Boobies! =)
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Turn that around, and the fact that guys crotches are covered up.... I may be the only one one in the crowd that thinks this way but I have no desire to see that flashed around.... hmmm..... maybe because I was raised that way? maybe because it's not appealing to me? maybe because it's private, and I'm not supposed to look at it in public?So boobs to guys are like nice arms to girls. (In most cases)
In this scenario, arms on a guy can be played with a little bit, and nice to look at. With or without a shirt, but better without....
This intrigues me.
I want DMZ and Mike's two cents worth on the original post too!!!!
THanks all!
My take on it is this. The reason men covet women's breasts so much is because they are usually covered and considered sexual by society. This notion snowballs and the more sexual a topless women becomes, the more men want to see nekkid breasts.
If we lived in a society where breasts were just like legs, arms, or any other body part and were exposed freely, then men wouldn't covet them as much. I'd be curious to see how men in African tribes (one of those 24/7 topless ones) view breasts.
Again, maybe I'm the minority in the crowd on that one.
ABout the African tribe thing.....that's a thinker, I would be curious on that as well.0 -
So boobs to guys are like nice arms to girls. (In most cases)
In this scenario, arms on a guy can be played with a little bit, and nice to look at. With or without a shirt, but better without....
This intrigues me.
I want DMZ and Mike's two cents worth on the original post too!!!!
THanks all!
I guess it depends.... in my mind, boobs to guys, are like **lls to girls (or to me). :blushing:0 -
I've always wondered if men are turned off by things like large areola or that one boob is a little bigger than the other one or if they're not like porn-star boobs.
I have a love hate relationship with mine.
Honestly I would think that a woman would be much more critical of her boobs than I guy would be. I have seen a few pairs, some I could touch and others I had to pay just to look at :blushing:. The little things that we find strange or dislike about our bodies, in this case say large areolas or large/small nipples, whatever...someone else could actually see that unique feature as something nice. It has been said in many of the different threads, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person finds revolting another might find attractive and vice versa.
Getting back to the OP, I like boobs. I wouldn't say I am a boob man, as they are nowhere on my list of must-haves for a potential girlfriend. Physically, I am much more interested in nice legs and a pretty face (eyes specifically). They look good in bras and not. I think a lot of the fascination in our culture with them comes from clothing. The fact that most women's clothing accentuates cleavage giving just a peak, or accentuates the boobs in general gives that mystery that guys want to explore. I have seen where clothing and a good bra really made some look large and full, then when it was all removed, they weren't exactly what I had pictured them to be.
I really think it is a big culture thing. In most westernized cultures, they are like any other sexual organ and are considered almost taboo. Yet there are also cultures where topless is just normal, and I would assume that boobs just aren't coveted. They are just a normal part of everyday life. Just my opinions.0 -
I see some ladies wanting to have reductions... Research it carefully and go to a well respected MD. If it is done wrong it will kill all sensation and can disfigure your chest (just like cheap botox) ...
Personally mine have been the same size since they came in (D) and I love them
You a good surgeon but I had mine reduced from a G to a D earlier this year and I actually am MORE sensitive now than I was before! Not exactly sure how my surgeon managed that but I'm super happy with mine now... It's nice to be 40 and perky! :smokin:0 -
Turn that around, and the fact that guys crotches are covered up.... I may be the only one one in the crowd that thinks this way but I have no desire to see that flashed around.... hmmm..... maybe because I was raised that way? maybe because it's not appealing to me? maybe because it's private, and I'm not supposed to look at it in public?So boobs to guys are like nice arms to girls. (In most cases)
In this scenario, arms on a guy can be played with a little bit, and nice to look at. With or without a shirt, but better without....
This intrigues me.
I want DMZ and Mike's two cents worth on the original post too!!!!
THanks all!
My take on it is this. The reason men covet women's breasts so much is because they are usually covered and considered sexual by society. This notion snowballs and the more sexual a topless women becomes, the more men want to see nekkid breasts.
