"Desexualizing self" and clothing (men)
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If you are over 25 do not dress like either of those guys. Sorry Christine that is not a look for mature guys.
Fithealthyfor,
You need to take advice on here with a grain of salt. Some girls would probably love to dress you up in skinny jeans and a turtleneck and others will dress you up in a flannel and cargo shorts. I'd say take some of their advice but keep your style unique to what you feel comfortable in.
Invest in some good jeans. Even expensive jeans can be tight in the crotch area and uncomfortable. You really need to shop around for some that are comfortable yet stylish. Not too baggy and not too tight, and for the love of god don't join the skinny jean trend, hopefully it doesn't last long. Nice jeans don't have to be expensive, I used to love 7 For all Mankind, but their quality has really gone down for expensive jeans. Shop around.
T-shirts are actually pretty tough to buy. I've bought hundreds of them and most of them don't fit right. They are wither too short, too wide, sometimes you'll need a medium and sometimes you'll need an extra large, completely unpredictable. These days I almost exclusively wear American Apparel t-shirts. The usually fit me perfectly and are pretty soft, though a little more expensive. But it is better than wasting money on shirts that don't fit. My point is stick with brands you can trust that will fit you well.
If you're relatively slim, stick with button down shirts that are slim fit/trim fit/modern fit (every store seems to call it something different). Regular fit shirts are ALWAYS too baggy for me. Most places make wrinkle free/non-iron shirts that will save you a ton of time ironing.
Deck shoes with shorts seem to be in again, but I can't wear shoes without socks, my feet sweat too bad. I just wear sandals (without socks). Invest in a pair of really nice and stylish pair of shoes for going out in, maybe even for work. Girls like shoes.
Some women will probably say you shouldn't wear cargo shorts. They're fine, they're just a bit more casual.
Just don't wear hats unless you are going to a baseball game or golfing. But don't wear one if you plan on being inside later. People are anal for whatever reason about wearing hats inside, you'll probably offend some overly sensitive fool or you can take it off and have hat head.
Roadie I think she meant the way those 2 models were dressed...... I love a man in jeans and a t-shirt... But the 2 younger models looked like justin beiber wanna bes not attractive in grown men at all0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.0 -
Roadie I think she meant the way those 2 models were dressed...... I love a man in jeans and a t-shirt... But the 2 younger models looked like justin beiber wanna bes not attractive in grown men at all0
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Clothes don't sexualize nor desexualize you? I disagree.
When I wake up in the morning in sweats and a tee I would be hard pressed to find anyone who thinks "that's hot." When I put effort into my apperance it is a little different.
If a woman dresses more womanly I'm sure she gets more attention the same way if a man dresses more manly.0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Thank goodness, some of you agree that these outfits are horrible.......I thought it was just because I am older than many of you0 -
I can't believe this thread has gone on for 4 pages. Jeans (Levis are good) and a nice fitting t-shirt- done:drinker:0
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I can't believe this thread has gone on for 4 pages. Jeans (Levis are good) and a nice fitting t-shirt- done:drinker:
100% agree!0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Okay, but only to see you naked.0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Thank goodness, some of you agree that these outfits are horrible.......I thought it was just because I am older than many of you
Yeah, not to be a jerk to whoever posted that... it just doesn't say "Man" to me.0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Okay, but only to see you naked.
Why would you want to see anyone who would wear this naked?0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Okay, but only to see you naked.
Why would you want to see anyone who would wear this naked?
lol if it were poncho we would assume he had been kidnapped and forced into those clothes0 -
I've no idea how old you are, but this is do-able for the average man. You can certainly tone down the color but he has a good rhythm going. Plain tee-shirt with a cardigan/button-down over it, well-tailored pants and a great shoe.
Yeah. If I ever saw me in these clothes, I'd punch myself in the face.
If you ever see me in an outfit like this, please burn it off of me!
Okay, but only to see you naked.
Why would you want to see anyone who would wear this naked?
To not see them in those clothes anymore.
