How's your work relationship with them in general? Do you go to lunch with any of them? Chat or gossip with them? Sometimes food is more about bonding and socializing than eating. Make some chocolate dipped fruit and bring that in.

Yeah I get that.
Because you aren't overweight people seem to assume that you must have some kind of eating disorder if you want to lose weight.
It really gets on my nerves, especially when the guys I live with are saying things like "please don't deny yourself, have this piece of cake". I'm like sorry did you not notice me having a piece 20 mins ago along with the chocolates?
Just because I prefer healthier food doesn't mean I'm depriving myself haha.

I don't get it a lot but if I do then it is often people that seem to be wanting to do what I want to do. Alternatively they are people that see food/snacks as a bonding experience but take that to extreme. I do agree with them to an extend. Sharing food is a bonding experience, and I will go to lunch with my co-workers (I have it pre-packed and we have a good reasonably healthy in-house cafeteria). So maybe they feel you are trying to be not part of their team by declining their food (=bonding offer).

While I agree that the snacks etc are unhealthy and some jealousy may be involved the team and bonding part of it should not be underestimated. So instead of just declining, reciprocate and offer to some of your healthy snacks instead, would that be an option? It is what a co-worker and I have done and nothing is perfect, but there has been a shift. It won't stop the extreme haters though, I doubt anything will..

There are a group of us at the school at which I teach who are really more girlfriends than merely co-workers. We try to get out to lunch or dinner at least 3 or 4 times a year. The last time we went, I ordered grilled salmon and broccoli--no rice, hold the grill baste and the butter, please--and my BFF said, after I had ordered, "Wow. That was difficult." I didn't say anything that day, but it really bugged me. I would never, ever say anything to her about the fact that she was eating a second croissant with her fully loaded, candied-pecan, fried-chicken salad. The following week, I had to tell her how much she hurt my feelings. By her reaction, I don't think she had a clue that it was a snippy thing to say. The others made a few comments, too, like "Maybe if we ate like you, we'd be thin, too."

The thing is I've worked hard to lose weight and be more healthy. I work out at least 6 days a week, and I try to eat cleanly most of the time. My BFF has made comments about wanting to lose weight, and so have some of the others, but none of them are motivated enough to do what has to be done. So, I figure that all the little comments are really about their issues. I'm tempted, though, to order what they order just to avoid the comments. But then I remember something Tyra Banks said:

Never hide your shine for somebody else.

I heard that the first time after my sister-in-law made a really caustic comment when we met to go running one day. She said, "I think you just want me to join you so that you can feel good about yourself." WTF? She had said she wanted to lose weight and take up running; I invited her to meet me for my run. When she got there, she was all defensive about how she was not going to try to keep up with me, etc. And then she said that. I've NEVER, EVER thought I wanted to be around someone just so I'll feel good about myself. I felt so bad about her comment that the thought crossed my mind that maybe I should gain weight to make her feel comfortable around me again. Then, as I was flipping channels, I heard Tyra's "Never hide your shine for somebody else." I refuse to allow other people's insecurities rule my life. I just keep on keeping on.

I get the usual "Please tell me you're not trying to lose more weight?!!" if I happen to mention I'm headed for a run/workout or order a salad (no dressing lol) for lunch.

Um... no, I'm done losing weight, but I need to maintain it and build strength and 1. That means working out and 2. I actually like salad (and I hate dressings)!

I don't discuss my weight numbers at all or even my routine much. I'm 145cm tall (4'9) so my numbers are obviously much, much smaller than anyone who is normal height. Even when I started to lose weight, people would be telling me they'd love to be that size. They didn't take into consideration they were nearly an entire foot taller than me :grumble: 10kg on me is an awful lot different to 10kg on someone of average height.

Ugh. I've been getting this a lot. Mostly from close friends!!

Its really hard and I'm having a hard time dealing with losing a small amount of weight (which is difficult to do!) AND balance not talking to good friends about it. I need support from SOMEONE! I know its my journey and all but its hard when you feel like you have no one in your corner.

Try to find one accountability partner with whom you can be completely honest. Mine is a male who, like me, isn't overweight but is wanting to lose. (His reasons are an upcoming triathlon and health issues.) He's the only person who celebrates all my weight losses, just like I celebrate his. Even my husband isn't nearly as supportive, and forget telling any of my girlfriends about my weight or losses or gains. It's funny: since he's a male, there's no competition or judgment or sabatoging. Just an idea.

