Metrosexual Men (high maintenance men)
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start a high maintenance men thread... oh the stories i could tell :laugh:Two questions to kick off this thread.
1. Guys-what are your thoughts on high maintenance women? Do you want them around?
2. Ladies-Do you consider yourself high maintenance? Why or why not?
Why does this topic have to only be about women? Can't men be high maintenance too? Isn't that part of how the word 'metrosexual' came into being?
Ok Topic started. I'll go first. I hate my hair. I have a hard time going out without having some sorta gel, pomade, some product in it. It's like the ladies and make up. I will be going out to the grocery store to get milk at 2AM. NO ONE will effin' see me besides the 1 or 2 graveyarder grocery clerk working there, and I still have to have something in my hair. It poofs up when it's dry. I don't like the poofy look. :laugh:
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If we learned anything from the last thread, the term high maintenance is an extremely relative and everyone has a different interpretation.
I'd consider myself fairly high maintenance. If I go out in public, I try to look my best. I enjoy talking to people and always want to put my best foot forward.
In fact, I insist upon making small talk everytime I go out. Heck, I even make a game out of it. Everytime I go to grocery store, I make myself talk to at least 2 people there. Yesterday, I saw a relatively attractive girl and I asked her where the Greek yogurt was. I could tell from her response (an emotionless "in the back" respond) that she wasn't interested. Doesn't matter if she's hot or not.. it doesn't even need to be a girl, I'd make small talk with anyone. The grocery bagger was wearing a University of Miami shirt, I talked to him for a minute about their football team.
This take a certain amount of confidence. For me, the better your appearance the more confident you are. That is why I always viewed being high maintenance as a very positive trait.0 -
This take a certain amount of confidence. For me, the better your appearance the more confident you are. That is why I always viewed being high maintenance as a very positive trait.
I dont think high maintenance has anything to do with confidence or dressing well. Quite the opposite in fact!! I think high maintenance is lacking in self esteem, needy and selfish. And as for dressing 'well', I find high maint peeps dress way over the top, tacky and badly!! But hey, my taste can be wacky as well as classic, so I'm not judging really,.........:huh:
I know we said we all have different definitions, but if a guy came up to me in a grocery store looking well groomed and asked me where the yogurt was I wouldn't immediately think "uh, oh!! high maint" I would say "hey, how ya doin?"
However, if a guy came up to me in the grocery store and asked me to test hair products out with him, asked me which one smells best, and which one made his hair stick up just right, I'd think ................well, I think I'd just laugh! :laugh:0 -
I think, as in the sister thread for women, we have a definition issue.
For me, high maintenance women are women that require high maintenance (from me). Not women who spend a lot of time on themselves. Quite frankly, if it takes them an hour to get ready, I don't mind, so long as they are ready to go on time. They become "high maintenance" in that scenario when I have to start calling the restaurant pushing back our reservation, canceling the taxi, texting our friends that we'll be late, etc., etc. And if it happens on a regular basis. Anyone can be late once. But if it's a pattern? High maintenance.
Also, high maintenance women always make mountains out of molehills. Everything is an Italian opera. Forgetting to buy the milk (to steal a recent example from another thread) becomes a 2-hour fight over commitment to the relationship.
So for me, the fact that you put gel in your hair at 2 am, although odd, seems completely irrelevant as to whether you are high maintenance for your significant other.
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start a high maintenance men thread... oh the stories i could tell :laugh:Two questions to kick off this thread.
1. Guys-what are your thoughts on high maintenance women? Do you want them around?
2. Ladies-Do you consider yourself high maintenance? Why or why not?
Why does this topic have to only be about women? Can't men be high maintenance too? Isn't that part of how the word 'metrosexual' came into being?
