Make it work for YOU. It's your life. You have time.
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I ADORE how more people are realizing that the process requires baby steps. I've noticed (as I'm sure many of you have) that it's the people who try to "change the world" :huh: or do everything at once that have the most difficulty with the entire process. :grumble:
Increasing cals, trying to hit macros perfectly, doing a reset, decreasing/increasing exercise, adding in weight lifting, running a 10k, going paleo, zigzagging cals, IFing, adding PB back in to the diet, drinking protein shakes, adding HIIT, giving up diet soda, switching to low carb/high carb, going to college, getting a degree, becoming a doctor, inventing a cure for cancer.... :noway:
ok, so I'm getting carried away...
But you get what I'm saying. Trying to conquer the world during your first week/month/YEAR of EM2WL, is gonna put you on the fast track to insanity. :sad:
One step at a time is all we can do.
Think of all things on your journey that you feel you need to work on (increasing protein? drinking more water? not getting on the scale as much? adding good fats? letting go of quick fix mentality?) and pick ONE that will have the greatest impact.
Do that ONE thing, until it is second nature. Then add the next step. There is no rush. You have nothing but time, this is the rest of your life.
**Research shows that when we tackle ONE new thing we have an over 80% success ratio. When we try to tackle TWO things, that rate drops as low as 20%*** :frown:
"ONE thing at a time!" you exclaim...."but that may take over a YEAR!"
EXXXXACTLY :drinker:
Set yourself up for success! :flowerforyou:
That's my weekly ramble, lol....I'm done
~Kiki
Increasing cals, trying to hit macros perfectly, doing a reset, decreasing/increasing exercise, adding in weight lifting, running a 10k, going paleo, zigzagging cals, IFing, adding PB back in to the diet, drinking protein shakes, adding HIIT, giving up diet soda, switching to low carb/high carb, going to college, getting a degree, becoming a doctor, inventing a cure for cancer.... :noway:
ok, so I'm getting carried away...
But you get what I'm saying. Trying to conquer the world during your first week/month/YEAR of EM2WL, is gonna put you on the fast track to insanity. :sad:
One step at a time is all we can do.
Think of all things on your journey that you feel you need to work on (increasing protein? drinking more water? not getting on the scale as much? adding good fats? letting go of quick fix mentality?) and pick ONE that will have the greatest impact.
Do that ONE thing, until it is second nature. Then add the next step. There is no rush. You have nothing but time, this is the rest of your life.
**Research shows that when we tackle ONE new thing we have an over 80% success ratio. When we try to tackle TWO things, that rate drops as low as 20%*** :frown:
"ONE thing at a time!" you exclaim...."but that may take over a YEAR!"
EXXXXACTLY :drinker:
Set yourself up for success! :flowerforyou:
That's my weekly ramble, lol....I'm done
~Kiki
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Love this!! It makes so much sense b/c sometimes you just need to be told to slow down & do 1 thing at a time. I know I have a big problem with going gung ho & trying to add in too many things at once & very quickly I burn out and do none of it. Thank you for this Kiki b/c I for one needed to be reminded of ALL of this!! :blushing: :flowerforyou:0
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Fantastic and so true! That's exactly what I'm doing. One day at a time .:) Thanks for the reminder.0
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Thanks for the reminder, Kiki.
I am not a very patient person, but this process is teaching me to be.
Getting there slowly. You guys are a great support!
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Yes, feeling overwhelmed, trying to hit every thing right on and getting discouraged sometimes. Still trying to get the scale # out of my head!! Thats my focus now. The more I try not to focus the more I focus on it. :explode: Even though cloths are fitting great, and a visible difference in the mirror. The scale is the hardest part for me. But I will get there!
But you get what I'm saying. Trying to conquer the world during your first week/month/YEAR of EM2WL, is gonna put you on the fast track to insanity. :sad:
~Kiki
Thanks for this! I WILL make it work. I won't make the scale my enemy I just won't believe everything it says! Kind of like a politician!!:laugh:0 -
And this is why I vote KiKi for president!!! lol This is what we all need to hear. It may seem like the weight came on over night but it didnt so therefore it wont come off over night. Patience, consistancy and patience
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*applause!*
The first week after I decided to get in good enough shape to run a 10k, I just walked the dog more. Then joined here and started C25K. It took another two weeks before I started even logging food with any regularity. I started with minor changes, like not having Pop Tarts for breakfast. Having a Quaker granola bar instead of five fun sized candy bars. Making something with pasta, a sauce, some vegetables and a protein instead of a Hamburger or Chicken Helper. A whole bunch of little changes. When one change became habit, I added another change. When exercising with 5# dumbbells didn't leave me sore, I moved on to heavier weights. When I could easily run 30 minutes, I longer... or faster so it wasn't so easy any more. I didn't pay attention to macros at first, only calories.