Ugh. I've been getting this a lot. Mostly from close friends!!

Its really hard and I'm having a hard time dealing with losing a small amount of weight (which is difficult to do!) AND balance not talking to good friends about it. I need support from SOMEONE! I know its my journey and all but its hard when you feel like you have no one in your corner.

I have always done a lot if things alone- don't know why just have. I usually look up quotes on fitness and strength or for my life in general. Inspiring words help me pull through. Yes, I do have a a supportive group of friends but I still try to rely on words I can recite over and over ( like a mantra). Something positive that aids me in tuning out the negative noise. It's not easy but it makes you even stronger in the end. I think forums like this one is also helpful. You can do it and dont give up. Set your goal and go for it. Your doing it for you and that's a damn good reason. Best!

Ok, I'll admit it, I'm kind of a hater.

I was a fat kid during middle school then it went away after puberty. Afterwards I was "curvy" but never technically overweight as an adult, then I started getting increasingly into fitness and for years now my normal weight has been 10 lbs or so lighter with a lot of muscle and decent body fat. BUT it's like I'm a fat person in a small body! When people comment on how I'm so skinny or how I eat or this and than I'm never offended I just marvel at how I was somehow included in the skinny category. I have made comments to others about how skinny they are, etc. I have toned it down since finding out some find it offensive but I guess I do have some jealousy of skinny people even though some people think I'm one of them. Weird huh? I will continue to work towards being less hateful... :blushing:

I get that too.

It's astonishing how I can get "why won't you eat that, you're thin so you can allow it!" and "you're thin because of your genetics". People can't put two and two together...

I get this all the time whenever I try to lose weight. I don't mind the comments like "You don't need to lose weight, you're so thin!" because I think people are just trying to be nice and compliment you. However, a bunch of my friends ganged up on me recently during a party where I wouldn't eat the snacks provided (chips, cookies, etc.) and told me I was "anorexic" and that a 1200 calorie a day diet is a "starvation diet" and that the human body needs at least 3000 calories a day to survive. Then I was told I was an "idiot" for relying on an iphone app for my health, even after I told them I had cleared it with my doctor. Funny that it's a social taboo to say that someone's being unhealthy when they smoke or eat a ton of junk food, but for some reason it's okay to criticize someone for trying to have a healthier lifestyle?

I also had a friend aggressively confront me by saying that me trying to lose weight is a "slap in the face to all my overweight friends, because I'm not overweight thereby by saying I need to lose weight I'm indirectly telling all of them I think they're fat pigs". Umm, that wasn't what I meant AT ALL (their weight is none of my business). I tried to see it from their point of view, but it did seem like an oversensitivity on their part.

I try not to tell people I'm trying to lose weight, but when people get really pushy on trying to push snacks on me I'll mention it.

I don't get this. I mean, yeah, people might comment on what I am eating or say, "I should just order what you do, clearly, since you're thin." But if I don't take a snack, I don't think anyone notices and if I turn down a cookie they're like-more for me.

But I don't even tell people if I am fasting, or not eating sugar/diary/alcohol/gluten. I think it's annoying to them:grumble:

Yes, I get the same thing all the time. It is exhausting listening and explaining all the time. When I find myself giving in and eating something that everyone is eating, I totally regret it later. Physically and emotionally. I remind myself that I eat the way I do because I want to and I like to. Stay Strong!! Good Luck!!

I get this all the time too, it drives me nuts when someone always has something to say about what I'm eating. I usually get the "oh, you're actually eating something today, I'm proud of you", even though I have a reasonable lunch every day. If I happen to go up a couple pounds people sure love to comment on it too. I try not to let it bother me too much, people just tend to forget that thinner people can feel insecure sometimes too.

Once I was telling my friend about the MFP app's scanning device on my phone because it is super cool. Obviously I had to explain what MFP is. As soon as I said I am tracking my calories she got almost dumbstruck: "Wait, are you /trying/ to lose weight?!"

I mean, I understand that I do not /need/ to lose weight. However, I do want to improve my eating habits, tone up, and be more healthy in general. In order to achieve these goals I need to behave in ways that will inevitably make me lose weight (a.k.a. exercising, eating less, and eating healthier food).

Now I dread telling anyone that I track my calories even though I don't think it is something I should have to be ashamed of.

Do you ever feel ashamed of using MFP?