Guys getting more responces when online dating

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  • JessieJanie
    JessieJanie Posts: 428
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.


    How you doin'?
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    I take it you don't get many responses.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.

    Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.

    This from a woman with two pics of her t*ts on her MFP profile. Aaand I'm rolling my eyes forever.
    Is there a problem with t#its? What about my butt? Can I post my butt on here?

    Like Mireygal76 profile pic? I doubt anyone's gonna complain. We here at SP are boobie/butt/leg/whatever friendly. Though full nudity...ehh...there was that ONE pic Annapixie posted that one time >.>
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    The guys that I typically like are not the most attractive guys in the room. Most of the time, my friend are like "what? He's not even that cute." I am honestly attracted mostly to personality, and looks second. Do looks matter? Somewhat but they're not the end all.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    The guys that I typically like are not the most attractive guys in the room. Most of the time, my friend are like "what? He's not even that cute." I am honestly attracted mostly to personality, and looks second. Do looks matter? Somewhat but they're not the end all.

    ^

    see! we are NOT all alike and there are as many different kinds of attraction as there are people.

    2 or 3 of the people I disregarded as not my type may be true love to another girl right behind me.

    Everyone is attractive to someone, so dont feel bad for not being attracted to everyone.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's

    lol no offense but there were a lot of grammar errors. and ironically that's a pet peeve of mine. if a guy doesn't know how to spell (or spell check) he will get nexted lol.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    Back on topic?

    I always reply to guys who make the effort to say something interesting. Usually something they pick out of my profile that we have in common. I reply even if I dont like the look of him as I'm grateful he made an effort

    Something that turns me off immediately is when you get a message from someone saying X, then 2 days later you get the same message from the same guy saying the same thing!! Obviously a copy and paste job, and a guy not paying attention isnt attractive to me. Dont know why. I guess I just like attention to detail......

    I dont like the 'hi' or the 'hey' mindlessness. I would never send of those to a guy. :noway:
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    It must be really hard being a man, constantly getting the short end of the stick because of your gender. I can't even imagine what it would be like growing up in a world where you are constantly judged by a single standard of beauty, where your character matters less than the size of your genitals.

    Oh man, and you're WHITE too? Holy hell you have had to suffer a lot in your lifetime.

    This from a woman with two pics of her t*ts on her MFP profile. Aaand I'm rolling my eyes forever.

    Forever, wow that's a long time. Are you sure you know what you're getting into?

    Just because I am more than my breasts doesn't mean I can't appreciate and show them off. It's not saying "All I am is boobs" because TWO of sixteen photos I have are breast centric. If you don't get that then I question your grasp of humanism.

    P.S. I love that you were willing to creep onto my profile to try and find something to criticize about me personally rather than my actual comment. When in doubt, ad hominem.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's

    lol no offense but there were a lot of grammar errors. and ironically that's a pet peeve of mine. if a guy doesn't know how to spell (or spell check) he will get nexted lol.

    i spel gud.

    how yoo dune?

    :happy:
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's

    Since you brought it up, you also misspelled common.

    You beat me to it!
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    haha! I wish I got that many emails. I get a few a week, depending which site I am using.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    This one I found well thought out and quirky ..What do you ladies think

    I usually compliment a girl's looks, because I don't really know anything else about them. But, I think that's shallow so I'll compliment your sunglasses (pic #3 and #4) instead. They are very nice glasses. I bet they keep the sun out and allow you to drive with relative ease, instead of being blinded by the sun and risk hitting the car in front of you. I bet they came in a nice case too. I think you should take a picture of the case with a thumbs up beside it and send it to the glasses company. They'd appreciate it.

    Also, you're super cute and we both like tennis and working out. Could we be any more of a match?

    Write back and say hi.

    This is actually awesome.. totally something I would write!
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's

    lol no offense but there were a lot of grammar errors. and ironically that's a pet peeve of mine. if a guy doesn't know how to spell (or spell check) he will get nexted lol.
    I'm good at maths :embarassed:
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    BTW I realize I misspelled Responses I usually do lol--- sorry to my poor spelling Nazi's

    lol no offense but there were a lot of grammar errors. and ironically that's a pet peeve of mine. if a guy doesn't know how to spell (or spell check) he will get nexted lol.
    I'm good at maths :embarassed:

    me too! lol. how you doin? :bigsmile:
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    Why wouldn't women only write a message to guys they are attracted to?
    That's how it's supposed to work, yes?

    I sure would hate to be as miserable as you, I don't know why you hate women so bad, but you need to grow up.

    I'm pretty sure women don't talk to you because of your *kitten* attitude that leaks out in seconds of you typing, not because you're not good looking to them...

    seriously dude, u need to let go of whatever past experiences hurt you because u are probably just pushing away any girls with potential
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    Why wouldn't women only write a message to guys they are attracted to?
    That's how it's supposed to work, yes?