Ok Topic started. I'll go first. I hate my hair. I have a hard time going out without having some sorta gel, pomade, some product in it. It's like the ladies and make up. I will be going out to the grocery store to get milk at 2AM. NO ONE will effin' see me besides the 1 or 2 graveyarder grocery clerk working there, and I still have to have something in my hair. It poofs up when it's dry. I don't like the poofy look. :laugh:
I dont know many guys that dont look after their hair. I think you're pretty normal hun :flowerforyou:
However, you're not allowed to spend more time in the bathroom than me!!! :laugh:0 -
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I dont know many guys that dont look after their hair. I think you're pretty normal hun :flowerforyou:
I don't look after my hair. I haven't owned a comb or brush for 20 years or so (actually, maybe since high school). I just keep it short and don't worry about it.
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They become "high maintenance" in that scenario when I have to start calling the restaurant pushing back our reservation, canceling the taxi, texting our friends that we'll be late, etc., etc. And if it happens on a regular basis. Anyone can be late once. But if it's a pattern? High maintenance.
Also, high maintenance women always make mountains out of molehills. Everything is an Italian opera. Forgetting to buy the milk (to steal a recent example from another thread) becomes a 2-hour fight over commitment to the relationship.
Yes, I'd agree with your definition - me, me, me!!! I used to have a friend like this, it's pretty draining!0 -
I dont know many guys that dont look after their hair. I think you're pretty normal hun :flowerforyou:
I don't look after my hair. I haven't owned a comb or brush for 20 years or so (actually, maybe since high school). I just keep it short and don't worry about it.
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I dated a high maintenance man once .. what made him seem high maintenance to me was .. he always had to iron his clothes .. even if we were just hanging out and he was wearing a t-shirt and shorts .. they were ironed. He ironed his boxers. He had to have his hair cut every 2 weeks, had more clothes than I did. Would never sit on the ground .. ever .. he once pulled out MY sweatshirt and sat on it! WTF. He would never do anything that would get him dirty. He wouldn't even pour in windshield washer fluid into my car at the gas station .. he made me get out and do it .. "its your car" . Yeh .. we didn't last very long.0
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I am the antithesis of the word Metrosexual.0
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I think, as in the sister thread for women, we have a definition issue.
For me, high maintenance women are women that require high maintenance (from me). Not women who spend a lot of time on themselves. Quite frankly, if it takes them an hour to get ready, I don't mind, so long as they are ready to go on time. They become "high maintenance" in that scenario when I have to start calling the restaurant pushing back our reservation, canceling the taxi, texting our friends that we'll be late, etc., etc. And if it happens on a regular basis. Anyone can be late once. But if it's a pattern? High maintenance.
Also, high maintenance women always make mountains out of molehills. Everything is an Italian opera. Forgetting to buy the milk (to steal a recent example from another thread) becomes a 2-hour fight over commitment to the relationship.
So for me, the fact that you put gel in your hair at 2 am, although odd, seems completely irrelevant as to whether you are high maintenance for your significant other.
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I've always thought of myself as high maintenance. But, by your definition, I'm anything but. I'll eat anything in sight, I'm a human garbage disposal :laugh:
Heck, I'm also always on time and can usually let stuff slide too.
I never thought of guys who are needy or need constant help or assistance to be high maintenance. They are usually just wussies or mooches. Which are two thing I absolutely abhor.0 -
So for me, the fact that you put gel in your hair at 2 am, although odd, seems completely irrelevant as to whether you are high maintenance for your significant other.
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I've gotten mercilessly teased by my SO's about it. :laugh:
Ironed his boxers.............ok that's interesting.....I dated a high maintenance man once .. what made him seem high maintenance to me was .. he always had to iron his clothes .. even if we were just hanging out and he was wearing a t-shirt and shorts .. they were ironed. He ironed his boxers.Would never sit on the ground .. ever .. he once pulled out MY sweatshirt and sat on it! WTF. He would never do anything that would get him dirty.
Wow. He sat on your own sweater? That's just....I'm at loss for words.....0 -
They become "high maintenance" in that scenario when I have to start calling the restaurant pushing back our reservation, canceling the taxi, texting our friends that we'll be late, etc., etc. And if it happens on a regular basis. Anyone can be late once. But if it's a pattern? High maintenance.