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Can we get some podcasts?? LOL, not trying to add to your plate, but love this one. Will need to revisit it regularly:happy:0
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this!!
I think that's why I feel so much better this time around. I've been taking things slow, and going after one goal at a time. And I've been doing a TON of research before I jump into anything. I feel so much more in control.
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Thanks Kiki....once again..you hit the nail right on the head!
Getting back to basics. Starting now.
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Wise words as always
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Increasing cals, trying to hit macros perfectly, doing a reset, decreasing/increasing exercise, adding in weight lifting, running a 10k, going paleo, zigzagging cals, IFing, adding PB back in to the diet, drinking protein shakes, adding HIIT, giving up diet soda, switching to low carb/high carb, going to college, getting a degree, becoming a doctor, inventing a cure for cancer....
Ok, so that describes me, apart from the doctor bit at the end :laugh:
Baby steps, patience, bay steps and patience!
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LOVEEEE this.Do that ONE thing, until it is second nature. Then add the next step. There is no rush. You have nothing but time, this is the rest of your life.
**Research shows that when we tackle ONE new thing we have an over 80% success ratio. When we try to tackle TWO things, that rate drops as low as 20%*** :frown:
"ONE thing at a time!" you exclaim...."but that may take over a YEAR!"
EXXXXACTLY :drinker:
Set yourself up for success! :flowerforyou:
~Kiki
when i first started EM2WL, i went into hyper-obsessive-anal-retentive mode. i was driving myself crazy with numbers and obsess over every single meal; seriously, all i thought about was food. i think mentally i was worse at the start of EM2WL than i was eating less. i knew what i could eat (very little) and i was fine within that strict outline. when i started this journey, having so many choices and not being restricted became stifling.
well now, 4 months into it, i find myself completely at peace and FREE. i'm taking it slowly....LEARNING about my body and making habits that'll last a lifetime.0 -
I feel like I should print this, frame it and hang it on my wall!!
I have a habit of beating myself up about SOMETHING every single day. I didn't hit my macros, I went over way too much on my carbs, I went out to dinner and blew it, didn't drink my water, didn't work out, need to lift weights more....blah, blah, blah!!!! It really is enough to drive a person CRAZY!!! I am slowing starting to accept that this is a slow process with lots of learning and patience required along the way.
Thank you so much for your wisdom. You are a wise woman indeed!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Can we get some podcasts?? LOL, not trying to add to your plate, but love this one. Will need to revisit it regularly:happy:
ROFL....the crazy thing is I was just pondering that this past weekend! Haha. (you know me...always looking for new ramble outlets :P) but talked myself down, figuring my blah, blah, be patient, blah, blah would quickly run any brave listener off :yawn:
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Loved reading this. I'm so frustrated, I literally change something every day or at least every week. The numbers given by MFP, F2F, Scooby, etc. are all hugely different. As soon as I gain a pound, I find the one with the lowest number and switch my goal to that. As soon as I lose a pound, I start thinking maybe I can eat enough to build muscle and switch to the one with the highest numbers. The only time I've given anything enough time to really work was 8 weeks of reset and no scale.
I'm ready to get back to basics and stick with it. Now to just figure out which calculator numbers will work for me.......
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I ADORE how more people are realizing that the process requires baby steps. I've noticed (as I'm sure many of you have) that it's the people who try to "change the world" :huh: or do everything at once that have the most difficulty with the entire process. :grumble:
Increasing cals, trying to hit macros perfectly, doing a reset, decreasing/increasing exercise, adding in weight lifting, running a 10k, going paleo, zigzagging cals, IFing, adding PB back in to the diet, drinking protein shakes, adding HIIT, giving up diet soda, switching to low carb/high carb, going to college, getting a degree, becoming a doctor, inventing a cure for cancer.... :noway:
ok, so I'm getting carried away...
But you get what I'm saying. Trying to conquer the world during your first week/month/YEAR of EM2WL, is gonna put you on the fast track to insanity. :sad:
One step at a time is all we can do.
Think of all things on your journey that you feel you need to work on (increasing protein? drinking more water? not getting on the scale as much? adding good fats? letting go of quick fix mentality?) and pick ONE that will have the greatest impact.
