did anyone read the OP? she said there has been no hanky panky how is she a booty call?

There has been no hanky panky..... yet. Because they haven't had sex, there could be no way that he's trying to get into her pants?

Ideally, if two people are into each other, the goal is sex cause that's what the main difference between friendship and relationships is.

what if you have a friend that isn't trying to get into your pants and really trying to get to know you? lol.

.... then it's friendship.

what if I want to get into his pants? lol. :bigsmile:

show him your boobs..he'll get the hint

Exactly. Make him aware of your boner. "I'll show you mine if you show me yours!" Then when you boner together it's not friendship anymore.

did anyone read the OP? she said there has been no hanky panky how is she a booty call?

There has been no hanky panky..... yet. Because they haven't had sex, there could be no way that he's trying to get into her pants?

Ideally, if two people are into each other, the goal is sex cause that's what the main difference between friendship and relationships is.

what if you have a friend that isn't trying to get into your pants and really trying to get to know you? lol.

.... then it's friendship.

what if I want to get into his pants? lol. :bigsmile:

show him your boobs..he'll get the hint

Exactly. Make him aware of your boner. "I'll show you mine if you show me yours!" Then when you boner together it's not friendship anymore.

I haven't shown him my boobs...yet! but I think he knows I want to LOL.

ugh men!

So hold on, I'll get this straight.

You have not communicated clearly to a person that you are into him, but you think me might know and the thing that you are complaining about is MEN!?

oh he KNOWS! he just wants to take it slow, be friends first. I never thought I would say this but what the hell lol.
when u want a sensitive guy all I got was *kitten*. now.... IDK! lol

This guy seems like he is out for sex. Its actually pretty common: the forced intimacy and pet names to get you to feel special. Its all a ploy to get you to sleep with him. If he wants to date you, he will.However, he seems to want to get you emotionally close, so you will sleep with him if the opportunity arise. That's why men do it by text rather than over the phone. I would not even invest a ounce of energy in this guy beyond friendship.

So... if a guy acts like he likes you, then he just wants to get into you pants. He can't want a real relationship if he also wants sex. There's absolutely no chance he is shy and worried about asking you out because he is concerned about rejection. He sees you as a piece of meat and not a human.

Am I getting this right?

I have been told before that if a man really wants a girl he will make the effort to see her, spend time with her, etc.

I have a "friend" that likes to pop in and out of my life. A text here and there and an occasional lunch date. He always wanted to hold hands and kiss. NO sex! We stopped talking for a while at one time and I met someone and started dating him. When that ended, the "friend" and I were friends again but he expressed that he was bothered by me dating someone else. I have told him that I care about him but have had no response in regard to that. Fast forward....

This "friend" now works out of town and we haven't seen each other in a month or better and have had the occasional "good morning" text etc. Now he is in town to visit his kids and I'm getting all of these texts with hearts and kissy faces. I'm "baby doll" and "sweety" all of a sudden!! I don't get it! Please help me understand..... Am I being used when it's convenient or does he really care about me? He doesn't communicate at all and I am not really sure what he is after. Are we friends or more?

Any insight from a guys point of view would be awesome? Thanks

P.S. Please go easy on me. I am still fairly new at this dating "game".

No, this is not true for me. If I feel she is not easily attainable, I don't even try. I'm apt to downplay my interest in this case. Most common reasons for this are that I don't see her enough to get to know her well, or she has a lot of guy friends, or she doesn't seem interested. Also, I'm at the point now where I've learned the secrets (which some guys never learn) about how to behave when you're first getting to know a woman, why some women appear "hotter" than others, etc. The answers to these questions have been quite refreshing and humbling, and I now realize I can't go after a girl just because I like her look. That is simply not a valid reason for being interested in a girl by itself, so I don't obsess over girls because of their look anymore. Unfortunately, most of the girls I like (the nice ones) and who like me and are good matches for me always seem to already have boyfriends. I don't like girls who are truly "badass" and mean. I will flirt if I really like a girl, but I don't play games, and hate it when girls do that to me.

