Suck it up and go. It might be fun. Actually, everything is fun if you make it be fun. And if it's horrible you'll have something to laugh about the next day!

So why did you agree to go?

Because I thought he was cute and nice. But the more I text him, the more I am thinking he may not be my type, so now I am not so sure if I want to go.

You don't necessarily know he isn't your type yet though.

If you are concerned for your safety, like, he seems like a psycho, then I get it.

Other than that? More and likely he will be paying for whatever you are doing, so just

go and have a good time?

Then you know you gave him a chance. If it isn't right let him know afterwards.

So why did you agree to go?

Because I thought he was cute and nice. But the more I text him, the more I am thinking he may not be my type, so now I am not so sure if I want to go.

how can you tell type by text messages? I know in the OP you said you aren't ready to date, might you be coming with excuses to not date?

In any case, it's a first date. no need to start thinking about whether or not you can spend the rest of your life with a man who types "l8r" instead of "later" :laugh:

Cancel. Don't waste his time. It's better to wait for someone who you'll be fully in the moment with. Also, that guy is better served by being on a date with someone else who is a better fit for him.

More and likely he will be paying for whatever you are doing, so just go and have a good time?

Then you know you gave him a chance. If it isn't right let him know afterwards.

Just want to point out it's a guy who wrote this... not some freeloading woman who "dinner dates."

In fairness, while I agree gender roles are fading, I usually pay for the first date.

Most guys I know around my generation do as well.

It isn't required, but it usually happens.

He won't take insult if she lets him take her out, and gives him a chance.

In fairness, while I agree gender roles are fading, I usually pay for the first date.

Most guys I know around my generation do as well.

That's great... too bad you weren't here a couple months ago when we had a huge debate about it, when most of the guys here who posted felt quite negatively about the man paying for dates, even the first date.

In fairness, while I agree gender roles are fading, I usually pay for the first date.

Most guys I know around my generation do as well.

That's great... too bad you weren't here a couple months ago when we had a huge debate about it, when most of the guys here who posted felt quite negatively about the man paying for dates, even the first date.

If you want to know my personal feelings feel free to PM me about it.

Otherwise, OP needs to just go and give the dude a shot.

Worst case scenario, free meal/event.

Best case scenario, free meal/event and a great guy to go with it.

But now I don't want to go. Do I cancel or I do I suck it up and go. I just don't feel like dating.

Not to mention it annoys the heck out of me that he spells things wrong in his text messages .. lol.

I would go out with him because it does hurt when people back out on you. If you don't feel like dating, I would stop completely after this date until you decide you want to go back out there.

And come on.. his spelling mistakes on his texts annoys you? I thought I was particular about things! lol

:noway: OMG I'm feeling faint that I actually agree with Mike :laugh:

go baby girl - consider it bravery practice and a chance to strengthen your self confidence - practice makes perfect

BRAVERY PRACTICE!

And come on.. his spelling mistakes on his texts annoys you? I thought I was particular about things! lol

You must be joking Mike. In my experience, women are far more fussy than men. Spelling mistakes on texts isn't even that fussy.

I'm amazed that I was the only one to say cancel. It is my preference that a woman who is not fully engaged and thinking positive thoughts about me cancel.

I wonder if this is a personal thing that varies by individual or if it's a gender thing where maybe many guys know on sight whether they're into a woman, so if they're not feeling it the date is a waste of time... whereas many women can be won over by a guy who presents himself so-so in a dating profile if they have a great personality?

I always say go unless you're 100% sure it won't work because I've found that the men who most met my inner desires were the guys I wasn't expecting it from. If I had just gone after initial impressions, I would never have dated Bar Owner or BeardBurn, and I *REALLY* would have missed out on some happy memories!

Edit to add: Also, dating guys you aren't sure about can really tell you a lot about yourself. For example, I never even KNEW that men still existed who would protect a woman and stand up for her when people were rude, or would do gentlemanly things like give you his coat. I was used to guys like my ex and my dad who always sided with the aggressors or keep warm while you froze because it's your fault you didn't bring a warmer outfit (never mind the fact you didn't want me to wear the bulky stuff). Bar Owner was jerky in many ways, but this part of his personality so spoke to my heart that I didn't care. And now that's a trait I look for in a man. And to get it I'm willing to sacrifice other things where before I might have been more rigid in my expectations.

This isn't even for dates but just going out in general. I have many times not felt like going but once I got there had fun and was very happy I went.

I agree sometimes I go through this but once I'm there I thrive! I always get a little nervous before a first date and want to back out.