Besides, just because they have bad taste doesn't mean they have bad bodies.0 -
Well four pages later the moral of the story is: we all like different things.
I don't think every man should dress like the photos I posted but I do think that style is attractive TO ME. I posted the photos to show how one man puts an outfit together. See the great elements of his style? Undershirt, with a button up or jacket or cardigan over it with a good fitted pair of pants (not Dad jeans like 80% of men wear) and a good shoe. Even if you're 40 you can take those basic elements and look great as you are.
I wish more men cared about their style. Men you can wear pink, purple, yellow. You can wear accessories. You can care about your style and not be labeled "gay" or "feminine" for caring about what you wear.0 -
Well four pages later the moral of the story is: we all like different things.
I don't think every man should dress like the photos I posted but I do think that style is attractive TO ME. I posted the photos to show how one man puts an outfit together. See the great elements of his style? Undershirt, with a button up or jacket or cardigan over it with a good fitted pair of pants (not Dad jeans like 80% of men wear) and a good shoe. Even if you're 40 you can take those basic elements and look great as you are.
I wish more men cared about their style. Men you can wear pink, purple, yellow. You can wear accessories. You can care about your style and not be labeled "gay" or "feminine" for caring about what you wear.
Christine I think the reason alot of us dislike this looks is its not what we find attractive in men...Its a much younger style..And no not every man can pull off pink ,yellow or orange..It has nothing to do with being feminine and everything to do with skin tone....... Also unless theres a flood men should not be rollin up the bottome of therir pants.....
Remember also that all of us live in different parts of the world.. In Florida teeny booper kids and douchb@gs dress like that ...... Men can rock jeans and a t-shirt all day or a more upscaled slacks, t-shirt ect..... but Please and this goes to everyone dress age appropriate... I'm not saying wear "mom' or "dad" clothes but watching my kids 70 yr old grandma come out of the house in a hot pink tube top hurt.... Men in their late 20's who dress like the pictures look like they haven't grown up0 -
I think fashion in England is different to America, but universally HOW jeans fit is key! And good fitting jeans dont come out of o grocery store here!! :noway: You need to buy some Levi's or Diesel or Armani or some cool brand name popular in America?? I dont really know what works out there, but here, you can definitely tell if a guy is wearing a shop brand rather than a designer brand.... We have specialist jeans shops where the guys find the best fitting jeans possible. Go to one of those (if they exist out there?) and ask for shoppers assistance.
OMG Anna where did you get the idea we get jeans at a grocery store? America is the land of jeans. All the brands you listed above are jeans that we wear. Levi's are sold at all the places he mentioned but it is a good idea to find a shop that has jean fittings.
:laugh: Sorry, I wasnt meaning to be insulting. I think someone mentioned Walmart?? Isnt that a grocery store (supermarket)?? lol
We get store branded jeans here. Like you can pick up a pair of jeans in Tesco etc - our biggest supermarket (equivalent to Walmart, I think?) with clothes departments. But you wouldn't be able to get designer brands in there as they are just cheap (and ill fitting). I think that's where you would get the Dad jeans!! :laugh:0 -
I think fashion in England is different to America, but universally HOW jeans fit is key! And good fitting jeans dont come out of o grocery store here!! :noway: You need to buy some Levi's or Diesel or Armani or some cool brand name popular in America?? I dont really know what works out there, but here, you can definitely tell if a guy is wearing a shop brand rather than a designer brand.... We have specialist jeans shops where the guys find the best fitting jeans possible. Go to one of those (if they exist out there?) and ask for shoppers assistance.
OMG Anna where did you get the idea we get jeans at a grocery store? America is the land of jeans. All the brands you listed above are jeans that we wear. Levi's are sold at all the places he mentioned but it is a good idea to find a shop that has jean fittings.
