Hi, guys!~ Bigender individual here. I use female pronouns, probably because I'm biologically female, so I'm used to it and I'm not really 'out' as bigender, but I prefer more 'male' words if I have to pick between male or female (ie. I like to be called a prince instead of a princess ). I think my expression is more masculine than feminine most of the time. Friend me, I don't have an friends on here yet c:

Cmeirun, I'm so with you on happily waving goodbye to the boobs (when that happens, if ever). Though I wouldn't say I'd ever considered that I have chest dysphoria, these tits have been nothing but in my way my whole life. The transmasculine description fits me quite well. I'm comfortable with she/her, but it doesn't bother me a bit if I get a he/him. It's usually way more uncomfortable for the other person.

Yeah, it's kind of awesome to be able to wave bye-bye after all this time being uncomfortable!!! :bigsmile:

yeah, feel free to add and/or talk.
warning now though that I'm stealth outside of lgbt spaces and i don't enjoy the whole political side of lgbt stuff at all. i'm a nice enough guy though - i think.. haha.

Transmasculine genderqueer here. Would love to find a support group among fellow queers! Feel free to add me, and let's do this together.

I may be a bit young for your tastes, but I'm here an always open! I'm a publicly closeted occasionally-femme (pardon me if I'm using the term incorrectly) transman myself. Nice to meet you! My name's Alexander, but I'm currently pondering on the name Zacharie.

I just realized I never posted in this thread.

24-year-old genderqueer person, generally leaning towards the masculine side of things, so I prefer he/him (thus my profile settings). Not on any hormones, but (slowly) saving up for top surgery.

27, FTM. Add me!

Sorry you're not getting any feedback! I don't want to make assumptions about your transition plans, but I'm assuming you mean hormones and/or some surgery? Hormones will help redistribute body fat in a more masculine-looking way, and could also help with gaining muscle mass - I can't see either of those being a bad thing at any point in the weight loss process.
As for surgery, I'm not planning any in the near future, but I think if I was in your shoes I'd want to keep focusing on reducing my weight, and increasing my fitness/muscle mass a bit before having top surgery. My understanding is that it's better for the procedure itself (in terms of anaesthetic, recovery, etc.), and I also think that your gut feeling about being happy with the aesthetics afterwards might be right. I don't know this for a fact, but I wonder if major changes in your weight after the surgery might affect how things look down the road - like, maybe it would be better to be closer to your goal/ideal, so that the surgery and aesthetics were planned/tailored for that body.
From a passing perspective, it's hard to say - personally, now that I've lost fat not just from my chest (which deflated hugely, and first and quickly when I started to lose weight) but also from my hips/tummy, my overall physique is much more linear/less curvy, fits better in men's shirts and generally looks more passable/I'm much happier with it because it has something closer to the overall look I'm trying to achieve; in other words, the bottom had to start to match the top before things looked right, for me. I know I'm not in the same position as you and don't have the first-hand experience that others here have, but I've thought about this a lot and don't want to see you left hangin' out here :flowerforyou: Hope I'm not overstepping my bounds/talking out of line here!

I am not trans, and I'm not as educated on trans-relevant issues as I probably should be. So, could someone please explain to me what it means to actually 'pass'? Is it about you meeting certain standards of gender you created in your own mind? Is it meeting gender stereotypes created by society? Is it physical and mental? I want to know everything. :flowerforyou:

I am not trans, and I'm not as educated on trans-relevant issues as I probably should be. So, could someone please explain to me what it means to actually 'pass'? Is it about you meeting certain standards of gender you created in your own mind? Is it meeting gender stereotypes created by society? Is it physical and mental? I want to know everything. :flowerforyou:

Passing is when random strangers believe you're whatever you want them to. So. Fitting society stereotypes. Pretty simple.

Just as an example to clarify for the PP, if you're FTM and people perceive you as male upon meeting you, then you're passing. Likewise, if someone is MTF and people perceive her as a woman, then she's passing.