If we lived in a society where breasts were just like legs, arms, or any other body part and were exposed freely, then men wouldn't covet them as much. I'd be curious to see how men in African tribes (one of those 24/7 topless ones) view breasts.
Again, maybe I'm the minority in the crowd on that one.
ABout the African tribe thing.....that's a thinker, I would be curious on that as well.
I'm sure in the caveman ages, men and women walked around completely naked. Though I'm not certain, I'm sure they had no shame whatsoever in doing so. They weren't shy or didn't think it was weird. That's just how caveman and women rolled back then.0 -
Turn that around, and the fact that guys crotches are covered up.... I may be the only one one in the crowd that thinks this way but I have no desire to see that flashed around.... hmmm..... maybe because I was raised that way? maybe because it's not appealing to me? maybe because it's private, and I'm not supposed to look at it in public?So boobs to guys are like nice arms to girls. (In most cases)
In this scenario, arms on a guy can be played with a little bit, and nice to look at. With or without a shirt, but better without....
This intrigues me.
I want DMZ and Mike's two cents worth on the original post too!!!!
THanks all!
My take on it is this. The reason men covet women's breasts so much is because they are usually covered and considered sexual by society. This notion snowballs and the more sexual a topless women becomes, the more men want to see nekkid breasts.
If we lived in a society where breasts were just like legs, arms, or any other body part and were exposed freely, then men wouldn't covet them as much. I'd be curious to see how men in African tribes (one of those 24/7 topless ones) view breasts.
Again, maybe I'm the minority in the crowd on that one.
ABout the African tribe thing.....that's a thinker, I would be curious on that as well.
I'm sure in the caveman ages, men and women walked around completely naked. Though I'm not certain, I'm sure they had no shame whatsoever in doing so. They weren't shy or didn't think it was weird. That's just how caveman and women rolled back then.
That depends on what area of the world they were in.. Some areas where to cold to wander around naked...
Also as long as there have been painting and scuplture boobs have been idolized. They are signs of fertility and nuturing. Goddess figures were often depicted with no face but they alway had lagre breasts.
(BTW the bra was invented y a man)0 -
It's really simple: Each sex is attracted to the opposite by how much they are different. The features that are most different are the most attractive. Breasts are a big difference, just like eye shape, hip shape, waist curve etc. There's a name for this... "sexual dimorphism" I think.0
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I'm sure in the caveman ages, men and women walked around completely naked. Though I'm not certain, I'm sure they had no shame whatsoever in doing so. They weren't shy or didn't think it was weird. That's just how caveman and women rolled back then.
Same as Germans nowadays..0 -
oh i know you're right, but how do i become the girl that gets asked out on a date instead of the girl that gets sent c0ck pics? or asked for dirty pics? or IMMEDIATELY have the conversation turned to sex?
i want to be the girl that gets asked out, not turned into a sex object. so, fine, that they approach me because of that attribute, but, it's not like they actually want to get to know me.
i told a guy right before thanksgiving that i didn't move that fast and he canceled our date right there. i wasn't even worth going on ONE date with because i won't have sex "that fast."
i'd rather they not stand out so much. i'd rather i blend in :-) my girlfriends tell me to flaunt the, but they don't understand how frustrating it is WITHOUT flaunting them.
I see your upset and I'm not trying to bash you but I'm gonna tell you what I tell my sister...
All guys are atratched to you because of your looks. NO man has ever said "wow look at her mind" your body brings them in your mind and personality keep them. But they are going to approach you becaue they want to have sex with you and are attrached to you. It's not a bad thing. Now those messages were plain out rude but everybody is a little braver on the internet. Dont hate your body... Its part of who you are and loving it makes you more confidant0 -
oh i know you're right, but how do i become the girl that gets asked out on a date instead of the girl that gets sent c0ck pics? or asked for dirty pics? or IMMEDIATELY have the conversation turned to sex?
i want to be the girl that gets asked out, not turned into a sex object. so, fine, that they approach me because of that attribute, but, it's not like they actually want to get to know me.
i told a guy right before thanksgiving that i didn't move that fast and he canceled our date right there. i wasn't even worth going on ONE date with because i won't have sex "that fast."
i'd rather they not stand out so much. i'd rather i blend in :-) my girlfriends tell me to flaunt the, but they don't understand how frustrating it is WITHOUT flaunting them.
