Thanks! I try to tell myself that, but sometimes it's hard. Oh well. Here's to making ourselves better! Then hopefully good things will happen!

I wouldn't know cause I can't get anyone to date me! I feel like because I'm single in my 30s I missed the boat and I'm doomed for life. Doesn't help that I'm much overweight.

I'm in this boat with you!!!

Awww, there is hope! I was 250 lbs and doing online dating and I met some really great guys, two I ended up getting serious with, and one I just married in June. It can be scary getting out there, and you will meet some jerks along the way, but if you are honest and you know what you are looking for, you can find it. Take your time, have some fun, date someone you'd never go for ~ who knows, it could work. You don't have to settle for anything less than everything.

Been there, done all of this. Still single as a slice of cheese. I really just think it's luck. Which sucks. haha

I am recently single after a 14 month relationship and while that doesn't seem like a very long time I seriously thought that he was the one and that I wouldn't ever be re-entering the dating scene. I am not enthused with re-entering the dating scene at almost 31 years old. Ugh! I honeslty am just going to take some time to myself and work on me. Mr. Right will have to practically fall in my lap to catch my attention at this point.

Goodness... I've been single now for.... hmmm... 6+ years now, at least. And before that, it was just a series of *almost* dating, in each case with me or them backing out after just a few dates. The ones I wanted to date didn't commit, the ones who wanted to date me I didn't feel were the right match. Back then, I felt like I was *supposed* to be looking for my better half, but then I moved to another state and learned what it was like to be on my own, away from the comfort of a known social circle & had to figure out what really made *me* happy. It was scary as all hell, but I'm so glad I did it because looking back, I don't think I was becoming a person who would have really been happy down the line. Now, my priorities are so much different, and I'm actually pretty comfortable being *on my own*, without constantly seeking approval from others or hoping to impress or *reel one in*.

That's not to say I don't miss certain aspects of having a partner, but I also remember very well the insecurities that went along with it. Letting someone in to that level is very, very scary, and I find that so often we feel the need to be *on*... always looking our best, holding parts of ourselves back, and I truly didn't enjoy that part of it all. Ideally, I figure if there is someone I am supposed to be with, they will indeed fall into my lap, preferably in the form of a friendship that continues to grow until the comfort level is just there.

But don't get me wrong, I still enjoy scoping them out & the wishful thinking of the ones with some massive sex appeal (of which my preferences have also changed so greatly from my younger years - I have found age, experience & what people learn from hard regrets to be most appealing), but I now also realize that just because they look good & might be a real turn on, doesn't mean that they will turn me on in the long run. Eye candy is usually best suited for eye candy, and the best matches usually seem to be the ones that you just didn't see coming.

Well i wouldn't know what dating was if it bit me. I was in a relationship for 15 total years then got divorced. I've been working on my self ever since. Along with doing what ever the kids need.

Single....very very single. I've only been in one relationship; it lasted almost 6 years (the final two years engaged) when he decided I really wasn't what he wanted and promptly ended it (then started dating someone else while we were still living together..how's that for 'screwed up'?). That was in December of '08 - fast forward to Jan '13 - I've come to realize that he REALLY wasn't what I wanted either (took a long time to figure this out, even though EVERYONE ELSE KNEW IT...learn the hard way I guess). As hard as it was to go through, I'm glad it happened because I learned more about myself and how strong I really can be (though it's so hard to 'feel' strong).

What I do regret (really really regret) is that the relationship is my only experience with the opposite sex (poor benchmark). I never 'dated' (wouldn't know how to even start!) in my teens and twenties, and now that I'm in my early thirties...I'm even more clueless! Where in the world to people in their thirties go to find someone?

I tried the online dating thing (and not just the 'free' stuff, I invested money and time into some as well)..that sucked. Got lots of matches, but they'd never answer back (which does wonders for the confidence let me tell you - I regret uploading pictures). I also don't think it's a good idea to 'find' someone at work (it's how I met my 'ex), and I'm not a bar hopper or a concert goer. I'm a homebody that is close to her family. So if I'm not a work, I'm at home with the folks. I would love to get out more...just not sure where to start.