Do that ONE thing, until it is second nature. Then add the next step. There is no rush. You have nothing but time, this is the rest of your life.
**Research shows that when we tackle ONE new thing we have an over 80% success ratio. When we try to tackle TWO things, that rate drops as low as 20%*** :frown:
"ONE thing at a time!" you exclaim...."but that may take over a YEAR!"
EXXXXACTLY :drinker:
Set yourself up for success! :flowerforyou:
That's my weekly ramble, lol....I'm done
~Kiki
Kiki You've just described the last 10 years of my life (and my husband would agree with you!) I'm actually 50 lb's 'heavier because of all those crazy running around in circles trying to find out whats going to work.
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Very well said and I could agree more with all the responses..I need to read, hear and repeat this to myself everyday...
I am a person that tries to rush things,, rush my weight loss, rush through my sets, rush my routine, rush, rush rush...I need to slow down and take it one day at a time..I tried increasing calories alot and balance macros and felt like a failure when I couldnt do both so right now I'm trying to balance the macros and a calorie intake that is substanable (1500) and then go from there...thank you again0 -
Ok, not to get all "deep" or anything, but I was actually thinking about this on my way into work this morning. I definitely tend to obsess about each new thing I try, then get frusturated and give up. My tendency is to aim for "perfect" because then if it doesn't work it couldn't possibly be my fault (wink, wink). Anyways, on the radio they were talking about how 9/11 caused alot of people to re-evaluate their priorities and how, on the anniversary, we should once again think about what we focus on. It really struck me that so much of my life is spent focused on my food/exercise/macros/micros/blah,blah,blah that I am missing out on the REASONS for my health: my family! So, thanks again for the reminder to take it slow and enjoy life. :drinker:0
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LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for this wonderful post/reminder. We need to take things a little slower and stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to change everything at once. Slow but steady wins the race, right?0
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BEST. POST. EVER.!!!!!0
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Thank you so much! What awesome advice! 0
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Kiki you are AWESOME, plain and simple and I can't thank you and Lucia enough for your patience in saying the same things over and over again. Unbelievably, I actually get it more every time you say it....so keep it up haha:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0
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Love it... Thank you so much. I just went back to my first love in this life long process... walking at lunch time, I simply enjoy it! The weather here is perfect, the sun is shining and the skies are so blue.0
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I have a close friend who I am helping through the early stages of EM2WL. This is reminding me not to push her too hard! Everyone makes changes at his/her own pace. If you had forced me to eat as cleanly as I do now three months ago, I would not have been able to do it. I got here gradually and so will she!0
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Yes!!!! Couldnt agree more. I was feeling so overwhelmed by everything all at once, feeling like I needed to be perfect on everything. And all it was really doing is creating this all or nothing mentality. This is my biggest challenge to overcome in my weight loss journey, that just because I botched one area, that doesnt mean I have utterly failed and its time to throw in the towel and find a pint of Ben and Jerrys. Unfortunately thats the way my distorted mind goes. I was finding myself being more and more nitpicky with my myself, which was actually getting me further away from my cutting goals, and I was bingeing more. Eek. So you know what? I told myself to work on ONE thing, and for me right now my biggest challenge is bingeing. The numbers game was driving me crazy. Now I know there are many who would disagree with this, but I told myself I am going to deal with this binge issue once and for all. So I decided my only goal was to get as close to my cut value as possible but my biggest goal was NO BINGES. I wasnt gonna stress about macros, weighing every gram of spinach, wearing my BMF, etc. Just no bingeing. I can get very obsessive with the numbers very fast, so Im really just guesstimating portion sizes right now. I know I'll get back to being stricter but thats the road I'm walking right now. One thing at a time. Love it.0
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Loved reading this. I'm so frustrated, I literally change something every day or at least every week. The numbers given by MFP, F2F, Scooby, etc. are all hugely different. As soon as I gain a pound, I find the one with the lowest number and switch my goal to that. As soon as I lose a pound, I start thinking maybe I can eat enough to build muscle and switch to the one with the highest numbers. The only time I've given anything enough time to really work was 8 weeks of reset and no scale.
I'm ready to get back to basics and stick with it. Now to just figure out which calculator numbers will work for me.......
+1 on the podcast!
I'm the same way! I'm trying to be less obsessive and let this process work itself out. So I'm just going to take a rough low average of the numbers and run with it for a while. I spend WAY too much time on MFP and thinking about food/exercise. I need to stick with one plan for a while.0 -
Kiki... your rambles are one of my favourite parts of this whole journey!!! Thank you ALWAYS
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