Also, high maintenance women always make mountains out of molehills. Everything is an Italian opera. Forgetting to buy the milk (to steal a recent example from another thread) becomes a 2-hour fight over commitment to the relationship.
Yes, I'd agree with your definition - me, me, me!!! I used to have a friend like this, it's pretty draining!
Oy! No bashing Italian opera!! :laugh: It's a good definition, and I think Anna had a point about the difference between what we might call 'visually high-maintenance' and presenting yourself well. I also agree with Anna that often the visually high-maintenance types look (to me) pretty tacky - it's the difference between being well-groomed, and having half the beauty counter on your face/head at any given moment.
I wonder what we collectively think about men who are possessive and being 'high-maintenance'. Someone who wanted my exclusive attention, all the time, to the exclusion of my friends and other acquaintances, who pouted or had a tantrum when I talked to anyone else, or had an event to go to without him...is he high-maintenance, or possessive, or are they facets of each other?0 -
.. he once pulled out MY sweatshirt and sat on it! WTF.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Jen, your stories are cracking me up today!!!! :laugh:0 -
.. he once pulled out MY sweatshirt and sat on it! WTF.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Jen, your stories are cracking me up today!!!! :laugh:
Y'all wonder why I am so freaking jaded towards men .. lol0 -
I never thought of guys who are needy or need constant help or assistance to be high maintenance. They are usually just wussies or mooches. Which are two thing I absolutely abhor.
Completely agree. I really can't stand this in men. It's embarrassing.
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My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol0
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LOL ... One of my best friends is extremely metro-sexual high maintence and to boot when he has a girl he is a clinger :huh: ... Just in case you guys havent figured it out we like to breath our own oxygen not have you breath for us (yes he was that bad).. He came over one time to get ready with us and took 2 hours. Mind you all the ladies showered did our hair and make up and where still waiting around for him. THis is why he now meets us at the places we are going to. He only shops at Nordstroms....
I dont like high maintenance guys. I like my men a little rough and scruffy preferably rockers. Anyone who takes longer to ger ready then me is a problem. Also if I have to fight you for the mirror its a problem.
BTW most guys I know but some kinda product in their hair. We live in south florida if you dont humidity ruins your world lol so dont worry about that Laycrox0 -
My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol
^^^ and men who cry.... I dont mean something really bad happened and your upset so you cry. I mean were fighting and you decide to bust out with the water works like a girl. I will literally see red.0 -
My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol
^^^ and men who cry.... I dont mean something really bad happened and your upset so you cry. I mean were fighting and you decide to bust out with the water works like a girl. I will literally see red.
Like the song and the movie.. boys don't cry. Or at least they aren't suppose to.
Unless it's the death of someone special in your life or something absolutely horrific, men have no business crying in public.0 -
My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol
^^^ and men who cry.... I dont mean something really bad happened and your upset so you cry. I mean were fighting and you decide to bust out with the water works like a girl. I will literally see red.
Like the song and the movie.. boys don't cry. Or at least they aren't suppose to.
Unless it's the death of someone special in your life or something absolutely horrific, men have no business crying in public.
True and it is one of the biggest turn offs I have ever seen.0 -
My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol
^^^ and men who cry.... I dont mean something really bad happened and your upset so you cry. I mean were fighting and you decide to bust out with the water works like a girl. I will literally see red.
I am so glad I am not the only one who feels this way! Seriously?? When did all the men become girls?0 -
Considering that I keep my old clothes until they're too tight, fall off me, or fall to pieces and that given a choice between spending money on a manicure or a book I will always choose the book (I don't think I've ever even had a manicure, actually), and that my idea of taking extra time before going out somewhere involves blow drying my hair instead of letting it air dry, there is no way I could get along with most metrosexuals. We just wouldn't understand each other at all.0
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Here is my list of reasonable moments for a guy to cry for emotional reasons:
Death of a child of your own or someone close to you
Dog dies
immediate family member dies
best friend dies
Anytime you hear Al Michaels say "Do you believe in miracles... YES" <----name that moment for bonus points!!
