I'm way out of practice when it comes to dating for starters

Last month a met this guy who isn't really my physical type, but attractive and more importantly great to be around.
We've been seeing each other I guess but there has been no talk of being exclusive or anything like that.
I don't refer to him as my boyfriend or anything - just the guy I'm talking to.

Co-worker comes to me this morning and starts telling me about this guy he has become friends with from one of his classes. Giving me a little back story on the guy. I realized when my friend got a funny smirk on his face that something was coming hahaha
So he wants me to meet this guy - just to see how it'd go. Casual hang out

My question is, what is the proper etiquette? haha
I wouldn't be doing anything wrong right?

You aren't exclusive so it is up to you and how you feel about dating mulitple people at one time. Some people expect you to be dating others casually in the begining stages. There is nothing wrong with meeting the other guy.

Though I totally agree with MM, if you really really like this guy you've been hanging out with already, you may want to have the "what are we" talk. You could explain that a friend wants you to meet a friend, but you don't want to jeopardize anything that might be happening between the two of you. This shows him two things #1 - that you are desirable to other men and have options and #2 - that you are a geniune woman who respects him enough to talk about it.

Yea, I've been avoiding that talk haha
I see your point though

It's kind of a big red flag that you've been avoiding that talk. To me that would mean I'm not going to have it and will find someone else while enjoying this short term fling.

I would meet guy #2 and decide if you even like him first. If you don't, it's a complete non-issue.

You don't owe the new guy anything since you aren't exclusive, and I'm assuming you don't intend to meet guy #2 and immediately have sex with him. I never bring up the "what are we" conversation. I leave that to the man. Until he brings up exclusivity, I consider myself free to date others.

I think you go on the date with guy #2, don't say a word about it to guy #1, and go from there. Worst case would be to piss off Guy #1 and guy #2 turns out to be a bust.

I agree that after a month I'd know if I wanted to be with the guy I'm seeing. Actually, that would happen after 2 dates. Seems to me like you dont really like him much??. So why continue seeing him?? What are you going to do if you like the second guy to the same wishy washy level?? :huh:

I would know after a month as well if I wanted to continue... and I agree... you either don't like him much or there isn't a true connection or ??

The grass is always greener and so forth.

The grass is always greener and so forth.

The grass is always greener where you choose to water it.

No amount of water will help if the seed was bad to begin with.

The grass is always greener and so forth.

The grass is always greener where you choose to water it.

No amount of water will help if the seed was bad to begin with.

oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh!!! I stand corrected and happy for it!

Should have used BRAWNDO

It has electrolytes. Plants crave them.

So what did you do?

Unlike others in this forum, it takes awhile for me to get to know someone, so I won’t take myself off the market just after 3-4 dates. It really has to be more like 3-4 months- long enough for me to think I’m really seeing YOU not just the persona you want me to see. I’ve found that most guys are dating around, especially if you meet online. That said, I’m also not physically intimate with someone who is not committed to me, so I do not have any moral issues with multi-dating.

If I’m getting to know someone, I don’t assume we’re exclusive until we talk about it. I’m also not likely to force the conversation unless he is taking up all of my weekends and some weeknights. The way I see it, if we are naturally growing closer he will eventually crowd out other men from my life and vice versa.

This actually played out comically in my life with my current boyfriend because we were having a rather romantic weekend but when I was in the bathroom I discovered he was on Match. Then I thought I heard him tell someone I wasn’t his girlfriend. We had never had the “exclusive” talk, but we spent so much time together I was surprised. I immediately got back on match, set up a couple dates and that spurred “the talk.” Turns out there he had good explanations, I had to eat a little crow, and we agreed (after 3 months of dating) to be exclusive. That was 7 months ago.

Hope things work out for you!