I see your upset and I'm not trying to bash you but I'm gonna tell you what I tell my sister...
All guys are atratched to you because of your looks. NO man has ever said "wow look at her mind" your body brings them in your mind and personality keep them. But they are going to approach you becaue they want to have sex with you and are attrached to you. It's not a bad thing. Now those messages were plain out rude but everybody is a little braver on the internet. Dont hate your body... Its part of who you are and loving it makes you more confidant
I flaunt mine all the time...
Personally thats when dating site suck for alot of women . This is why I dont use them . Men (not all of them but some) use it to hook up. If you say no it doesnt matter there are 120000000 other women on the site. I prefer to meet men in person. I find their usually less likely to get that suggestive right away if they have to look you in the face .0 -
online they can't even see them, unless they are a member here, LOL!!!
i learned early on i can't have any pic that show my top half.
just a couple days ago i got like 8 messages from a guy here, about my boobs and my nipples and how hard and perky they are and how perfect they are, etc.
when i first started online dating you could see the top half of my body and i was getting messages like " would you like to come over and watch me get an erection just from looking at your pictures?" um, no, but thanks???
i deleted my online dating stuff last night. i am officially done with it :-)0 -
online they can't even see them, unless they are a member here, LOL!!!
i learned early on i can't have any pic that show my top half.
just a couple days ago i got like 8 messages from a guy here, about my boobs and my nipples and how hard and perky they are and how perfect they are, etc.
when i first started online dating you could see the top half of my body and i was getting messages like " would you like to come over and watch me get an erection just from looking at your pictures?" um, no, but thanks???
i deleted my online dating stuff last night. i am officially done with it :-)
Yeah I've had some doozies, we all have. But I'll tell you what ,I have worn my shortest ,tightest,most plunging neckline dress out in public and the worst thing I heard was what are the chances you come home with me... The rest of the time they may have been thinking it but they didn't cross that line (think I got 6 phone numbers that night lol)0 -
online they can't even see them, unless they are a member here, LOL!!!
i learned early on i can't have any pic that show my top half.
just a couple days ago i got like 8 messages from a guy here, about my boobs and my nipples and how hard and perky they are and how perfect they are, etc.
when i first started online dating you could see the top half of my body and i was getting messages like " would you like to come over and watch me get an erection just from looking at your pictures?" um, no, but thanks???
i deleted my online dating stuff last night. i am officially done with it :-)
Yeah I've had some doozies, we all have. But I'll tell you what ,I have worn my shortest ,tightest,most plunging neckline dress out in public and the worst thing I heard was what are the chances you come home with me... The rest of the time they may have been thinking it but they didn't cross that line (think I got 6 phone numbers that night lol)
Watch out now! 6 numbers? Good for you!:drinker:0 -
oh i know you're right, but how do i become the girl that gets asked out on a date instead of the girl that gets sent c0ck pics? or asked for dirty pics? or IMMEDIATELY have the conversation turned to sex?
i want to be the girl that gets asked out, not turned into a sex object. so, fine, that they approach me because of that attribute, but, it's not like they actually want to get to know me.
i told a guy right before thanksgiving that i didn't move that fast and he canceled our date right there. i wasn't even worth going on ONE date with because i won't have sex "that fast."
i'd rather they not stand out so much. i'd rather i blend in :-) my girlfriends tell me to flaunt the, but they don't understand how frustrating it is WITHOUT flaunting them.
Hmm. I've never been turned into a sex object.. well except when I've tried to do so myself! I do also possess some assets and love to show a little cleavage, but perhaps my extra weight has kept these type of men away? Probable. I know for me with online dating, the sheer length and content of my profile was a deterrent to anyone less than intelligent..but was also complimented fairly often by those I'd actually want attention from. I have also been told that I can come across confident and friendly, but also quite proper (at first) and potentially even a little demure or snobby.
Ha!
But let's get back to you. Well.. to be honest, the red hair and that cheeky little smile of yours is probably also attracting the men. You are a pretty woman. I guess I'd wonder what you are projecting both in person and (writing and pictures) online.
I have no rules about moving too fast or x must not happen before x... but there are certainly ways of controlling the situation and the type of men you attract. Do you have any friends who you trust to give you honest opinions about this?
Honestly, I think it just comes down to confidence in yourself and what you offer. Whether you like them or not, they are assets, but not your defining feature.0 -
online they can't even see them, unless they are a member here, LOL!!!
i learned early on i can't have any pic that show my top half.
just a couple days ago i got like 8 messages from a guy here, about my boobs and my nipples and how hard and perky they are and how perfect they are, etc.
when i first started online dating you could see the top half of my body and i was getting messages like " would you like to come over and watch me get an erection just from looking at your pictures?" um, no, but thanks???
i deleted my online dating stuff last night. i am officially done with it :-)
Yeah I've had some doozies, we all have. But I'll tell you what ,I have worn my shortest ,tightest,most plunging neckline dress out in public and the worst thing I heard was what are the chances you come home with me... The rest of the time they may have been thinking it but they didn't cross that line (think I got 6 phone numbers that night lol)
Watch out now! 6 numbers? Good for you!:drinker:
LOL Yeah it was a good night ....0 -
i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
Hmm. I've never been turned into a sex object.. well except when I've tried to do so myself! I do also possess some assets and love to show a little cleavage, but perhaps my extra weight has kept these type of men away? Probable. I know for me with online dating, the sheer length and content of my profile was a deterrent to anyone less than intelligent..but was also complimented fairly often by those I'd actually want attention from. I have also been told that I can come across confident and friendly, but also quite proper (at first) and potentially even a little demure or snobby.
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So boobs to guys are like nice arms to girls. (In most cases)
In this scenario, arms on a guy can be played with a little bit, and nice to look at. With or without a shirt, but better without....
This intrigues me.
I want DMZ and Mike's two cents worth on the original post too!!!!
THanks all!
My take on it is this. The reason men covet women's breasts so much is because they are usually covered and considered sexual by society. This notion snowballs and the more sexual a topless women becomes, the more men want to see nekkid breasts.
If we lived in a society where breasts were just like legs, arms, or any other body part and were exposed freely, then men wouldn't covet them as much. I'd be curious to see how men in African tribes (one of those 24/7 topless ones) view breasts.
Bingo!0 -
i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
Hmm. I've never been turned into a sex object.. well except when I've tried to do so myself! I do also possess some assets and love to show a little cleavage, but perhaps my extra weight has kept these type of men away? Probable. I know for me with online dating, the sheer length and content of my profile was a deterrent to anyone less than intelligent..but was also complimented fairly often by those I'd actually want attention from. I have also been told that I can come across confident and friendly, but also quite proper (at first) and potentially even a little demure or snobby.
Ha!
Undersexualizing yourself can back fire though. Men like you to look attractive if they are to approach you. Their has to be a middle ground between stripper clothes and nun clothes.
Also remember that some guys (notice the some people) are just scummy. You cant take what anyone says about you our your body negatively.Sometimes the douche bags want to knock you down.
BTW the next time a guy messages you about kissing simply say well we will see what happens after our date. He might have been fishing and you gave him leeway.
You should try to find a line that is flirty and not slutty (not saying your slutty) If you go in before the first date and say I dont sleep with people it comes off as off putting. Its easier to say I'm not ready for that at this point or even I dont usually getting sexually involved right away. Its how you word things0 -
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?"
How would they know whether or not your nipples are hard or not?
I am assuming you don't have the MFP picture of you in the blue shirt on a dating profile..because if that's the case.. those guys might just be stating the obvious.
FYI - I'm not demure either. That's what amuses me.0 -
Honest answer and will probably be the odd man out...