Wow.

Nola- You now know what it feels like to be a guy. Suck it up and wait until she...I mean he is ready.

EBFNP- That's a very bold prediction, he is out for sex. Most guys think sex first and relationship second, don't act so surprised. But if we want to have sex with someone it doesn't mean that we don't want a relationship with them. It means we are attracted to them, and that is needed for any relationship.

Christine- Some people play games, and some guys actually have a tough time making a move on a girl. I know lots of guys who will not contact someone too much because they don't want to come off as needy, or they are just shy. Some are just lazy. If guys don't make a move it doesn't always mean that they don't like you.

tx_angel- Guys are jealous creatures. Sometimes when we see you with someone else it raises your stock. When we see other people that want you it makes us want you more. We can't help it. I'm not saying he only likes you because you were with someone else but it may have made him look at you different.

oh he KNOWS! he just wants to take it slow, be friends first. I never thought I would say this but what the hell lol.
when u want a sensitive guy all I got was *kitten*. now.... IDK! lol

Eh, just show him your boobs and get it over with XD

Yep. That's what I do. Works every time. :laugh:

Wow.

Nola- You now know what it feels like to be a guy. Suck it up and wait until she...I mean he is ready.

EBFNP- That's a very bold prediction, he is out for sex. Most guys think sex first and relationship second, don't act so surprised. But if we want to have sex with someone it doesn't mean that we don't want a relationship with them. It means we are attracted to them, and that is needed for any relationship.

Christine- Some people play games, and some guys actually have a tough time making a move on a girl. I know lots of guys who will not contact someone too much because they don't want to come off as needy, or they are just shy. Some are just lazy. If guys don't make a move it doesn't always mean that they don't like you.

tx_angel- Guys are jealous creatures. Sometimes when we see you with someone else it raises your stock. When we see other people that want you it makes us want you more. We can't help it. I'm not saying he only likes you because you were with someone else but it may have made him look at you different.

Ok- This is guy is obviously not shy. Therefore, at the very least he is insecure if he is worried about her dating other men. Secure men and women don't get routinely jealous of potential other suitors. If he wants to date her, then he should pursue her like a gentlemen. Most guys who like a girl is nervous in their interactions and will do things to IMPRESS her not send random text messages. My verdict is he is just stringing her a long just in case another situation doesn't work.

Wow.

Nola- You now know what it feels like to be a guy. Suck it up and wait until she...I mean he is ready.

EBFNP- That's a very bold prediction, he is out for sex. Most guys think sex first and relationship second, don't act so surprised. But if we want to have sex with someone it doesn't mean that we don't want a relationship with them. It means we are attracted to them, and that is needed for any relationship.

Christine- Some people play games, and some guys actually have a tough time making a move on a girl. I know lots of guys who will not contact someone too much because they don't want to come off as needy, or they are just shy. Some are just lazy. If guys don't make a move it doesn't always mean that they don't like you.

tx_angel- Guys are jealous creatures. Sometimes when we see you with someone else it raises your stock. When we see other people that want you it makes us want you more. We can't help it. I'm not saying he only likes you because you were with someone else but it may have made him look at you different.

Ok- This is guy is obviously not shy. Therefore, at the very least he is insecure if he is worried about her dating other men. Secure men and women don't get routinely jealous of potential other suitors. If he wants to date her, then he should pursue her like a gentlemen. Most guys who like a girl is nervous in their interactions and will do things to IMPRESS her not send random text messages. My verdict is he is just stringing her a long just in case another situation doesn't work.

Yes, agreed. If you have the balls to say these things you're not shy.

Roadie, good to know.

He's not sure what he wants. I'd leave him alone.

this. I think when a guy wants something he will go out and get it. and

^^ Why would you have that kind of discussion via text? You talk about how mean some of his comments were. You don't think refering to telling another guy you had to resolve your "friend" situation doesn't come off as belittling and condescending? You probably both insulted each other more than you would have in a phone or in-person conversation.