I wouldn't say my weight has kept me single in itself, but it certainly played a major role in my complete lack of self confidence and self image - which are much bigger factors.

Having shifted a lot of weight that has improved a little, but the self-image and confidence (especially around women I find attractive) are still very much a work in progress.

I may be young, a mere 23, but I am an old soul. I have never had a boyfriend and feel that that is the way my life is headed. I am about 90lbs overweight and have PCOS (Poly Cystic Ovaries) which also brings lovely side effects. Both combined means I have zero self-confidence. So I can completely relate! I have lost 20 lbs which has helped boost my self-esteem but not to the point I want to be at. Everyone says "Oh you'll meet someone!" except they are already in a relationship so they have nothing to worry about. Some days it gets me down, but other days I embrace my singleness and enjoy it. In the long run, I really hope someone comes along that can see past my outwards appearance and fall in love with me, and all my awesomeness

Yes. I definitely feel that is a large part of the reason that I am still single. My weight caused me to have zero self confidence and so much self hatred that I had gotten to the point that I hated to even go out in public because I felt as though everyone was looking at me all the time.

Speaking personally (since I don't know you and obviously haven't experienced the things that you have in your life) all I can say is:

1. Yes, I do think that in my case my weight has had a huge impact on my self-esteem and coupled with relationships with two cheating partners (one a wife and the other a fiance) the thought of trying to 'put myself out there' again frankly gives me the heebeegeebies!

2. I don't (nor do I think anyone else should) want to lose weight for anyone other than themselves. I'm doing it for my health and my future. Without either of those I think any long-term relationship is pretty much doomed.

3. If you get too hung up on the weight issues then you might find that they get in the way of enjoying any relationship (romantic or otherwise) that you do have. It might sound contrite but I think you have to learn to love yourself first - after all, if you think you're awesome anyone who doesn't fall for you is just losing out! 8)

4. Speaking as a man who was married to a very slim and fit aerobics instructor... I'll take an overweight woman who likes me for being me over a supermodel who wants me to be something I'm not and in all likelihood, never will be.

Romance/sex is all well and good but physical looks fade and if your partner can't appreciate you for the person inside then they really aren't in love with you. Hopefully, one day you'll find your love interest - just don't rush into things and don't worry if they seem to be taking too long. The world's a pretty big place and it may take them a while to find you. In the meantime, keep on doing what you're doing and look after yourself.

Good luck in your adventures.

I think it absolutely has.

I know confidence is important and attractive, but I really feel like people over estimate it. I'm great when talking with someone, I don't usually approach first because I'm just introverted like that, but the thing is, I watch my friends get approached, and I never do. How can my confidence be the issue when guys don't talk to me in the first place?

For me its not my weight that keeps me single. Its my issues deep inside that freak me out when someone pushes to close thats keeping me always runing away. Thats the real reason why I gained the weight in the first place. I feel a good amount of people gain weight because they are trying to hide away or dont want to deal with the issues inside.

I don't think it is superficial to have a body preference for the type of person you date. It might not only be because of looks but that they view that person as more active or goal oriented. It's not always accurate but hey, it's a dating website and it's hard to base a lot of things on a profile. I am not looking for a relationship but when I am.. I am not looking for someone who is overweight.. or at least not someone that has no desire to do something about it. I don't think that an overweight man is unattractive. I have found plenty of overweight men very attractive, it's just that their lifestyle (typically) doesn't match the lifestyle that I am aiming for. I won't rule an overweight man out who has goals and strives for what I strive for but I am at a point in my life that I have realized that I am not selfish enough. If I am dating a man who does not find health and fitness important, I ignore my own health and fitness for whatever he wants to do in place of the gym and eat the foods that he wants to eat. Which is definitely a good reason why I am single and plan on staying single.

I guess that is where my weight problems keep me single. Not because men don't find me attractive.. I have gotten plenty of attention from men, but it is because of my own lack of putting value on my needs above someone elses that it isn't healthy for me to be in a relationship.

I have experienced emotional abuse in the past as well by previous partners and an ex husband. When things were good they told me how beautiful I was. They were also very abusive though when things weren't good and when emotionally abusive they always used my weight against me. The last guy I was in a relationship with told me he wasn't attracted to 300 lb women (I was 214 lbs which was 15 lbs lighter than I was when I started dating him).. He used my weight as a scape goat.. even though he could stop looking at me or getting jealous of other people looking at me. It was like he was almost getting mad that I was losing weight and getting attention (which I never intentionally drew to myself and ignored) and played on my insecurities to make me feel like something was wrong with me, instead of wrong with him. I recognized this as a major red flag from a past relationship and the relationship did not carry on after that. My first marriage my husband was such a jealous man that he told me I was ugly, fat, and that no one would ever want me and I went from 189 lbs to over 300 lbs in a year. I haven't seen under 200 lbs in 9 years. That is my major short term goal that I have been aiming for .. for years.

Anyways.. staying single for me is mostly by choice... and does have to do with my weight loss (journey) and building self esteem to never let a man use my weight as a weapon against me. My weight and my health are personal to me and I am making the decision to lose weight and get healthy for myself and my children.. not for a relationship. I hope that you all choose to lose for you because you will be happiest if it is for yourself, your results will be so much more rewarding and when you are happy with yourself, you will be much more approachable to the right man. I believe that.. When I have the confidence in myself then I will find the right kind of man, or he will find me.

I feel it is my personality that kept me single my whole life. My weight probably helped keep some woman away that would just end up disappointed afterwards lol.

Im in much better shape when Im single.

i have been told if i lost weight i would be a hottie