If Your Spouse Cheats on You.
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I haven't been cheated on but I have been dumped for someone else. I've got to say I didn't care that she wasn't as cute as me because he said he liked her for her confidence and ingenuity... turns out she was just real good at talking a big game but was one of those people who never actually accomplishes anything. I did get a sense of "haha you deserve it" for a little bit... But in the end I don't wish either of them ill and just accepted we weren't a good match anyway.0
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Question of the day.. if your SO cheats on you *and* ends up being with the new partner, would you rather if be with someone better or worse looking than yourself?
I'm sure you'll be sad (obviously), but which would you rather? I had this conversation the other week and my male friends said they would rather it be with a worse looking guy. Primarily because they would be bitter and wouldn't want them to have a good looking guy.
My female friends say they would want it to be with a good looking girl. Primarily because they'd view this as a confidence boost in a weird way. They stated that if the guy is now with a really pretty girl, it would mean that I am a pretty girl as well.
Edit: Doesn't just have to be a spouse.. it could be a boyfriend/girlfriend situation as well.
Well an ex of mine cheated on me with some fairly alright looking guy, and I don't think the looks made any difference at all to how I felt at the time but I think if he'd been an ugly mofo I'd probably felt better knowing she was getting a worse deal.0 -
In my opinion, cheating more about the trust being broken, than it is about the sex. The fact that they lied to my face, is what I find hurts more.
Exactly.
I would rather have him cheat with someone better looking so I could at least pin some excuse on it in my mind.0 -
Most guys look pretty similar with a shattered nose and no front teeth, so I guess it doesn't really matter.
LOVE THIS..lol
In all seriousness, though, I would prefer it to be someone that I classified as less attractive than myself - that would include their personality, physical traits, and where they are at in life. Basically, I would want to be able to pull a better-than-thou on them, as immature and narcissistic as that may sound.
If I can feel superior to the guy, I would be able to write it off as a huge mistake on her part and maybe even feel relieved that I was able to get out of a relationship with that type of girl. If the guy was a cover model driving a flying DeLorean to pick up his nobel peace prize, I would feel pretty small and inferior - like of course she cheated on me, I could never be good enough for her.
Edit: I see A LOT of people cheating and talking about cheating when I am out and about. Try a trip to Vegas - listen in at a bar with friends talking to each other (male and female). Almost nothing makes me more sad for humanity than when I catch one of these conversations. The worst is when it seems to be completely happy, normal people.0 -
I see A LOT of people cheating and talking about cheating when I am out and about. Try a trip to Vegas - listen in at a bar with friends talking to each other (male and female). Almost nothing makes me more sad for humanity than when I catch one of these conversations. The worst is when it seems to be completely happy, normal people.
Yes. Well said.
It's the ignorance that gets you. At least do it with eyes wide open...
"And all men kill the thing they love,
By all let this be heard,
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a flattering word,
The coward does it with a kiss,
The brave man with a sword!" --Oscar Wilde
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I see A LOT of people cheating and talking about cheating when I am out and about. Try a trip to Vegas - listen in at a bar with friends talking to each other (male and female). Almost nothing makes me more sad for humanity than when I catch one of these conversations. The worst is when it seems to be completely happy, normal people.
Yes. Well said.
It's the ignorance that gets you. At least do it with eyes wide open...
"And all men kill the thing they love,
By all let this be heard,
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a flattering word,
The coward does it with a kiss,
The brave man with a sword!" --Oscar Wilde
--P
It bothers me how accepted cheating has become in relationships. I actually had one of my female friends ask me if I was going to keep FFWB "around" while I was in a relationship with Mr . NG:huh: :noway:
There are different circumstances for different people but personally I have never cheated and don't plan on cheating. I would just rather break up. I also don't cheat assist. I will not sleep with a guy if he has a GF or is dating someone ........0 -
I see A LOT of people cheating and talking about cheating when I am out and about. Try a trip to Vegas - listen in at a bar with friends talking to each other (male and female). Almost nothing makes me more sad for humanity than when I catch one of these conversations. The worst is when it seems to be completely happy, normal people.
Yes. Well said.
It's the ignorance that gets you. At least do it with eyes wide open...
"And all men kill the thing they love,
By all let this be heard,
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a flattering word,
The coward does it with a kiss,
The brave man with a sword!" --Oscar Wilde
--P
It bothers me how accepted cheating has become in relationships. I actually had one of my female friends ask me if I was going to keep FFWB "around" while I was in a relationship with Mr . NG:huh: :noway:
There are different circumstances for different people but personally I have never cheated and don't plan on cheating. I would just rather break up. I also don't cheat assist. I will not sleep with a guy if he has a GF or is dating someone ........
It is crazy, I almost feel like the notion has become "not if, but when." Which is totally nuts. I have come to find that I am not a cheater. I purposely didn't make anything official with the girl I've been dating before my trip to the Dominican Republic, as I knew I'd be drunk off my *kitten* for 7 days. I met 3 pretty hot gals out there... one from Ireland! However I did nothing more than flirt as I guess it just didn't feel right to take it further.0 -
My XH cheated on me with an unattractive man-beast, with a unibrow and all the grace of a cow on ice. It was really a huge blow to my ego.
If I my BF were going to cheat on me she better be smoking hot. Like I would do her, hot.0 -
My XH cheated on me with an unattractive man-beast, with a unibrow and all the grace of a cow on ice. It was really a huge blow to my ego.
If I my BF were going to cheat on me she better be smoking hot. Like I would do her, hot.
I think my ex married this exact woman! Oh my god she was fugly! To this day I don't know why he left, but to leave me and go out with THAT. I at least brush my hair daily. I saw a wedding photo (still friends with his sister in law on facebook) and no one was smiling. Her sister is even worse looking.
I'm better off without him, but I couldn't believe that's what he chose as a mate.0