I like them,certainly find them appealing and like to have fun with them on the (far too rare) times I get to but in general they don`t do a lot for me as far as arousal.
Am 1000x more an *kitten* man then a boobie one.
Bottom line is we are all wired different and certain things spark a sexual desire in all of us but there is nothing universal.0 -
I hate to say it, but most guys your age are only looking for sex. It seems to be how things are going. You will need to look at men that are a little bit older than you, they tend to have better manors when it comes interaction. IMOi don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
Hmm. I've never been turned into a sex object.. well except when I've tried to do so myself! I do also possess some assets and love to show a little cleavage, but perhaps my extra weight has kept these type of men away? Probable. I know for me with online dating, the sheer length and content of my profile was a deterrent to anyone less than intelligent..but was also complimented fairly often by those I'd actually want attention from. I have also been told that I can come across confident and friendly, but also quite proper (at first) and potentially even a little demure or snobby.
Ha!0 -
i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
If you go to BB.com (Misc. forum), you'll get an honest answer from a lot of men. They will give you similar advice as to what I'm about to say.
I know a lot of people don't like the rating system, but every man I've ever known uses it. Even if you refuse to acknowledge it's existence or think it's wrong, it's still something everyone should be aware of.
For instance, if a guy is a 6/10, he'll find a 4-5/10 smash-able. He'll find a 6+/10 relationship worthy. So, if you're 100% sure all of these guys you are meeting only want to smash, chances are you're aiming high. Or, they are aiming down just for a quick smash. And if you aren't into that, just block or ignore them. Also, just because they are leading with their sexual foot, doesn't mean they aren't just into smashing.
Now, there are exceptions.. a 6/10 guy might find EVERY girl 1-10/10 smash-able and not relationship worthy (maybe he just got out of a serious relationship, etc), but this is an exception, not the rule. Most men are reasonable and if they are looking for a relationship, they want to find their equal or above.0 -
i've always been big boobed. by the time i was16, i was having to get my bras custom made because i was 28K and still growing. showing cleavage was definitely not something i've ever intentionally done but when you're small in the back and large in the boob, cleavage happens :laugh:
all of the guys i've dated have been boob and thigh guys which works out well for them since i can suffocate a man between either..
it's very rare that i wear a plunging neckline, but when i do the results are interesting to say the least. but in general, to quote the exorcist, it's a "vulgar display of power"I see some ladies wanting to have reductions... Research it carefully and go to a well respected MD. If it is done wrong it will kill all sensation and can disfigure your chest (just like cheap botox) ...
Personally mine have been the same size since they came in (D) and I love them
nothing's permanent so i wouldn't worry about this. i got the "done wrong" kind of reduction when i was 19. my nips were completed cut off and sewn back on so in theory i wasnt supposed to ever have sensation again. the body being a living organism heals. it took 10 years but i got all sensation back in my nipples because the nerves grew back0 -
i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
I've been trying to push this message for months on here, "Don't worry about what you can't control." However nobody is picking up what I'm putting down. You can't control what a guy is going to message you or think of you, so don't worry about it. Learn to have fun with that stuff. I wish I got dirty messages. And if you have big boobs, rock them! If I had a 12" dong I'd be wearing the tightest jeans I could find... unfortunately I only have an 11" dong
**DONG!!0 -
i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
I've been trying to push this message for months on here, "Don't worry about what you can't control." However nobody is picking up what I'm putting down. You can't control what a guy is going to message you or think of you, so don't worry about it. Learn to have fun with that stuff. I wish I got dirty messages. And if you have big boobs, rock them! If I had a 12" dong I'd be wearing the tightest jeans I could find... unfortunately I only have an 11" dong
It is not all it is made out to be. 0 -
I've been trying to push this message for months on here, "Don't worry about what you can't control." However nobody is picking up what I'm putting down. You can't control what a guy is going to message you or think of you, so don't worry about it. Learn to have fun with that stuff. I wish I got dirty messages. And if you have big boobs, rock them! If I had a 12" dong I'd be wearing the tightest jeans I could find... unfortunately I only have an 11" dong
**DONG!!
Firstly...hello...
