I love to spoil my guy all the time. That is the hard part of not being in a relationship for me, nobody to spoil. I have a hard time doing it in the beginning though because I don't want to seem too eager to please.

I talk on the phone a lot in the beginning, I hate talking on the phone! That shows how much I like a guy if I am willing to talk on the phone for hours. :-)

If you hate talking on the phone, why do it? Every guy I know also hates talking on the phone.

I pretty much refuse to talk on the phone early on in the relationship, I prefer hanging out in person. If that's not an option.. text message.

I thought it was just me, I can't stand phone conversations!!

I am not much of a phone talker nor is the guy I am seeing but sometimes we talk for hours, even just after we spent the day together, ha ha!!

I enjoy spoiling my man, he loves it, ha ha.

Simple answer...we give what we crave. You must like being given gifts. It signifies that someone thought of you. Here is the kicker though, we often forget how our partner expresses their love. So while you express yours via a gift, he may crave touch or time spent together.

I am glad he loved your gift. Be careful not to spoil too much too early on :-)

This^

I've found that the more I give, I want something back, I've always said equal or less value.
I do enjoy being paid attention to. That's why I do it to my partner. Not always is it intentional, but it happens.

I love doing for other people, it's a huge codependency trait I have and......I now hate it. OH well .

If you hate talking on the phone, why do it? Every guy I know also hates talking on the phone.

I pretty much refuse to talk on the phone early on in the relationship, I prefer hanging out in person. If that's not an option.. text message.

I thought it was just me, I can't stand phone conversations!!

I hate the phone as well.

I would love it if a guy was like "let's not talk on the phone, we can just text."

I am the text Queen. If its not in person I really don't wanna talk on the phone unless its something important.

Exactly.

Am I the only one who lets calls go to VM so I can listen and see what the caller wants before I can return the call?

Here is how much my boyfriend and I HATE the phone. He's gone for 7 days, we text non-stop, morning till night. He calls me on the night he's coming home and we spend maybe 10 minutes talking about nothing. And we live together and been together for about 6 months. I'm good when we are apart being able to reach each other by text or e-mail. I don't have to talk to you...

Dammit, I might be a self proclaimed special snow flake,

I don't mind have good conversations on the phone (if the topic has depth), however babbling about drama crap, no. Then again I love having in depth conversations in general, I definently prefer it in person, but I don't mind the phone if the conversation is good.

So I might like phone conversations..........

Dammit, I might be a self proclaimed special snow flake,

I don't mind have good conversations on the phone (if the topic has depth), however babbling about drama crap, no. Then again I love having in depth conversations in general, I definently prefer it in person, but I don't mind the phone if the conversation is good.

So I might like phone conversations..........

What's your number? Cause you aren't the only snow flake out there. LOL

Im not sure if there's anything I do extra in the beginning.

But the more I read on here, the more I see that I don't spoil nor give too much to my new guy. I think it's way too early. I show interest, I spend time with him, I will initiate calls or texts now and that's it. Anytime he gives me, I'm gracious and happy. I just feel the beginning is his time to pursue and give more.

I never have understood this mentality. Why must someone try extra harder to "pursue" you. That means he is being someone he isn't. Why not be yourself and see of you truly are compatible? In other words, why make the guy jump through hoops just to see
if he really wants you?

If you hate talking on the phone, why do it? Every guy I know also hates talking on the phone.

I pretty much refuse to talk on the phone early on in the relationship, I prefer hanging out in person. If that's not an option.. text message.

I like phone conversations, but definitely prefer the in person experience.

I just feel the beginning is his time to pursue and give more.

This type of entitled thinking gives women a bad reputation, especially since many guys already believe we're out to 'get them' when it comes to spending their money, etc. I agree with other people who said it should be a balancing act.

this reminds me of some (IMO bad advice) i once received from one of my aunties about dating. her advice was to only be with guys who liked me way more than i liked them because then they'd put in extra effort. something about that always struck me as being a bit sad, i dont know why. i guess i wouldnt want to watch someone struggle and put all their effort into something that would never happen. some people can deal better with desperate partners than other i suppose.

I just feel the beginning is his time to pursue and give more.

This type of entitled thinking gives women a bad reputation, especially since many guys already believe we're out to 'get them' when it comes to spending their money, etc. I agree with other people who said it should be a balancing act.

this reminds me of some (IMO bad advice) i once received from one of my aunties about dating. her advice was to only be with guys who liked me way more than i liked them because then they'd put in extra effort. something about that always struck me as being a bit sad, i dont know why. i guess i wouldnt want to watch someone struggle and put all their effort into something that would never happen. some people can deal better with desperate partners than other i suppose.

Yep! I agree that we have progressed beyond this antiquated way of thinking. Equality means equal!! Although, some male and female posts I read in here have not caught on to this yet! :flowerforyou: