Vacation Quandary
jesusHchris
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I was just given recognition at work that comes with a bonus - an all-inclusive luxury cruise for two from Istanbul to Athens, including airfare and some off ship activities. It is pretty awesome.
I'm single but was "dating" someone regularly until about 30 minutes ago. I invited her. That spurred an interesting conversation and now I am dating no one. That was definitely not an outcome I had foreseen, but such is life.
Anyway, I now have 8 days until I need to confirm the name of my guest. Should I go on a mad dating spree and just invite the first hot fun girl I meet? I really think it would be more enjoyable with a female companion for the week. The cruise is private - meaning it is only others from my company - so it's not like there will be any opportunity for me to meet someone there.
What would you do?
I'm single but was "dating" someone regularly until about 30 minutes ago. I invited her. That spurred an interesting conversation and now I am dating no one. That was definitely not an outcome I had foreseen, but such is life.
Anyway, I now have 8 days until I need to confirm the name of my guest. Should I go on a mad dating spree and just invite the first hot fun girl I meet? I really think it would be more enjoyable with a female companion for the week. The cruise is private - meaning it is only others from my company - so it's not like there will be any opportunity for me to meet someone there.
What would you do?
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Did you "break up" because you invited her? Sorry, I'm nosy! You don't have to answer that.
If it was me, rather than invite the first man I could come across I'd invite a friend or family member. If there is really no one in those categories who I would then I would just go alone and hang with my coworkers/have a week of frigging me time because that would be great too.
Most women are going to think it is weird you're inviting them on a cruise when you've just met...even if it is totally legitimate.0 -
I agree with most women thinking it would be a weird date when you are just getting to know eachother. Do you have any girls that friend zoned you that you like? This would be a good oppurtunity to change that. Otherwise take if you have a good friend or brother or sister they would be the one I would invite to go along.0
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I will step up and take one for the team. I understand that it is important for you and therefore, I'm in! :flowerforyou:0
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I volunteer!!! :flowerforyou: :blushing:
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I'd take a friend.. ya never know, there might be another chick who just broke up with her bf and had to invite her super hot bff...
Or you can invite... ME.0 -
I volunteer!!! :flowerforyou: :blushing:
I volunteered first! First come, first serve! Plus you have a bf! :laugh:0 -
Could get interesting. Maybe invite a female friend or someone you've known for a while, preferably one that's single and hot.
Other than that I think it would be pretty tough to find a lady to commit to a cruise with someone they've known for 8 days or less. But if you can pull that off, you're the man.0 -
Did you "break up" because you invited her? Sorry, I'm nosy! You don't have to answer that.
We've been seeing each other for 3 months, sleep overs, not seeing anyone else, all that, so 7 days together didn't seem like such a wild stretch. She mentioned that she likes to go out and "get crazy" and because I've sort of moved on from that phase in my life that she doesn't see "us" going anywhere. Basically me not drinking, I'd like to think I'm still fun. Then a bunch of vague BS sort of baiting me to break it off, so I did. I'm not dishing out marriage proposals, but I'd rather spend my time with someone excited to be around me.
I think you guys are probably right about the 8 days being too little time. I'm sure I could find a girl to go, but it would basically be prostitution at this point.
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I don't think you would want someone you just met going with you, so I'd ask someone you already know... you don't want some chicks crazy coming out on your work trip.0
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Or a hooker... that could be fun!0
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I don't think you would want someone you just met going with you, so I'd ask someone you already know... you don't want some chicks crazy coming out on your work trip.
Yeah, I thought about that. Unfortunately, it's also the reason why I don't want any of my friends going. A hooker might actually be less of a risk than any of them. 0 -
I don't think you would want someone you just met going with you, so I'd ask someone you already know... you don't want some chicks crazy coming out on your work trip.
Yeah, I thought about that. Unfortunately, it's also the reason why I don't want any of my friends going. A hooker might actually be less of a risk than any of them.
I just want to say again... I'm not crazy... Well, let's say I know when to act crazy and when not to 0 -
I just want to say again... I'm not crazy... Well, let's say I know when to act crazy and when not to
How you doin'?
Sadly, Cedar Rapids is a little bit out of my dating circle. 0 -
Hmmm thats a tough one. I would say ask another girl friend or at least someone you have known for a while, maybe someone you have flirted with in the past.....You never know it could turning into something interesting! Good luck!0
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Take someone you get along with that you trust (male or female). forget about getting laid. .you can do that anytime, anywhere. . It's a fantastic opportunity to see some amazing and interesting history. . . Take your mom!.
Or. . . Put it up for auction on the MFP forums here and see who makes the best offer. . Have a GIF tournament.0 -
I don't think you would want someone you just met going with you, so I'd ask someone you already know... you don't want some chicks crazy coming out on your work trip.
Yeah, I thought about that. Unfortunately, it's also the reason why I don't want any of my friends going. A hooker might actually be less of a risk than any of them.
Grab a FWB and take em with you....Usually a FWB already knows the score with you and she plus you already know you can hang out with her without wanting to pitch her overboard..........0 -
Grab a FWB and take em with you....Usually a FWB already knows the score with you and she plus you already know you can hang out with her without wanting to pitch her overboard..........
No FWBs in the picture.
I think I'm going to invite my mom or a coworker who didn't make the cut and save the banging for another time, like suggested above.
Later folks!0 -
Grab a FWB and take em with you....Usually a FWB already knows the score with you and she plus you already know you can hang out with her without wanting to pitch her overboard..........
No FWBs in the picture.
I think I'm going to invite my mom or a coworker who didn't make the cut and save the banging for another time, like suggested above.
Later folks!
Awesome plan.
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bringing mom is always a good plan.0
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1 - Coworker: Most companies I've worked for don't allow this. You have to earn your invite (e.g. by meeting your sales quota, or whatever), and hence companies usually frown upon inviting people from within the company who weren't also formally invited. But if you can do this, sounds like a good option.
2 - Random girl you don't really know: A friend of mine did this once. Once. Turned into a disaster. He's a good looking guy, no prob getting women. He was around 32 at the time, brought a 24 year old girl. Very hot. She had previously dated the drummer in a well known band (not going to say the name), and had a child with him. Long story short, she more or less did what you'd expect a 24-year old ex-groupie to do. Which is fine for a night, but not when you're stuck with her for a week (or in that case, 4 days). Bottom line, it's a risk. Especially if she insults key people within your company, or (worse) their wives/husbands/girlfriends/etc.
3 - Guy friend: this is who my friend (mentioned above) invited to later award trips, usually a high school or college friend. They spent the time drinking together and picking up women, avoiding most of the formal company events. Worked well when we were in China, Turkey, Portugal, Brazil, etc. However, if you're stuck on a boat, might not be the best option. And you wouldn't want your bud sleeping with the wife of your boss, etc.
Good luck.
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1 - Coworker:
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Excellent advice all around. I actually don't know the policy on #1, I will check it out!0 -
<- single, LOVES history, travel addict, could use a sunny trip before moving to the arctic...0
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I'll go, and I'm only six hours away or so :laugh:0
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Did you "break up" because you invited her? Sorry, I'm nosy! You don't have to answer that.
We've been seeing each other for 3 months, sleep overs, not seeing anyone else, all that, so 7 days together didn't seem like such a wild stretch. She mentioned that she likes to go out and "get crazy" and because I've sort of moved on from that phase in my life that she doesn't see "us" going anywhere. Basically me not drinking, I'd like to think I'm still fun. Then a bunch of vague BS sort of baiting me to break it off, so I did. I'm not dishing out marriage proposals, but I'd rather spend my time with someone excited to be around me.
I think you guys are probably right about the 8 days being too little time. I'm sure I could find a girl to go, but it would basically be prostitution at this point.
just wanna say this girl sounds like an idiot for not seeing a future with someone who doesnt drink or parties like an animal.
i live in new orleans, its hard to find a guy who is tame. most of them have drinking and partying as their #1 priority.
oh well. hope u have fun no matter who you end up taking 0 -
Well, I met a guy, had a 3 day date/relationship, cos we clicked immediately, and if he asked me to go away with him, I'd go!! Actually, I'd jump at the chance. What woman wouldnt?? (assuming she can get time off work etc)
Therefore, I'd opt for the dating frenzy and see where the chips fall :bigsmile:
Why does everyone think that all new girlfriends are crazy, undignified, uncouth embarrassments with little humility or decorum?? :laugh:0 -
LOL! Good one!
Also, inviting mom would be an awesome thing to do. Aww.
PS - If you change your mind on the "mom" gig..... HOW YOU DOIN'?????? 0 -
It's funny because I would say yes, most women would think it was odd you'd invite them on a trip after knowing them such a short amount of time. I met a guy in December and one the first date he wanted me to go to Mexico in 2 months with him - like he kept saying 'when we go to Mexico' it was soooo creepy!
That being said, my last LTR (we dated 9 months, found out he had an addiction)... We went out on 3 dates over a course of 2 weeks, and for date 4 I flew to Vegas for 3 nights to meet him on a work trip. I was so nervous to go from 0 to 60 so soon that I was pretty much blasted the whole time. We laughed about it all the time.... I can't believe I did it, wow!
If she 'baited' you to break up with her over things like you not wanting to drink.. thank your lucky stars! I would have been like 'tell me when to pack my bags I will be there!!' 3 months is long enough to take a cruise together IMO.0 -
just wanna say this girl sounds like an idiot for not seeing a future with someone who doesnt drink or parties like an animal.
i live in new orleans, its hard to find a guy who is tame. most of them have drinking and partying as their #1 priority.
oh well. hope u have fun no matter who you end up taking
Agree with this. It's so hard to find a man that doesn't want to bar hop around here.
I also agree about not asking a new "acquaintance". I had a man approach me about something similar on a second date. He and his family were going on a cruise 3 months later and the tickets were a buy one get one free kind of deal. While I understood the sentiment, it was just way too much too soon.0 -
Guys inviting a girl to an overnight anything- especially a cruise says "sex" so I can see why someone you just met wouldn't want to go. I can also see why a girl who knows it's going nowhere wouldn't want to go.
What I don't get is why in one post you say whoever comes it's just prostitution and in another say you have no FWBs.as if that's not what you want. So what you're saying is, you want us to tel you how to find some random girl who's crazy enough to go have sex with some guy she doesn't know in exchange for a vacay.
Good luck with that. Any girl who would do it is probably gonna leave you hurting in more ways than one.
I agree with P: points 1-3 match what I've seen too. On the cruises I've been on unless it's a singles cruise, I rarely found single guys and often run into other single girls who didn't realize there would be no unattached men. From what I read, bringing a guy buddy sounds like a good match for you.
I hesitate to recommend a platonic girl friend because, unless I'm reading you wrong, sounds like you intend to get drunk and get some and if she ends up being the one you "get" it might destroy your friendship when she doesn't realize this meant nothing.
I wouldn't. Why do you write that like it's "wrong" to feel that way? Different strokes for different folks. Especially in THIS case... Even if I was ok with having sex outside of marriage, I wouldn't jump at the opportunity to, in his own words, be basically a prostitute.Well, I met a guy, had a 3 day date/relationship, cos we clicked immediately, and if he asked me to go away with him, I'd go!! Actually, I'd jump at the chance. What woman wouldn't??
I get the no drinking thing (even though I wish it weren't that way) because many guys don't want to get involved with a girl who doesn't drink. Could be AA. Could be too prudish. Could be too controlling. Could be they're a party pooper. Could be they're none of those things but that's just what guys assume.
How about taking one of the girls you're flirting with online? Or someone from this (or other fourms) you've at least interacted with for a few months in some format and who would be happy to do something exciting like this? I understand that a lot of people online hate to "get real" but what's the worst that can happen?0
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