I have a child already but I battle this ALL THE TIME. It seems to be worse lately, as I am approaching 35 (my birthday is in a little over a month). I am okay with it but sometimes (okay, all the time) I just wish I knew whether I was going to have another one or not. Then I could plan accordingly. I now have totally normal cycles for the past six months or so but so far, nothing. My husband is okay with just "trying" until I go through menopause (I guess) and if it happens, it happens. It is very emotionally draining for me though. Right there with you!

I had my son when I was 34, a month after I turned 34 to be exact. We had totally given up. I prayed and gave it over to God. It's been 3 years. I'm really at the point were I've given up again. I'm pushing another appointment to September to talk about Clomid. But right now, I'm leaving it to God.

Don't give up! I understand.. I had my son when I was 21. Then we went 4 years with nothing.. So we came to terms with just having 1 kid. I started losing weight. Lost 90 lbs and felt great! Then BAM! I find out I am preggo with my daughter.. I had been put on metformin to help my cycles,, I was only ovulating every six months. Loosing all that weight got me regular and did the trick I guess. While pregnant with her I gained 60 lbs.. Then my marriage fell a part and I got depressed and didn't care to get back the body I had worked so hard to get. I met an amazing man and got married.. He really wants more babies. I am 33 and I knew that with out getting back under 200 lbs I would never be able to have more.. He is Catholic so we do NFP and OMG it has helped me understand my body soo much.. In the last 2 months I have lost 23 lbs. We are on cycle 2 of Clomid, I actually ovulated last month and my temping chart looked great.. I tried Clomid before a year ago but because I was getting close to 250 it didn't work. I am now at 223.. There is hope! Please feel free to add me

I will NEVER accept that I will not conceive. NEVER EVER. However, I have accepted that maybe it's just not going to happen for now. It may not happen ever, but I will not give up HOPE. My husband and I are (so close to) becoming foster/adoptive parents. We've always had a passion for adoption....even before we knew each other, so we're excited. We're letting conception happen if it will, as we aren't using BC, but we aren't doing any fertility treatments. We are both losing more weight, to increase our chances of conception, so it could happen, but we're not holding our breath. We may explore fertility treatments later on after we've lost more weight and such. :-) Never give up hope, but always be realistic. :-)

Hi,

I had similar issues and struggled for 10 years to conceive. My fertility dr told me once to just think about adoption because as of then, I wouldn't be able to have a child on my own.And even I were to get pregnant, I would more than likely miscarry. My only sister has 5 (a girl and TWO sets of twin boys).

I balled my eyes out when I left the drs office. How can one sibling be that blessed and the other get nothing? My sister said she would carry the baby for me. Lo and behold about a month after we decided on this plan, she had volunteer partial hysterectomy. She had some tumors and was afraid she'd get cancer as that ran in our family.

Well, there went that plan. I was devastated. My only hope was gone.

I was kept on birth control pills to help regulate my cycles, but they were always unpredictable and when they did come, they were very light and lasted about 1.5 days.

All of my friends had kids by the time I was 30. I was "a hater" and it killed me to go to family or friends' functions because I'm either going to get asked when I'm having one or have to be hearing motherly conversations that I couldn't be a part of.

I had a friend that confided in me that she willingly terminated her pregnancy because she wasn't ready.

I kept asking God why do you give the ability to women that don't want it and take it away from those of us that want it so desperately? I just couldn't understand.

I am from a small town and was literally the only woman my age that didn't have a child. I was a freak in some sorts. I went into a severe depression. I just kept playing it off saying that I traveled a lot with my job and couldn't meet Mr. Right that way.

I started dating someone that was adopted and so I warmed up to the idea of adoption. He and I eventually decided to try after I heard of a PCOS study being performed by the university in the big city. All expenses paid. I figured, what the hell.

Well, there was criteria in order to be selected. I needed to be "healthy-enough". I was obese at 5-1 and 180 lbs. I decided I wanted to do whatever was in my power to help this dream along. I lost 40 lbs and was able to get accepted. We did all the testing and interviewing.

