I personally have found that finding a good active hobby was more helpful to me. For instance, even though I can't afford to go rock climbing every week (much less the 2-3 times it would take to help take the weight off), having a hobby where I can see a difference each time I go because of other training really helps. Then when I'm in the gym or at home, I pick things that help me to climb better next time. It gets really motivating when you notice a specific change in your hobby. Some of my friends love running 5 and 10k races and when they see their time drop it really boosts their spirits. They only go once every 3-6 months, but knowing that the work they are doing at home is going to help them helps add a little more motivation than "being fit" or looking good alone does. Another friend of mine does pageant-like competitions. Not my thing, but for her it really fits her and motivates her to say "no" to those extra few calories. Hope this helps!