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Losing Weight and Losing Friends

Mills1580
Mills1580 Posts: 4
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During my weight loss journey thus far I have unfortunately noticed that as I lose weight, I have also started to lose people in my life. My boyfriend, gone. My bestfriend, gone. The loss of important people in my life has also derailed my weight loss in the past few months. Have any of you noticed any changes in your social/personal life as you lose weight?

Speak on it!!!

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  • Adc7225
    Adc7225 Posts: 1,318 Member
    Wow! I was thinking of posting the same question. I know some people change (usually for the worst) when they lose weight but I just started this to get healthy not cute or hot or anything, but those are the comments that I hear and hurt the most especially when the come from those that we think of as close friends.

    I too lost my best friend and lover . . . I guess due to the weight change, we started this together but we chose different methods - like the hare and the tortoise.

    The loses have resulted in some moments of depression but that shirt of motivates me even more, I guess they weren't relationships that were meant for the long run.

    I wonder if this is a result of people's natural inclination to avoid or resist change, while that should not apply to relationships maybe it does.

    You are not alone in experiencing this unwelcome change
  • dfcdiva514
    dfcdiva514 Posts: 4 Member
    Hello ladies.

    Although I have not experienced this kind of loss, I am of the mind that there are people who are ordained for your life,and those who are meant for you, are for you. Even though I know loss hurts, you only want people around you who can encourage, reinforce and accept you as your "best" self.

    Even if your intent was to get "your sexy back or be hot" the result would also be a healthier, happier you and "real friends" would rejoice with you. So give yourself permission to mourn the losses, but keep on moving.

    I have found that I have gained new connections by walking in the park, working out in the gym or shopping the healthier sections of the supermarket. You find yourself striking up conversations about recipes, exercises and common goals, because sometimes they are shocked that this 238 lb. girl is so knowledgeable.

    You will find the positve connections that are meant for you. Show yourself friendly and it will come.

    Peace and Blessings

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