Its a little of both for me. I got married at 18, had a baby at 19, and divorced at 20. The orginal split was his idea, because he wasn't sure he was ready for a family. He eventually decided he was (after trying to be with several other women and making it on his own without any success), but I filed for divorce anyway. I have been divorced for 6yrs now, and have honestly been single for most of it (my choice). Being single does suck sometimes, and I date a lot. I just haven't found that someone. I would rather be alone than be with the wrong person.

I am caught up in this complicated thing with my ex... he is an addict and currently in jail we've been best friends for 10 years and have dated on and off for that time but have been in an exclusive serious relationship for the past year and a half and were living together. We have remained friends but it's a little difficult (actually impossible) to trust an addict & even if trust wasn't an issue I don't now anyone that can sustain a relationship based of once a week 20 minute phone calls & letters. Unfortunately, many of my friends have fallen victim to drugs/alcohol as it is a big problem in my city especially my neighborhood, my other serious boyfriend also had a drug problem. So for not I am sort of single by choice as if I wanted to put myself through the frustration of being with someone in jail I certainly could but I don't. I am so not interested in just jumping into a relationship for the sake of being in one but I do prefer it to being single. I'm trying to get in a better head space personally so I can start dating kids from outside my neighborhood who don't have those kind of issues.

My ideal relationship right now would be something uncomplicated with someone who wants more then just straight up sex but isn't looking for commitment either. I guess friends with benefits would be the right term

Definitely single by choice at the moment . . am enjoying spending most of my spare time on myself and feeling so much better for it!!! I know if I met someone right now my good work would go out the window LOL!!!

Yup, until i find someone worth my time.

Which will be never :P

A little bit of both, I have had my hear broken to many times so I don't put myself out there enough, as a result I've packed on the pounds. I've realized that the unhealthy living lifestyle I've become accustom too was defense mechanisim and an excuse to keep people away. I am enjoying being single and by myself, but I am ready for more. :flowerforyou:

Yup, until i find someone worth my time.

Which will be never :P

Is it bad that I kinda feel the same way - I get asked out by some 'gems" and can't help but thinking "I'm too good for this..."

Choice... interesting word. Assuming most people don't think they are in a relationship just for the sake of it, most people tell themselves they are in a good relationship, why not be in it? And alot of people are in good relationships, no doubt, but i know for myself i hung on beyond the good times.

My last proper relationship lasted about 5 years. I ended it but he agreed. We got back together 2 years later for 2 months and then he ended it. It's been another 2 years since then. Essentially i feel as though i've been single for 4 years and i am sick of it.

I have dated heaps of people, and it's getting pretty depressing. It's not that i need to be in a relationship, i just feel that i have worked on myself (internally especially), i have done soooo many things on my own or with friends (though i'm at an age where many of my friends are partnered and don't really want to go on holidays with their single friend so i generally do things on my own) and i would love to meet a like-minded companion.

And yes, i have done all the things: got involved in my own stuff and activities without a care about dating; dated actively via internet and 'real' world; given people a chance beyond one date to see i'm not being too picky; been both hard to get and totally flirty etc. etc. etc.

The ex starts to look pretty damn good after years of freaks!!!

But he's got a girlfriend, which is a good thing- keeps me away.

I am happy to be single, I have lots of fun in my life and lots of freedom, so no i won't settle for something 2nd rate, but i also actually can't. When i am dating someone i'm only so-so about i literally can't go on with them. I have to have the buzz!! i'm willing to wait a few dates for a slow burner (my last 2 serious r'ships were slow burners), but unfortunately i haven't buzzed in awhile. The last guy i felt that way about was 5 months ago and turned out to have a girlfriend he neglected to mention, lucky nothing much happened before i found out! I hate cheaters!

So now i'm on here, working on my outside and focusing on me again! I guess someone will come along eventually.

50/50 i guess... i never really go out and date multiple guys. lol... because i don't treat men as a shopping objects. i like to make friends and see where it goes.

I got dumped recently though. was with a guy who promised a lot of things; marriage, commitment and stuff. and then BAM, he dropped a bomb on me saying he's not ready for relationship.

so i don't consider myself expert in dating.

I am single by choice. I recently pulled myself off the dating scene because I was frustrated at how men who would approach me would talk to me. So yeah, single by choice.
Now if I encountered a man who knows how to talk to a woman without being disrespectful, then I may reconsider lol

Not at all by choice.

iI'm with Melissa too.. I am soo ready for a nice relatiosnhip but it has to be the right one.. otherwise I happy enough to stay single But am thinking positive that 2013 will be an awesome year all around!

50/50 i guess... i never really go out and date multiple guys. lol... because i don't treat men as a shopping objects. i like to make friends and see where it goes.

this is my problem as well (only with women,not guys ) i have only been on ONE "Date" in my entire life, by this i mean just talking a little bit and then go on a date before really knowing someone, i have become friends, and more times than not, boyfriend/girlfriend before going on "dates" together. it is a lot more challenging to find someone this way but you already have a good idea if you like them or not

Not single by choice...I guess I should get out more. All I do is work, go walking, and shopping. Due to my position at work and the the scarce dating pool there a work romance is not going to happen.I do not get asked very often but again I really don't have a lot of hobbies or time. Online dating freaks me out and I'm surprised I joined this group. I guess I need ideas of what the heck to do...HELP

definitely tired of being single!! I've never had a proper boyfriend.

hmm....Not sure, I've been on a few dates and never feel a connection. My friends have set me up LOL since it never works I stopped all together. However, I am tired of being single. I need to get out more....but, secretly hoping to meet a gym rat so he understands and supports me in my healthy lifestyle/weightloss.