But second... this is a VERY good message for the ladies here!
The hilariousness of unsolicited creepy messages cannot be underestimated and the stories they make for... fun should be had.. even if it is to ridicule the person who just sent you a picture of his DONG!0 -
i got that here, and NO i didn't have pics that showed below my neck line, LOL!!!
jen, my response to the guy who canceled the date was " i don't move THAT fast ;-) " and he pretty much was like " see ya!!"
and yeah, i could have chosen my words better with this other guy. i know i asked him " do you mean after a date kiss?" and then added the " or just to meet up and kiss." because he said " we'll, we're both cute, so we should kiss." it caught me off guard. this is a guy that is a member of the same church i am, and i wasn't expecting it......the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?"
How would they know whether or not your nipples are hard or not?
I am assuming you don't have the MFP picture of you in the blue shirt on a dating profile..because if that's the case.. those guys might just be stating the obvious.
FYI - I'm not demure either. That's what amuses me.0 -
the online guys have ALL been older!!! most over 40 some over 45!! i literally have a million stories just like this.
one guy i was supposed to have lunch with, he was 45. we had spoken a couple times, etc. and i told him i need to jump in the shower quickly. his response was " well, make sure you take a topless pic when you get out and send it to me. " needless to say, there was no lunch.
I hate to say it, but most guys your age are only looking for sex. It seems to be how things are going. You will need to look at men that are a little bit older than you, they tend to have better manors when it comes interaction. IMO0 -
Ahhhhh ha ha ha ha SCORE! For Carl on the emoticon.i don't show cleavage. my tops are cut high. i often even wear mens tops to avoid any chance for cleavage, LOL *** see my shirt in my profile pic!!!!
i am not demure or snobby. i'm filterless and whatever thought comes into my head, usually falls out of my mouth :-/ maybe i need to work on being demure ;-)
i'm done with online so i don't need to worry about that anymore. i accepted last night that i just might be one of those women that is destined to be alone. i have my kids and friends, they all keep me plenty entertained. i went 2.5 years without a relationship, date, or sex. i know i can do it again, and i will be ok :-) i just don't want to be the girl that gets sexualized anymore. i want to be the girl that is viewed as worthy of being asked out. that's all!!
the girls that gets a message that says " you look great" not " are your nipples hard like that all the time?" a friend and i were both contacted by the same guy online and she got asked out on a date the first time they messaged, and i was told that he " hadn't had any kind of action in a while" and maybe we "could kiss ;-) " i asked him if he meant go on a date and kiss afterwards or just meet up and kiss? he responded "either way, he didn't really care"........ so, my friend is date worthy, but i'm only smash worthy. i am wondering if this is a scale thing. like she's a 10/10 and therefore datable and i'm only a 5/10 and therefore only smashable. i was gonna as the BB.com guys about this :-)
I've been trying to push this message for months on here, "Don't worry about what you can't control." However nobody is picking up what I'm putting down. You can't control what a guy is going to message you or think of you, so don't worry about it. Learn to have fun with that stuff. I wish I got dirty messages. And if you have big boobs, rock them! If I had a 12" dong I'd be wearing the tightest jeans I could find... unfortunately I only have an 11" dong It is not all it is made out to be.
Poncho tough luck on the dong thing.... there's always that spare sock in the dryer. :bigsmile:0 -
oh i know i cant' control what they say :-)
but, that's mainly what i get so, it's discouraging. PLUS, if you were in my shoes you MIGHT feel a little differently about it....I've been trying to push this message for months on here, "Don't worry about what you can't control." However nobody is picking up what I'm putting down. You can't control what a guy is going to message you or think of you, so don't worry about it. Learn to have fun with that stuff. I wish I got dirty messages. And if you have big boobs, rock them! If I had a 12" dong I'd be wearing the tightest jeans I could find... unfortunately I only have an 11" dong
**DONG!!0
