If it was joking, no, not a dealbreaker. One of my best friends dislikes cats, and sometimes makes comments about my cat, but she's joking. That's totally cool. But if he was serious, it would be a dealbreaker.

My dog can be down right awful sometimes. She is super smart and super mischivous. But if someone told me they wanted me to get rid of her in order to be serious with them I would walk away. Bella is my baby.

When I am thinking about the topic of pet ownership, I consider a woman and her pets to be a package deal. I will never ask a woman to give up her pets.

I prefer the concept of two people not having any pets prior to getting married. I consider caring for a pet to be a major undertaking. I feel that the idea of having your significant other in place should be the first step in household formation, and that person is the person you build around. I think it is easier for a couple to decide to have a pet rather than having one person already having a pet and another non pet owner has to adjust to a new pet in their lives as well without having a choice in the matter. To me, a pet is part of a later stage of the establishment of a household.

The previous paragraph does not mean that I won't date a pet owner. A lot of factors are at play. But it is meant to show what I feel is the preferable arrangement for me as a non pet owner.

I'm allergic :sad: But still, perfect in every way!! :bigsmile:

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Dammit Anna! Now I can't marry you

I don't like dogs and can't imagine ever living with them, so I won't date men who have dogs. I tried once. I'm 100% crazy cat lady! I need someone who also at least likes cat as a pet and doesn't need to eventually get a dog, otherwise, it's a definite deal-breaker.

I am a major pet lover and would need to be with someone that at least will get along with a pet. I still had my cat when I was dating my last boyfriend and I told him we were a packaged deal. He isn't a fan of cats but knew he was going to have to at least put up with my cat. I had to put my cat down in March due to kidney failure so right now I am petless but I will have another one in the future.

Just thought I'd throw it out there that the reverse can also be a dealbreaker. I like animals, but I have no pets myself. I've got no issue with people that love their pets, but if a girl tells/shows me that she will never love me as much as she loves her dog or cat, then thanks but no thanks.

My dog has been there through every tough time in my life. He laid beside me while I recovered from having my gall bladder removed. I can not even imagine life without him and don't even want to think about it. He's also an excellent judge of character. Ex boyfriend that didn't like dogs....Schroder hid from him. I should have known then. Everyone else... is at my house to see Schroder (in his opinion) and he wants to make them feel welcome with dog kisses, haha :laugh: No man comes between me and my dog, but the right guy can be part of our family

my pets and I are a package deal. They don't have to love my animals, but they have to accept they are my furbabies, and I will not get rid of them for any man. Total deal breaker

Honestly in a relationship, my partner would always come first over my dog since I recongize its a dog...

Blasphemy!

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I agree with you. Pets are our family. A friend of mine got rid of her dog for a guy. Just shy of their one-year wedding anniversary, he told her he wanted to keep living together and sleeping together, but also get divorced and see other people.

So, she had no dog and the man was gone, too. Love me, love my pets. We're a package deal.

While I had cats, it was love me, love my cats. So yes it was a deal breaker if the chap couldn't deal with my cats.

Huge dealbreaker. My dog is basically part of the family, people don't just give up their children, why would I be expected to give up my dog? And I've had dogs my whole life, I don't think I could marry anyone that didn't like them. Especially Coop, he's probably one of the coolest dogs ever.

Actually, I find it quite startling that the peeps would choose a pet over the love of another human being.

So why do you guys want a partner then? Seems to me like your life is fulfilled with the love of an animal??

Forgive me, I'm not against animals, but I've been allergic since childhood so I've never formed a bond with one. I'm genuinely interested in how you can decide an animal is more important in life?

I mean, if the love of my life has a dog, I'd live on anti histamines to accommodate him, but you guys dont seem to want to make any sacrifice here..................so??

Actually, I find it quite startling that the peeps would choose a pet over the love of another human being.

So why do you guys want a partner then? Seems to me like your life is fulfilled with the love of an animal??

Forgive me, I'm not against animals, but I've been allergic since childhood so I've never formed a bond with one. I'm genuinely interested in how you can decide an animal is more important in life?

I mean, if the love of my life has a dog, I'd live on anti histamines to accommodate him, but you guys dont seem to want to make any sacrifice here..................so??

I think it is very much like Roadie said... you wouldn't ask someone who had a child to give them up. Pets are the equivalent of children, not spouses, in my opinion.

On the compromise front, one example is that my dog currently sleeps on my bed. If I had a spouse, I wouldn't allow her to do that any longer. Things like that are what need to be re-arranged, not the love of the animal itself.