Guys...
Is making sure your partner,whether it be a one night hook up or a significant other,very happy she was with you a priority?

Do you view intimacy as a partner event or simply a way to get you off?

Do you listen or even try to?

Sorry if TMI...you have been warned.

I do listen to my partner, and that has really helped to bring my own skill level up from when I first started. I haven't had many partners, but have had some very good ones that were open and honest and taught me a lot.\

My partner is my number 1 priority. I make sure she gets hers first before myself. In my mind, once she is happy, we are happy.

Now along those lines, I have been with one girl who admitted to me early on that she had problems coming to orgasm (no idea if it was physical or mental). I didn't really let it affect me and just tried that much harder to make sure I did everything I could for it to happen. About half the time it did, the other half she would end up just telling me to stop, as it wasn't going to. Of course that usually just led to both of us feeling bad and going to bed, as I couldn't and she couldn't.

On a completely different yet same note (lol) How do you deal with a partner who is really good in bed but is not exaclty the greatest kisser?

A LOT of women can't even "get there" at all. I don't know the exact stat, but it's something like 1 in 3 women have troubles with it.
I have a very strong sexual drive. And I have no problem telling a guy where to go or what to do.
But it takes a lot of extra effort for me to "get mine". Even on my own... So some of the time I can, and some of the time I can't. (I didn't even get there for the first time until about a year ago) It's not that I don't know what I'm doing, it's just that it takes me a little bit longer... Usually, guys are willing to go the distance.... But everyone gets tired so sometimes I have to be in that last category. :laugh:

Thank you! I have a very strong sexual drive as well. I am a very sexual person. I'm actually pretty open and honest about it, too. I don't mind talking about it at all; I don't mind telling a guy what I like, etc. But, for me, there are different levels of orgasm and different kinds. I don't always reach the ultimate one, but I can usually get off in some way. It takes a guy who is well endowed with a lot of stamina, endurance, and finesse to get me to the ultimate orgasm. And I guess I'm in a minority of women who would much prefer intercourse to oral. Oral is great. It feels good, but I could go the rest of my life and never have oral if I could have intercourse and he knew how to use his fingers, hands, and toys.