I like the one when someone asks what was your weight before surgery and they come back with
"Unbelievable you didn't look that big" What do they think. That is absolutely why I had the surgery
because I was that big. DUH...........

YES! THIS!! Every single time, all my friends say, "You didn't look that big." I sum it up as them being able to see past my weight issues.... and they didn't judge me based on how much I did weigh.

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

I haven't really said too much to anyone but it was commented at me that I took the easy way out.

I am getting my surgery on Nov. 5th..and let me tell you THIS IS NOT the easy way out!!! About to start my pre surgery diet Friday and I am scared to death...

good luck to you lady and you can do it. we are here for you

oh I know all to well it is not the easy way out.

I did almost 2 weeks pre-surgery diet of 600 cal a day. then 2 weeks liquid diet post surgery and it was hard trying to find stuff that I wouldn't dump.

anyone that says it needs their head examined.

Just today someone looked at my work badge and said, "I don't remember you being THAT fat!"

My favorite is when they ask, "How much do you weigh?" like it wasn't okay for them to ask me that when I was big but now that I am small it's okay? my other is, "what have you eaten today?" I know it is just out of concern, but come on now! Really? They didn't dare ask something like that when I was big but now that I am not it's perfectly fine? Oh, and" what size are you?"

The ones I love is "how much weight have you lost" then you tell them then they kinda look at you and are thinking "you weight that much to begin with?!?!" They don't say it but ya know they are thinking it. I think some people are being kind and they just kinda don't think what they say when they see ya. I went to a recent event for a dog training club I am a member of and saw alot of people from out town I haven't seen in over a year. Some didn't even recognize me after loosing 100 pounds. One woman came up to me saying how good I looked and how pretty I was but then said you were also pretty though. Then she pinched my cheek! What the hell!?!? Some people don't have good boundaries or invading a persons personal space I guess. I know she was trying to be nice but it was weird.
I haven't told hardly any one I had WLS Sleeve surgery, My mom knows, my hairdresser and 2 co workers and my boss knows. People at my support group know too of course but that is it. I decided it is easier just to keep it to a few people and less of hassle. One day I might tell more but for now that works for me.

I'm scheduled for gastic sleeve surgery onb December 10, 2012.

Now since the weight loss people say Wow you loss a lot of weight. I say yeah, then they respond yeah you were really big. You used to woddle and now you walk normally. I say thanks, and then say why wait until now to say something. They respond by saying I didn't know how I would take the criticism.

Most people just tell me how great I look. Some have said that they never realized I was so big. A few of my family members and a few friends (who know I had surgery) tell me I now look sick because I am too thin, or I am melting into nothing and they are worried. And the biggest one that I just laughed at was when a friends husband asked if I was doing drugs!

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

I tried not telling anyone, but one of my sons told one person at my church and then the whole world knew. Sad that most of my weight was lost pre surgery. By the time I had the procedure, I only had about 60 pounds left to lose.

My husband and I were just talking about comments and compliments today and how even if someone says something positive I sometime add my own negative sub text. I think for many people it's a damned if you do damned if you don't scenario... just look at your comments above. Let me just lay it on the table. When I was 100 pounds heavier I was morbidly obese and even though I thought I had good self esteem I AM prettier now, I DO have a better shape, I have lost a TON of weight, and even my husband and I can look at my work badges or last years family Christmas pictures (which also happen to be on our Christmas photo cards) and not only did I not feel as fat or see myself as being as fat as I really was in those pictures, but my husband didn't see it either. I can't expect my friends, family, coworkers, general acquaintances, etc, to speak perfectly, but I can take the best parts out of the comments and compliments and ignore the misspeaks or subtexts, because frankly they probably aren't thinking about it as hard as I am. They are trying to offer a compliment, imperfect though it might be, politically incorrect though it might be, it's still a compliment; so I do my best to turn off the suspicious, negative voice in my head, and just be proud of my hard work, and accept in the spirit it is meant that others have noticed too.

I had this said to me yesterday "Some people are beautiful when they are fat but I didn't realize how pretty you were" LOL people kill me !!