    I sure would hate to be as miserable as you, I don't know why you hate women so bad, but you need to grow up.

    I'm pretty sure women don't talk to you because of your *kitten* attitude that leaks out in seconds of you typing, not because you're not good looking to them...

    seriously dude, u need to let go of whatever past experiences hurt you because u are probably just pushing away any girls with potential

    What's the best is that most women, especially around here, wouldn't go for a buff body builder who has perfected that physique.. I don't get any kicks from that body shape whatsoever, I like a little extra fluff....
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    Why wouldn't women only write a message to guys they are attracted to?
    That's how it's supposed to work, yes?

    I sure would hate to be as miserable as you, I don't know why you hate women so bad, but you need to grow up.

    I'm pretty sure women don't talk to you because of your *kitten* attitude that leaks out in seconds of you typing, not because you're not good looking to them...

    seriously dude, u need to let go of whatever past experiences hurt you because u are probably just pushing away any girls with potential

    I went through this for a brief period of time of about 6-7 months. I didn't hate any women but I always thought negatively of them. I assumed they always had ulterior motives If they showed any remote interest in me. I'd assume they were after me because I was good with gadgets, computers, and that they just wanted some computer geek guy to "fix" things for them. Granted, at the time I was at my heaviest too, so that didn't help either.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I'd assume they were after me because I was good with gadgets, computers, and that they just wanted some computer geek guy to "fix" things for them. Granted, at the time I was at my heaviest too, so that didn't help either.

    I can't speak for all women, but having you fix my computer would be the LAST thing I'd use a man for hehe.
    Ok I can't really use a man for anything, but if I was going too -- it may be for sex HAHA!!!
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Nice try ladies ;) I know how it really works. Women scroll through the 10,000,000 emails they get a day and pick out the hottest guys to write back to. Sure, everyone once in awhile you'll throw a normal guy a bone and toss a letter to guy who hasn't spent his entire life perfecting his physique but that's probably only 1 out of every 50 letters tops.

    Why wouldn't women only write a message to guys they are attracted to?
    That's how it's supposed to work, yes?

    I sure would hate to be as miserable as you, I don't know why you hate women so bad, but you need to grow up.

    I'm pretty sure women don't talk to you because of your *kitten* attitude that leaks out in seconds of you typing, not because you're not good looking to them...

    seriously dude, u need to let go of whatever past experiences hurt you because u are probably just pushing away any girls with potential

    What's the best is that most women, especially around here, wouldn't go for a buff body builder who has perfected that physique.. I don't get any kicks from that body shape whatsoever, I like a little extra fluff....

    A-fricking-men.
  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    The guys that I typically like are not the most attractive guys in the room. Most of the time, my friend are like "what? He's not even that cute." I am honestly attracted mostly to personality, and looks second. Do looks matter? Somewhat but they're not the end all.

    Yeah, interesting enough I dated a guy who my friend had a crush on. I didn't find him super attractive when I initially met him, but his "personality" and charm increased my attraction for him. However, as soon as he started to act like an *kitten* it faded..lol....I never think long term with men who are oh so beautiful. I see them as a temporary eye candy instead. Very weird, but its just been my experience.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    The guys that I typically like are not the most attractive guys in the room. Most of the time, my friend are like "what? He's not even that cute." I am honestly attracted mostly to personality, and looks second. Do looks matter? Somewhat but they're not the end all.

    Yeah, interesting enough I dated a guy who my friend had a crush on. I didn't find him super attractive when I initially met him, but his "personality" and charm increased my attraction for him. However, as soon as he started to act like an *kitten* it faded..lol....I never think long term with men who are oh so beautiful. I see them as a temporary eye candy instead. Very weird, but its just been my experience.

    exactly! pretty boys don't usually have a matching personality. in fact the last guy i was seeing was not my type off the bat (not that he isn't attractive, just not what I would usually go for) and boy did I fall for his personality! he was smart, funny, sweet, caring, etc. it didn't work out but i'm glad I met him :ohwell:
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    I like how this has become a strange situation were so many girls feel like they have to brag about the ugly men they've dated. I have no problem with beautiful men and if he's got a matching personality to mine it's cool. I have dated beautiful men I believed to be out of my league and I have dated men that made my friends question my taste but each and every time it was his attitude that makes it or breaks it as far as us lasting. Each time I was attracted to him. It has never occurred to me to dislike a man simply because he's good looking. It makes me notice him, but I also notice the guy in a justice league shirt and I'll talk to both of them. It's just as discriminatory and shallow to assume someone is a dud because they happen to be really really ridiculously good looking. *blue steel*
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I like how this has become a strange situation were so many girls feel like they have to brag about the ugly men they've dated. I have no problem with beautiful men and if he's got a matching personality to mine it's cool. I have dated beautiful men I believed to be out of my league and I have dated men that made my friends question my taste but each and every time it was his attitude that makes it or breaks it as far as us lasting. Each time I was attracted to him. It has never occurred to me to dislike a man simply because he's good looking. It makes me notice him, but I also notice the guy in a justice league shirt and I'll talk to both of them. It's just as discriminatory and shallow to assume someone is a dud because they happen to be really really ridiculously good looking. *blue steel*

    I don't think anyone is bragging but rather trying to make a point that you don't have to be anything great looking to date, at least I hope!

