Tomorrow is the first anniversary of me splitting from my ex-fiancee. The year I've had since was as desolate as what the future holds. There IS more than this......isn't there?

Try 6 years..

:brokenheart: :sad: :embarassed:

ETA: Oops I mean 7. 7 years with 2 2-month relationships during that time. I may be a bit picky though. Okay, I'm picky but I also see it as not wanting to settle. So I haven't settled yet. Sure I've had guys that were interested in me, so I COULD HAVE had boyfriends since then but...7 years later...oh well. :drinker:

For me? I highly doubt it. Been on my own this long and it's the only thing I know. But hey, life might surprise me, you never know

Same here!

Ahaha, love it! :laugh:

I've been single my whole life, and I have no idea if there is more than this. Obviously some people do, and I hope OP will too

For me? I highly doubt it. Been on my own this long and it's the only thing I know. But hey, life might surprise me, you never know

same. but also too anxious to really start anything with someone.

This mindset doesn't really make sense to me. I imagine you've been overweight to obese for a long time too. Yet you are here trying to lose weight. If you followed the above reasoning, wouldn't you just say, my body has looked like it does for so long that it's the only thing I know. I doubt it will ever change but life might surprise me?

Tomorrow is the first anniversary of me splitting from my ex-fiancee. The year I've had since was as desolate as what the future holds. There IS more than this......isn't there?

Try 6 years..

:brokenheart: :sad: :embarassed:

ETA: Oops I mean 7. 7 years with 2 2-month relationships during that time. I may be a bit picky though. Okay, I'm picky but I also see it as not wanting to settle. So I haven't settled yet. Sure I've had guys that were interested in me, so I COULD HAVE had boyfriends since then but...7 years later...oh well. :drinker:

Only a fool refuses water when they are thirsty!

Well, I'm not thirsty by any means. To use your analogy..I'd rather wait for a glass of water than settle for the soda

I like being single at times. Granted, if I've broken up with someone it sucks for a while but once I'm over it, it's like a playground for me.

If I'm in my single mindset, it's all about fun and not getting caught up.

I've been single my whole life, and I have no idea if there is more than this. Obviously some people do, and I hope OP will too

For me? I highly doubt it. Been on my own this long and it's the only thing I know. But hey, life might surprise me, you never know

same. but also too anxious to really start anything with someone.

This mindset doesn't really make sense to me. I imagine you've been overweight to obese for a long time too. Yet you are here trying to lose weight. If you followed the above reasoning, wouldn't you just say, my body has looked like it does for so long that it's the only thing I know. I doubt it will ever change but life might surprise me?

I kind of get what you're saying, but in my mind you can't really compare these two. I haven't been overweight for that long, just trying to get back in shape. There are more things affecting my mindset when it comes relationships than loosing weight and getting healthy

I've been single for three years. . That is, It's been three years since I separated from my ex-wife. In that time I've suffered through many different phases and a multitude of different personality shifts. . I've been through long droughts and periods where I couldn't keep track of their names!

I'm also fairly introverted and so I find it very difficult to cultivate relationships. .especially with men. I think it would be easier to find a woman if I had guy friends to do stuff with but I just don't really know how to do that. .

It's even made more difficult by the fact that I moved, so the friends I had are distant. Also, I work from home, and I quit drinking.

I have dated a lot via match and more recently tinder. .but nothing ever seems to work out as a long-term thing. . partially because everybody lies on those sites and partially because I am focused on parenting my son and most women don't want to play second fiddle in a new relationship.

But one thing I've discoverd is that attitude is EVERYTHING!. . It's bizarre. . Women can sense your confidence through the ether via magic!. If you are feeling badass then women will respond to you if you are feeling downtrodden (like you seem to be) they will run for the hills.

You could write the EXACT same opener to the EXACT same girl at the EXACT same time on the EXACT same day and she will or won't respond based on how you feel about yourself. . I swear it's true. .

So. .the key is to get your badass on. . Get fit. . work hard. . do something worthwhile. . stop wasting time. . don't watch too much porn. . and become someone worth having.

Good luck!

Just deleted my pof account. My worst fears about myself were confirmed in the four days since I joined back up. Gotta forget being heterosexual and find something else to do with my life.

"Relationships" is one of these things were (theoretically) you only need to hit the jackpot once, so there is technically no need for "everyone" to be interested in you (or anyone). Sure it helps, but it's more a case of trial and error (and rejections, especially from a male point of view). All in all, your experience is "fairly standard" though (and I agree that it sucks for our ego).