lol but you need to remember different things attract different people.......
BTW men are gonna get no sympathy on this board complaining about being judged based on looks... We ladies have been told time and time again that our looks are our biggest assest and nothing else matters lol.....Some of us took it well and do the best we can to make ourselves look the best we can..Other got angry , and then kept working out adn trying to improve themselves
Actually we were told that our happiness and confidence was a stupid thing to pursue, that we were only worth our youth and appearance and as soon as those were gone we should settle. That's what got people angry.
So yeah, when you come on here and whine about how women only care about looks you're gonna get told.0 -
100%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
for every chick like me that wants to conquer the world together and spend time working on our bodies and banging like virgin minks... there's two or three girls who are less into body types and more into what kind of gamer know how you're packing, or really into church bake sales with chubby guys, or voluptuous girls in love with pale ginger amputees.
The point is learning to decipher when you ONLY want a demographic that you are not attractive to. And instead of finding who IS into you, remaining mad that you wont change your preferences and neither will they - aint helping anyone.0 -
I don't get what the problem is. I am not ready for another relationship right now, so yes, I am going to spend my time plowing through pretty boys (or i should say men that are attractive to me, since I personally don't dig the "pretty" look).Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
As much fun as most of these so called "physically perfect" guys are to look at most of them down here are giant douche canoes, and cant carry a conversation.... I actually prefer my men with tattoos long hair and a preference for rock and nerdy things....... I dont actually care for skinny guy lol.. My last long term BF was 280 and 6'2
Meh, long term shmong term. I don't question that women do have the ability to occasionally come to their senses and choose quality over looks but just believe that only happens after she gets bored plowing through pretty boys. You can tell more about a woman and what she's really attracted too based off what her last few hook ups were vs her last long term relationship.
When I'll want a relationship, I will look for all the other qualities I need in a guy I want to date.
What are you so bitter about? The fact that women don't give unattractive guys as much attention as they give attractive guys?
NEWSFLASH, men are exactly the same, if not even worse. Get over it.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It's not wise to lump all women as shallow.
I get equally upset when women do the same to men.
Maybe your 'It's not fair' attitude is what made women not want to write you back?
Or maybe it's because you don't see yourself as attractive?0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.
This from a woman with two pics of her t*ts on her MFP profile. Aaand I'm rolling my eyes forever.0 -
BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's
Poor spelling oddly enough is another item women frequently express a distaste for. When I did POF at least half the women on there seemed to specifically note that men who can't spell shouldn't bother writing. Oh the irony
That's not irony.
Stop trying to guilt trip women into being attracted to you. Your bitterness is off-putting (in case you haven't noticed). The most annoying this is you aren't a bad looking dude, and yet you are still whining about how supermodels aren't pursuing you. Maybe the problem is the women you are pursuing, not the women that aren't pursuing you.
actually, the problem appears to be his attitude. I have been interested in men less attractive than him, because they had stellar attitudes and were just damn awesome. It is the attitude that is offputting, and I bet any money that it comes across in the hello messages he sends.0 -
Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
Why wouldn't women only write a message to guys they are attracted to?
That's how it's supposed to work, yes?
I sure would hate to be as miserable as you, I don't know why you hate women so bad, but you need to grow up.
I'm pretty sure women don't talk to you because of your *kitten* attitude that leaks out in seconds of you typing, not because you're not good looking to them...0 -
I just fell in love.
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Is there a problem with t#its? What about my butt? Can I post my butt on here?Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.
This from a woman with two pics of her t*ts on her MFP profile. Aaand I'm rolling my eyes forever.0 -
I just fell in love.
OMG BEST GIF EVER!!!0 -
Is there a problem with t#its? What about my butt? Can I post my butt on here?Nice try ladies I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.
It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.
Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.
This from a woman with two pics of her t*ts on her MFP profile. Aaand I'm rolling my eyes forever.
Please do!0