You sell your dream car
Hearing the National Anthem for the first time after 9/11
That's all I got.0 -
Here is my list of reasonable moments for a guy to cry for emotional reasons:
Death of a child of your own or someone close to you
Dog dies
immediate family member dies
best friend dies
Anytime you hear Al Michaels say "Do you believe in miracles... YES" <----name that moment for bonus points!!
You sell your dream car
Hearing the National Anthem for the first time after 9/11
That's all I got.
Also exceptable is birth of your child0 -
My first serious boyfriend was incredibly vain and high maintenance. He always had his hair "did", hated if I tried to run my fingers through it (even when things got hot and heavy!), god forbid he run into a reflective surface because he would at least pause to adjust his hair and clothes. He constantly lived outside of his means, buying things because they looked good and even going so far as to lose a condo (which he lost shortly after I left). He bought brand name clothes based on the image he wanted to represent, and would gladly pay out the nose rather than wait for a sale or a deal to come along.
I remember one time we were in Pacsun and I found a cool looking Fox shirt that I told him he should try on. He said that he didn't think Fox was a good brand for him anymore. I asked him why and he said it's because he doesn't go offroading or dirt bike like he used to. So I asked him what brand does "represent" him and he said Hurley. I stared at him for a second confused as hell before I said "You've never been surfing in your LIFE." to which he said "Yeah, but I would like to."
Which is funny too, because when we went to the beach he spent all his time laying out and tanning instead of playing in the water with me.
Oh yeah, and he would go tanning at salons and stuff, despite the fact we live in San Diego.0 -
Here is my list of reasonable moments for a guy to cry for emotional reasons:
Death of a child of your own or someone close to you
Dog dies
immediate family member dies
best friend dies
Anytime you hear Al Michaels say "Do you believe in miracles... YES" <----name that moment for bonus points!!
You sell your dream car
Hearing the National Anthem for the first time after 9/11
That's all I got.
1980 winter Olympics when the USA hockey team beat the Russians to win the gold medal.0 -
Here is my list of reasonable moments for a guy to cry for emotional reasons:
Death of a child of your own or someone close to you
Dog dies
immediate family member dies
best friend dies
Anytime you hear Al Michaels say "Do you believe in miracles... YES" <----name that moment for bonus points!!
You sell your dream car
Hearing the National Anthem for the first time after 9/11
That's all I got.
1980 winter Olympics when the USA hockey team beat the Russians to win the gold medal.
Sorry i was like 4 months old lol so I'll take your word for it0 -
Here is my list of reasonable moments for a guy to cry for emotional reasons:
Death of a child of your own or someone close to you
Dog dies
immediate family member dies
best friend dies
Anytime you hear Al Michaels say "Do you believe in miracles... YES" <----name that moment for bonus points!!
You sell your dream car
Hearing the National Anthem for the first time after 9/11
That's all I got.
1980 winter Olympics when the USA hockey team beat the Russians to win the gold medal.
Sorry i was like 4 months old lol so I'll take your word for it
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My definition of high maintenance man: my ex husband. Whiny, "I need attention", "why can't we discuss how I feel?"~Ugh! I understand being there for your partner, but 24/7 discussions about him? No, thank you, as Toby Keith says, sometimes I wanna talk about ME! lol
^^^ and men who cry.... I dont mean something really bad happened and your upset so you cry. I mean were fighting and you decide to bust out with the water works like a girl. I will literally see red.
Like the song and the movie.. boys don't cry. Or at least they aren't suppose to.
Unless it's the death of someone special in your life or something absolutely horrific, men have no business crying in public.
True and it is one of the biggest turn offs I have ever seen.
Oh my God, yes! I don't mind sensitive to a certain degree, but no to the crying. I like a real man, not a whiny sissy boy who is wearing skinny jeans and putting mousse in his hair so it flips perfectly over one eye, and taking photos of himself on his cell phone in front of the mirror while Nickelback plays in the background.
Metrosexual guys just make me really uncomfortable. It's one thing to look nice and put together and smell good, but some guys take it to extremes. And if it takes you longer than me to get ready, we have no hope at all.0