I'd love to hear some ideas on best places for adults to meet (that doesn't involve ear-splitting music or a ton of alcohol - also not much of a drinker, which some would say puts me in the 'boring' category LOL).

Where in the world to people in their thirties go to find someone?

I wonder the same!

I'm single and hoping to start dating sometime this year. I love to flirt, but I can also get stuck in the "once I weigh this much, I'll really get back out there" kind of mentality. I wish I could go back to the "good ol' days" before my confidence was replaced by an apology. I am certainly afraid of getting hurt again, but I'm forcing myself to understand that sometimes we may have to endure some pain in order to truly appreciate mutual and unconditional love.

2013 will be a great year - I can feel it in my bones.....

I was married for 8 years and have been separated/ divorced for two years. Since my separation from my exhusband I found myself always in a relationship but not with someone that I necessarily had a connection to, more so out of a fear of being alone. I just recently got out of an 8 month relationship with a man that I had almost NOTHING in common with...simply because i no longer feel like I need someone in my life to be validated.

Dating is a scary thing, especially with someone who struggles with her weight. Not many people have an interest in someone who isn't in good shape.

My next goal is to work on myself and get myself in a place where I feel good enough about myself that I'm not reliant on others.

I am 32 years old and I have been with my husband for almost 13 years we have 2 girls ages 7 and 11. Over the 13 years I have fought my husband about going on the net and finding girls to talk to. The girls always live way far away so it could never be where he could go and meet up with them, but still he is always talking to someone or more then one. I always find out and then we go back and forth and he stops talking to the ones that I know about. Until I find another well this last Aug 2012 I found out he was talkin to a couple of females again but this time one of them that he was talking to he thinks he has feelings for. She lives really far away and has a family of her own but none the less he told me he wants to not be together anymore. When we got together I was not very big I am 5'3 and I maybe was 120 pounds, not long after we got together I found out I was going to have his child. So trying to be the bigger person and wanting my daughters father to be here in her life everyday I have put up with more then anyone could or would ever know. It really makes me sad to think about the things I have let him do over the years but I really dont want my kids to have parents that dont live together. The sad thing is that he and I get along great we go out and do family things last year we went family camping about 7 or 8 times we do girls scouts stuff and everything.. On the outside we have always been the kind of family that my friends would tell me you are su lucky, people would tell him all the time I hope you know how good your wife is and he would just look at me like he didnt know what to say. The main trouble is he wont talk to me so he is always looking for someone else to talk to. I really beleave it is because I know him to well I have always been able to see past what he is doing and I can find out what he had going on. He has been in his own place for 2 weeks now and I still know what he is doing and I only see him a couple hours a night when he is here with the kids. Go figure he still comes over every night and makes dinner for me and the girls.. I feel kind of crazy because even though I know all the wrong he has done and I know he is talking to females again. I still feel this feeling like he is still cheating on me again... How do I get past all of these years and move on with my 2 girls and find someone who will look at me and only me when we are out in public, someone who will notice me when I walk in the door? I feel like he has sucked all of the life out of me how do you move on from that?
Thank you for any and all help

Dating in your 30's is fun and difficult all at the same time. In your 30's you know what you want, but it can be hard to meet people sometimes since most people are married and have kids (at least most of my friends are). I've done a lot of online dating which can be fun, but sometimes it's hard to meet genuine people with true intentions online. Technology has made it easier for people to meet, but it also has complicated things.... a lot of men seem to have a "grass is greener on the other side" mentality since they think they can meet someone better.... at least in my experience.

Well when I was dating I was doing the online dating thing it wasn't that bad....I had dates lined up for Fri,Sat and Sun one weekend....took a break because I've been sick just trying to focus on my health...but you can meet people just by going to the grocery store lol I know it sounds silly but by asking someone a question you could strike up a conversation.I met someone once.. they asked me a question then we started talking and exchanged #'s.