it's just dancing, not ****ing or making out...who cares how many guys you dance with?

Okay, girl... here's the deal...

LOL

From experience: If he was dancing, and he wanted to dance with you, he is fine with it. He likes it. He didn't want you to say no. Now, there is a fine line between dancing and groping these days. I don't allow the groping necessarily, but I don't mind the dancing.

I have never had a guy tell me he didn't like me or thought I wasn't dating material because I danced with him. I've had them tell me I'm a good dancer. I've had them try to kiss me. LOL In fact, when I was younger and used to hit the dance floor all the time, most of the time, they wanted to talk to me, get my number, because I was just too freakin' hot. LOL And I danced. And I danced with them. So... there ya go. That's just from my experience in TX and AR.

No, you're definitely right in over thinking this one. If I had a dollar for every girl who let me dance with them right before I kicked them to the curb, I would have like $17. That's a lot of dollars and a lot of girls who made a bad impression.

What you should have done is thrown your drink in his face. Not with your left hand, though, or he might assume you were a homosexual and using him to help win votes in the heterosexual community. I am assuming you are running for office.

Also, it should probably be a dark beverage. If you threw something milky or clear, he would assume you are a racist and invite you to his next Klan meeting. If you went to the meeting, of course, he would assume your were too easy and also dump you.

Don't refill your next drink with the same order, though. This of course gives the impression that you are an alcoholic and your body has adjusted to a very specific alcohol intake.

I would have thought this to be common knowledge.

No, you're definitely right in over thinking this one. If I had a dollar for every girl who let me dance with them right before I kicked them to the curb, I would have like $17. That's a lot of dollars and a lot of girls who made a bad impression.

What you should have done is thrown your drink in his face. Not with your left hand, though, or he might assume you were a homosexual and using him to help win votes in the heterosexual community. I am assuming you are running for office.

Also, it should probably be a dark beverage. If you threw something milky or clear, he would assume you are a racist and invite you to his next Klan meeting. If you went to the meeting, of course, he would assume your were too easy and also dump you.

Don't refill your next drink with the same order, though. This of course gives the impression that you are an alcoholic and your body has adjusted to a very specific alcohol intake.

I would have thought this to be common knowledge.

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Yes I did, and it was so much fun but the whole time I was thinking, "does this make a good impression on a guy?"

Good move, and you probably did make a good impression on the guy. :bigsmile:

Good I just needed reassurance that it was okay and didn't make me look dumb.

But he didn't ask for my number.

NEXT!!!

Okay... there could be a million reasons why he didn't ask for your number. Don't sweat it. Don't overthink it. You're young. Just have fun. I promise you that if you will just let loose a little bit and have fun and let the guys see you having fun, you will attract more guys. They want to have fun. And you are attractive if you are having fun. Don't think too much. That scares them. And they can sense it...

Trust me, I am a lot of fun - I love to go out and dance with random people. But I did like this guy so that was the difference, and I wanted him to like me back.

Okay, let me get this straight. You normally do not have a problem dancing with random people, even guys? So... if you had chosen not to dance with him for fear of what he might think of you, you wouldn't really be showing him the real you, would you? Do you want someone to be a certain way just because he thinks that you would respect him more or would you rather meet someone who is comfortable enough to be himself no matter what, knowing that what you see is what you get?

I'm going to tell you something that you need to stick in your pocket and keep with you for the rest of your life, and pull it out whenever you start feeling this way. Okay?

STOP IT!!! Who cares what he thinks? If you want him to like you, he needs to like YOU, not the you that you will be just so that he will like you. That will never work. Even if it works for a little bit, only a couple things can come of it and none are good. A. You could end up resenting him because you are not being true to yourself. B. He could end up resenting you because you were not representing yourself truthfully.

No, you're definitely right in over thinking this one. If I had a dollar for every girl who let me dance with them right before I kicked them to the curb, I would have like $17. That's a lot of dollars and a lot of girls who made a bad impression.

What you should have done is thrown your drink in his face. Not with your left hand, though, or he might assume you were a homosexual and using him to help win votes in the heterosexual community. I am assuming you are running for office.

Also, it should probably be a dark beverage. If you threw something milky or clear, he would assume you are a racist and invite you to his next Klan meeting. If you went to the meeting, of course, he would assume your were too easy and also dump you.

Don't refill your next drink with the same order, though. This of course gives the impression that you are an alcoholic and your body has adjusted to a very specific alcohol intake.

I would have thought this to be common knowledge.

:flowerforyou: JHC....you're awesome!

Christine...next time you see a cute guy you kind of like and you're out dancing, grab his hand first and drag him out on the dance floor. He will think you're great and love that you initiated it. He may even ask for your number.

Not if they're creepy lol. But if they look normal and aren't grabbing my fat, then yeah I don't mind. It's fun.

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I'm with ya on that!!!

So apparently we should apply the three date rule to each aspect of dating?

1st date = a hug
2nd date = a kiss
3rd date = let 'er rip

1st date = listen to music in a place that has a dance floor
2nd date = add a toe tap/seat dance while the music is playing
3rd date = Boggie!

I guess I'm breakin' all the rules then!!

I don't have nearly enough confidence to do that ......

Stop worrying about what other people think and find that confidence. Just do it! Do I make an *kitten* out of myself occasionally? Probably. Do I care? Never. Do I have a fun life? Always!

I don't have nearly enough confidence to do that ......

Stop worrying about what other people think and find that confidence. Just do it! Do I make an *kitten* out of myself occasionally? Probably. Do I care? Never. Do I have a fun life? Always!

Wish I could have that attitude...always striving for it.

PRACTICE IT. When you walk in a room, hold your head high and walk in like you own the place. Never walk with your head down. Smile. A LOT. You are a very pretty young lady. No fear. When you stop worrying about what guys think and start just having fun, you won't have to worry about what guys think anymore.

Sometimes in public places, I look at people and try to smile - the majority of people walk with their head down. It is so interesting. Maybe 1 out of 10 people will look at you. Try it sometime!

hmmm.... Where do you live?

Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I would say more than half of the people here look at you and smile, some even speak. Maybe not in the grocery store always, but yeah... there, too, sometimes... Heck, we even wave at you if you're driving down the road. Especially out here in the country.

but if I did (dance with him), it makes me seem easy like I'll dance with any random guy I meet at the bar, and that I might not be great dating material.

I dont understand. Is "dance with" a euphemism for bang?

I'm glad I wasn't the only one who was thinking this!