At ideal weight so friends think I should indulge...

kvreeken
kvreeken Posts: 137 Member
edited October 6 in Social Groups
Ok so I've worried really hard to get to my ideal weight. With the Holiday season here every time I say a polite no thank you to a sugary or fattening food at a celebration people look at me like I am crazy because they think I can afford the calories. I do to want to lose more weight but I do not want to gain. Also sometimes I just don't want the damn treat! Arghh, how do you gracefully refuse because a smile and "no thank you" just doesn't seem to be cutting it!

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  • helenmelon29
    helenmelon29 Posts: 787 Member
    I often have the same problem. People act as though I have offended them! (esp my Grandma!). I often tell her I have just eaten or I will take it for later (which is usually the case as I go at 2pm).

    I just stick to my guns and say no thanks I'm fine! x
  • shander7
    shander7 Posts: 613 Member
    I have a hard time saying no too :/ I think helen has a good idea though.. you can say you've just eaten, but you'd love to take some home for later... That way you can save it as a treat for yourself or you can dispose of it after you leave... or you could take 1/2 or 1/4 of a serving saying you're full but you have to have a little taste since it looks so good... I'm going to struggle with this situation during the holidays as well!!
  • chuisle
    chuisle Posts: 1,052 Member
    It can be super tough! I agree. I usually say something like, "Oh my gosh that looks so good I wish I didn't just have ______. I want some later though!"
  • KayteeBear
    KayteeBear Posts: 1,040 Member
    I'm not even that big on sweets all the time. Sometimes if it's cake or something I'll just take a bite of my boyfriend's just because I do want to try it but often don't eat it all. And especially if somebody else is plating the dessert...they'll give me giant pieces when I only want a tiny bit...

    And reaching ideal weight doesn't mean you can indulge or else you won't be at your ideal weight anymore. Some people just don't understand...
  • kadigirl7
    kadigirl7 Posts: 7 Member
    Instead of saying "I can't eat that." I've been trying "I don't eat that". A lot of times people don't want to know your reasons for why you don't eat something. Maybe they are afraid you'll go into an anti-meat/vegetarian/vegan/gluten rage. Who knows? It's been working for me.
  • theredfro
    theredfro Posts: 59 Member
    I always tell people who say I'm skinny enough and don't need to worry about putting on weight when I decline such food, despite not trying to lose or worrying about my weight, that I'm 'skinny' because of declining this, I like to eat healthy and not interested nor hungry right now.
    It really irritates me how people get so offended by it. It's like, stfu I DON'T WANT YOUR FOOD
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I work hard to allow for indulgences. I'm not going to pound down extra food just because someone offers, but I'm not going to turn down foods I like, either. I'm having cake at a birthday party. Two pieces, if there's enough. I'm having a glass of wine if I go to a friends' house and she offers me one. I'm going for four or five plates if I go to the Chinese Buffet.

    I mean... worst case scenario, if I indulge too much for too long, I might gain a little weight. Big whoop. I know how to lose it now. If my clothes start getting tight, I'll just cut back on calories again for a few weeks. It's not an all or nothing situation. Nothing is carved in stone.

    Honestly, losing weight through MFP was so damn easy, I have zero fear at all of gaining because it's so easy to take it off.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    Just say "Gimmie a healthy meal and I'll say yes".
  • spangey13
    spangey13 Posts: 294
    i tell people "Oh thanks, looks great, but I'm on a diet this week". Often when you have such a stupid answer people don't question you further.

    When I have been questioned though, I say that I need to fit into my wedding dress - which is miles to big and needs to actually be taken in. But who needs to know that...
  • BaileyP3
    BaileyP3 Posts: 151 Member
    I bake ALOT and when it comes to family functions I usually bring dessert. The funny thing is I don't have a sweet tooth...but I don't tell them that. :-))

    When someone tries to force food on me at a family function I just smile and tell them I've been taste testing while prepping the dessert...so far so good.
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