:laugh: Sorry, I wasnt meaning to be insulting. I think someone mentioned Walmart?? Isnt that a grocery store (supermarket)?? lol
We get store branded jeans here. Like you can pick up a pair of jeans in Tesco etc - our biggest supermarket (equivalent to Walmart, I think?) with clothes departments. But you wouldn't be able to get designer brands in there as they are just cheap (and ill fitting). I think that's where you would get the Dad jeans!! :laugh:
A lot of super walmarts also have a grocery section, but they are primarily a.... kind of "everything" store haha! There is clothes, pharmacy, craft, kids, gardening, auto, etc.0 -
I think fashion in England is different to America, but universally HOW jeans fit is key! And good fitting jeans dont come out of o grocery store here!! :noway: You need to buy some Levi's or Diesel or Armani or some cool brand name popular in America?? I dont really know what works out there, but here, you can definitely tell if a guy is wearing a shop brand rather than a designer brand.... We have specialist jeans shops where the guys find the best fitting jeans possible. Go to one of those (if they exist out there?) and ask for shoppers assistance.
We get store branded jeans here. Like you can pick up a pair of jeans in Tesco etc - our biggest supermarket (equivalent to Walmart, I think?) with clothes departments. But you wouldn't be able to get designer brands in there as they are just cheap (and ill fitting). I think that's where you would get the Dad jeans!! :laugh:
They sell jeans in different flavours (straight, bootcut, slim, worker, etc.) and with the waist and leg size written somewhere on the label (so, they have different combinations of these e.g. W32 L32, W32 L30 or W30 L32), and well... you just try them on to make sure they fit properly too.
I have never (or barely ever) bought branded clothing. Unless the brands have started using magical cloth instead of the same cheap Chinese factories as everyone else is using since the last time I checked, you are still just basically paying for the label (and arguably better designs - copied by the others, cheaper shops within weeks).
I suppose, though, that if you go out in an environment where everyone is just talking about their latest acquisition of a designer jean (i.e. a very fashion conscious or brand conscious environment), it might be a good idea to invest in a more expensive pair.0 -
I think fashion in England is different to America, but universally HOW jeans fit is key! And good fitting jeans dont come out of o grocery store here!! :noway: You need to buy some Levi's or Diesel or Armani or some cool brand name popular in America?? I dont really know what works out there, but here, you can definitely tell if a guy is wearing a shop brand rather than a designer brand.... We have specialist jeans shops where the guys find the best fitting jeans possible. Go to one of those (if they exist out there?) and ask for shoppers assistance.
We get store branded jeans here. Like you can pick up a pair of jeans in Tesco etc - our biggest supermarket (equivalent to Walmart, I think?) with clothes departments. But you wouldn't be able to get designer brands in there as they are just cheap (and ill fitting). I think that's where you would get the Dad jeans!! :laugh:
They sell jeans in different flavours (straight, bootcut, slim, worker, etc.) and with the waist and leg size written somewhere on the label (so, they have different combinations of these e.g. W32 L32, W32 L30 or W30 L32), and well... you just try them on to make sure they fit properly too.
I have never (or barely ever) bought branded clothing. Unless the brands have started using magical cloth instead of the same cheap Chinese factories as everyone else is using since the last time I checked, you are still just basically paying for the label (and arguably better designs - copied by the others, cheaper shops within weeks).
I suppose, though, that if you go out in an environment where everyone is just talking about their latest acquisition of a designer jean (i.e. a very fashion conscious or brand conscious environment), it might be a good idea to invest in a more expensive pair.
In the US there is a store called Target that has designer collaborations. They have sold Missoni, Luella, Proenza Schouler, Rodarte, Zac Posen and Isaac Mizrahi at reasonable prices for a short period of time. My favorite jeans for a woman actually are American Eagle jeans. They make my butt look awesome.
In the US there are actually a lot of good looking mid-priced jeans around the $35-$50 range so buying designer jeans really isn't something that is a norm.0 -
I have never (or barely ever) bought branded clothing. Unless the brands have started using magical cloth instead of the same cheap Chinese factories as everyone else is using since the last time I checked, you are still just basically paying for the label (and arguably better designs - copied by the others, cheaper shops within weeks).0