    But I do think that some very good looking people don't have to have such a great personality because they've learned that people will pay attention to them regardless. I've met some very good looking people with greay personalities but it is few and far between. But me, for example...I have to be more nice and funny because I don't have looks to back me up, but if you're Kate Upton gorgeous you don't have to have much of a personality as people will want to be around you.
  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    I like how this has become a strange situation were so many girls feel like they have to brag about the ugly men they've dated. I have no problem with beautiful men and if he's got a matching personality to mine it's cool. I have dated beautiful men I believed to be out of my league and I have dated men that made my friends question my taste but each and every time it was his attitude that makes it or breaks it as far as us lasting. Each time I was attracted to him. It has never occurred to me to dislike a man simply because he's good looking. It makes me notice him, but I also notice the guy in a justice league shirt and I'll talk to both of them. It's just as discriminatory and shallow to assume someone is a dud because they happen to be really really ridiculously good looking. *blue steel*

    I don't think anyone was discriminating, per say, against the pretty boys. I never dated a man who I initially considered unattractive either. However, in my experience the pretty boys sometime have an entitlement issue where they think looks will get them a date. I would definitely date someone who is average looking with a great personality rather than someone who is just "good looking". If I met a good looking man with a great personality, I would def go for it!
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Just the fact that you both followed up with saying pretty people don't 'tend' to have personality or are entitled is the exact point I was making. You are making assumptions about people with absolutely nothing to base it on other than appearance. One person specifically said she avoids traditionally good looking men. There are a few very good looking people in this very group that are awesome, there are good looking people that suck, there are people in here that run the gamut. We're all individuals and regardless of our looks everyone should be given a fair shot. Judge a person based on their choices, actions and words.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Just the fact that you both followed up with saying pretty people don't 'tend' to have personality or are entitled is the exact point I was making. You are making assumptions about people with absolutely nothing to base it on other than appearance.

    I meant more so the very good looking people that I have met from real life, not randoms I see at the gym or mall. You're right that it isn't fair to judge someone on looks, and I try not to. These are just people that I've met in real life that I'm basing these things on. I've been hard pressed to meet someone very good looking that is as nice, friendly, polite, funny, caring as the rest of us average human beings.
  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    Just the fact that you both followed up with saying pretty people don't 'tend' to have personality or are entitled is the exact point I was making. You are making assumptions about people with absolutely nothing to base it on other than appearance.

    I meant more so the very good looking people that I have met from real life, not randoms I see at the gym or mall. You're right that it isn't fair to judge someone on looks, and I try not to. These are just people that I've met in real life that I'm basing these things on. I've been hard pressed to meet someone very good looking that is as nice, friendly, polite, funny, caring as the rest of us average human beings.

    THIS!
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    "Girls think that I'm conceited, cause I know I'm attractive..."
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  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I like how this has become a strange situation were so many girls feel like they have to brag about the ugly men they've dated. I have no problem with beautiful men and if he's got a matching personality to mine it's cool. I have dated beautiful men I believed to be out of my league and I have dated men that made my friends question my taste but each and every time it was his attitude that makes it or breaks it as far as us lasting. Each time I was attracted to him. It has never occurred to me to dislike a man simply because he's good looking. It makes me notice him, but I also notice the guy in a justice league shirt and I'll talk to both of them. It's just as discriminatory and shallow to assume someone is a dud because they happen to be really really ridiculously good looking. *blue steel*

    haha, I don't think I have dated ugly men! Everyone I date I am attracted too and to each their own... who I find attractive my friends may not and vice versa. What I was saying in my post was that I am typically not attracted to the perfect physique. If we are looking solely at body type I prefer a taller man with some fluff... just what catches my eye from a shallow, completely physical perspective.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    People who have worked hard to attain a certain level of fitness are some of the most dedicated, hardworking, well informed, respectful and helpful people.

    Beautiful does not equal mean or stupid and i hate when normal, out if shape people talk about what other types of people tend to be like.

    If i said people who arent at a certain level tend to be lazy, boring and quick to quit on their goals... it wouldnt be fair even if it was based on 'real people ive met'.

    It isnt true and neither is the entitled bs.