A day before I was supposed to go in for my first treatment, I found out I was pregnant right after my 32nd birthday. I didn't believe it. I hadn't gone to the treatments yet. I literally tried every pregnancy test the stores had to offer. I began reading the instructions, like I didn't know what the plus sign meant.

My son is a true miracle. We had only been intimate the week before. Hadn't been for over 4 months prior to that. I was at the drs office preparing for the study weekly and never pregnant. The pregnancy tests showed positive one week after having sex. That was crazy to me. I was in disbelief.

I called the university and told them I was pregnant and they laughed and said they see that a lot. When the woman gives up the stress of doing it on her own and thinking well this study is going work, so I can relax now.

I think 2 things happened:

1-I was stressing way too much and it caused me to not get pregnant. I kept trying to do this myself (yes, I know a man is involved, but you get the point).

When I 'let go", God was like, "Finally , now I can take over!"

2- I think one should "give it to God". HOWEVER, I do think we have to do our part. I have a friend that was in the same boat as I was, but she still eats horribly and is excessively overweight. She keeps praying, but doesn't do what she can to help the situation. There is a story in the bible about preparing for rain. Galatians 4:22-23: Preparing for the rain! That is exactly what we all must do.

There were two farmers, neighbors, both praying for rain for their crops - for their livelihood.
After praying, one farmer waited for the rain; the other farmer went to his field and started preparing for rain. Which one do you think had the greater faith?

If you do the possible, God will do the impossible.

I can honestly say, I would still be childless if I didn't take the responsibility in my own hands and stop blaming God, depression, tough work schedules, upbringing, etc on why I couldn't and even one else could. I had to meet God halfway.

My son is 19 months and I'm 34 yrs old. I am overjoyed with one miracle child. Don't want to get greedy now.

I don't think you should ever give up what is so strong in your heart. You should take every opportunity within your power to make it possible and prepare for rain!

Just to update from my last post....about two weeks after I posted the original response in March, I discovered I was pregnant and now we're expecting the arrival of our daughter in a couple of weeks. Now my husband is all about having a 'basketball team'...and I'm like 'whoaaa big fella'. lol Looking back, I believe just letting go of the pressure/stress of trying gave us the extra boost we needed.

My husband and I have been trying for over a year with no luck. I have ovulation issues and long cycles. He went through chemo and if effected his swimmers. The chances of us conceiving are pretty slim. I've been on clomid for the last few months. I am on my 4th cycle now with 2 more left. Once clomid is over, I will be going back to ovulating ever 2-3 months. We might call it quits after the last round of clomid. Well, we won't really stop trying but will go from actively trying to not trying but not preventing.

I need to try to lose some weight to help my ovulation issues. Being as overweight as I am, it's a big factor to not ovulating every month. Once clomid is over, I need to be able to ovulate on my own. I hope I can do this.

Hi Ladies, Firstly don't quit trying to achieve your dream. 10 years my husband & i were trying to conceive (from when our daughter was 2) I could sit here and tell you all day about how the medical team nearly killed me because i wanted a baby so bad.
from liver damage, kidney damage, stuffing up in surgery during my D&C to wrong medication. it took me just over a year to repair my liver from the birth control pill to regulate my cycles. weekly i'd need blood test. (stay away from Yaz/Yasmin birth control) i went on 300mg clomid, 2000mg metformin to get pregnant. I lost my hair, depression, anxiety got worse, gained weight, got pregnant and miscarried, thyroid screwed up. I was told i needed to lose weight to get pregnant but that it was impossible for a woman with pcos to lose weight and to just accept I'll never lose it and never get pregnant.
I joined a gym in May, have lost alot of weight and guess what? in september and late october i got pregnant (that's right, twice) without any medication. I miscarried very early though because of my thyroid. But at least i know that when i do want a baby (now it's unlikely as I'm sick of being hurt) that i do have a good chance to carry a baby if i get the right medical attention in time.
If you really want it, don't give up. chase the dream and it will come true.